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    So i don't drink when i'm not at work. I drink at work a lot!well it's coming to the point where if i don't stop i could get fired. It's so damn hard though. it is like when i drink i am a ton of fun, when i don't i'm shy and boring. how do i get over this?

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    also when i am drunk at work and someone says one thing i go off! I get angry over dumb stuff. it's my attitude, i am a monster!

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    You could try to have a buddy system. Ask one of the dancers you're friendly with to make sure that you don't drink at all, or drink very little. You could also Make a goal for yourself to meet to get something VERY nice for yourself. Better if it's a little pricey. Then you'll want to stay sober to be able to afford it! Without money or your job, it won't be possible.

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    So outside of work you're shy and boring? I think not. You may be under the impression that while drunk at work you're a ton a fun, while others are watching, laughing at you. They must already be talking, since you're concerned about getting fired. Think about it, if you're such a wonderfully fun drunk...why would they fire you...

    Try to set some limits for yourself, like..only one drink per $200 you make. Don't make $200, no drinks for the night ...it's obviously not good enough to be playing around having fun anyway. Reach $400.. cool, good work go ahead and have 1 more drink...etc. This way you stay focused on work and will only end up drunk if it's been a really great $$ night.

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    If you're turning into a mean, nasty "monster," then you are NOT "a ton of fun."

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    Quote Originally Posted by tootsie
    So i don't drink when i'm not at work. I drink at work a lot!well it's coming to the point where if i don't stop i could get fired. It's so damn hard though. it is like when i drink i am a ton of fun, when i don't i'm shy and boring. how do i get over this?
    Alcohol affects the chemistry of the brain - specifically, it restricts output of the chemicals that keep our inhibitions in place. More alcohol = less inhibitions. In drinking, you are having your inhibitions removed - hence you feel you are a "ton of fun". Other people might have a different opinion.

    For sure your club has, or they wouldn't be threatening to fire you. They've either had complaints, or managers consider your behaviour does not reflect well on the reputation of the venue.

    When you are not working and hence not drinking, how do you regard people you see that have drunk too much? If you think; "that idiot", it's probably a fair bet people think the same of you when you're being a "ton of fun" at work.

    If you feel the need to drink at work, it's probably because you are not comfortable dealing with strangers in the very artificial environment of a strip venue. Alcohol then gives you the "confidence" you need. I think you need to analyse why you're not comfortable and try and find solutions not involving alcohol.

    For example, if you feel you're "boring", because you feel you don't have any small talk, read up on current events in a newspaper. If you feel your appearance is "boring" try some different, (and more revealing) costumers or more startling make-up.

    On a more broad front, I've always considered dancers have a fair bit of the actress in them. "Tootsie" is obviously a character a bit diferent from you in real life.

    Why don't you write down a fictional biography for "Tootise" that makes her a really interesting character. Alll you've then got to do is get better and better at playing "Tootsie" every time you go into work.

    What I'd avoid is repeated heavy drinking. Apart from the risk of getting fired, it's not good for your health.

    Phil.

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    You would make more sober- you're just scared to try.

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    i just want to add that many dancers are shy and don't feel comfortable being outgoing with strangers. it may be due to a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes anxiety in public spaces, which is no big deal really. in those cases, alcohol may be used as a way to deal with those issues. but that's not a good idea because alcohol abuse may cause some very deleterious health risks. if you're a dancer and you find that you have difficulty interacting with customers in the public space of the strip club, please go to your primary physician and ask about alternatives to alcohol that will help alleviate your anxieties.

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    You don't need meds if you're shy. I used to be crazy shy.

    I'm not anymore because dancing forced me out of it. Acting as if you're outgoing actually changes the way you are- you become comfortable, if not necessarily outgoing, in social situations through familiarity.

    Well, I did, anyways.

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    [QUOTE=scarlett_vancouver]You don't need meds if you're shy. I used to be crazy shy.
    Hey this was me once as well and my doctor gave me Xanax to go with my alcohol ( really ) - oh wait add effexor for depression then since I couldnt sleep throw in some of those pills as well . They are all bandaids that dont fix the problem .
    I got away from the stress and stopped taking the medications and also quit drinking , I feel much better as a sober asshole now . But at least I am in control of my moods .
    Quit drinking if it contributes to negative results !

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    thank you for all of your comments. i was thinking about antaabuse? i think thats what it's called. It makes you really sick if you drink.

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    I had an incident when I got drunk to the point where I became beligerent to everyone, regardless of what they said or did. Call me a monster for sure!

    This sort of behavior is dangerous, both from physical and long-term health points of view. I quit drinking at home as a result of that.

    Now when I'm in my home club sober, the drunks don't seem that funny at all. In fact, the really trashed ones are just annoying! If you're drunk like they are, people probably see you in that negative way too.

    So for your own sake, I suggest you cut back. Try working the club sober. See how it feels. Try and find a co-worker/friend who can watch you and help you keep from having too many. That support makes it much easier to do.

    Best of luck.

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