Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 27

Thread: The "stage rats"

  1. #1
    Veteran Member DirtyLittleSecret's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    436
    Thanked 237 Times in 123 Posts

    The "stage rats"

    This is silly but I need advise here.

    I went to the SC w/ my 2 female co-workers one night for fun. Well my one co-worker, Jessica knows a girl that worked there. As a joke her friend took her up there and made her dance. It was cute...she was horrible but it was funny. I didnt care and it only lasted one song. None of the girls there cared.
    Now we went back there again about a week ago and this time both co-workers went up and danced & roamed around on stage like morons (and it was a saturday night - aka packed night). But this time for way more then 2 songs. They had to be escorted off by the bouncer! The dancers around me looked annoyed and i wanted to appologize to everyone of them. I was absolutly annoyed by there behavior yet they think they did nothing wrong.They want to go back again and are already talking about going on stage again & what they'll do.
    GRRR! How do i tell them there behavior is offensive to the dancers that work there? I see the girls on the floor get annoyed and since i respect these girls i dont want to be part of that. I would love to go on stage one day but only on an amature night or if i was literally pushed up there. I go and enjoy myself the way its ment to. I respect them and there job. They go cus they apparently think its "play on pole" time. I love them but i dont know how to get it in there head to stop.
    I know its a dumb question but i tryed talking and they think i'm just "no fun". I'm just as annoyed as you all would be. ~L.

  2. #2
    Veteran Member pinupgurl2k6's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    508
    Thanks
    51
    Thanked 20 Times in 18 Posts
    Blog Entries
    27

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Tell them that if they want to dance on stage to set up an audition time with a manager of the SC or say something to one of the managers at the club and have him/her tell them they are not allowed to get up on stage. Sounds like these two should just go buy some shoes a costume and see what it's like to be a dancer maybe then they would understand it's not "play on pole time."

  3. #3
    Glamazon
    Guest

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    It almost sounds like your friends enjoy the attention that they get from being a nuisance. I mean if they've already had to be escorted off the stage by bouncers, they know that what they're doing is not okay. But they're planning on doing it again? Sounds like there's no reasoning with them...I'd find someone else to go to the club with.

  4. #4
    God/dess doc-catfish's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    123 Tornado Alley Way, Hooterville USA
    Posts
    6,322
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 36 Times in 30 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I think I've stated once before about female patrons:

    If you're going to walk into a SC and be a patron, fine by me. But if you're going to a SC to mimic the dancers in any fashion, then I'd suggest one of the following three options:

    1. Take a seat
    2. Take a hike
    3. Fill out an application (or at least hit the club on amateur night)

    I came in to see the professionals at work. Either leave the show business to them or join their ranks.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

  5. #5
    Veteran Member DirtyLittleSecret's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    436
    Thanked 237 Times in 123 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    You guys put it beautifully. Is this a common occurance where you are?

  6. #6
    Veteran Member pheno's Avatar
    Joined
    Dec 2004
    Posts
    215
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I have female friends I don't take to strip clubs for this very reason. I wonder if it's because they're secretly insecure and need to 'prove how cool they are' with the whole scene by acting like fools. Or maybe they're just jerks... I say go with the other girls' advice. Have a third party intervene or just avoid going with them. Good luck.
    "By 'them' do you mean people like me?"

  7. #7
    God/dess threlayer's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2003
    Location
    Syracuse
    Posts
    5,921
    Thanks
    369
    Thanked 419 Times in 290 Posts
    My Mood
    Fine

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    First song is with clothes ON
    Second song is TOPLESS
    Third song is N_U_D_E !

    Have them obey the club rules. That should do it.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

  8. #8
    Yekhefah
    Guest

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    This is just insecurity in action. They see all those guys drooling over beautiful dancers and not them, so they're trying to prove to themselves that they can do it too. All they want is reassurance and validation that they're hot. It's the same as insecure, needy guys who come into the strip club and act like dickheads so someone will pay attention to them. Don't get mad, just feel sorry for them.

  9. #9
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2005
    Location
    VIP Room
    Posts
    1,403
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 77 Times in 43 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I would refuse to go with them. If they go on their own and get kicked out then there's not much you can do. But don't go and be apart of it, even though you're not on stage, by going you're going to get dirty looks from everyone. It's like the saying "guilty by association". That wouldn't be allowed at my club but if a female customer came up on our stage and started dancing, I think every dancer in our club would claw their eyes out and they'd wish they never came to the club. Those girls are either experiencing "dancer wannabe" or are in desperate need of attention.

    Another thing, ask them how they'd like it if someone came into their job/office and started doing their job who wasn't licensed, qualified & didn't even work there. Example, let's say these women are executives and what if some joeblow off the street walked in to their office, sat at their desk, used their phone, their computer, talked to their clients and prevented/got in the way of them making their money. And when escorted out, came back and did it again and only to think it was funny. Tell them this example and see how they would feel, maybe they'll see it a different way. They probably see stripping as not a real job and that we're really doing this for fun and to party, not really to work or make money. *rolls eyes*
    Last edited by leogirl876; 07-04-2006 at 08:31 PM. Reason: additional information added

  10. #10
    Senior Member Luke34's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    Gold Coast
    Posts
    147
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876
    Another thing, ask them how they'd like it if someone came into their job/office and started doing their job who wasn't licensed, qualified & didn't even work there. Example, let's say these women are executives and what if some joeblow off the street walked in to their office, sat at their desk, used their phone, their computer, talked to their clients and prevented/got in the way of them making their money. And when escorted out, came back and did it again and only to think it was funny. Tell them this example and see how they would feel, maybe they'll see it a different way. They probably see stripping as not a real job and that we're really doing this for fun and to party, not really to work or make money. *rolls eyes*
    This is a good analogy.

    It is probably because of the amount of attention any girl gets in a strip club which would be a big draw card. It is an environment in which there are nearly always far more males to females and most males know that it is acceptable to approach any dancer/ female and say hello.

    As in any business there is probably an ettiquette or even a strong unwritten code of behaviour which a female unfamiliar with the environment would be totally oblivious to. For example, when I am chatting or having a drink with a dancer, other dancers will not join my table, unless invited or if there are more males at the table or we have sat down together as a group before.

    You can always say that the club you work at does not encourage visits to any other clubs, (as the management of these clubs are always wary of poaching) and accordingly you cannot accompany them.

  11. #11
    God/dess RoseWhite's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2006
    Location
    On a babymoon.
    Posts
    3,145
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 18 Times in 13 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Luke, I might be mistaken, but I think that Dirty Little Secret is not currently a dancer. Am I correct in this? Not that it matters, her topic is quite valid and her concern about it is appreciated. But your last solution might not work (good idea, though).

    AUGH! I find this kind of behavior SO obnoxious and irritating, just as bad as girls who come into the club and give their boyfriends vigorous humping 'lapdances'. I'm not a violent person at all, but if they're doing this multiple times, I would be neither surprised OR disappointed if they wind up getting their asses kicked. I don't know how you can get this through their heads, that this is not only totally disrespectful but essentially taking money away from the dancers, unless you haven't been totally blunt with them yet. Getting brought up on stage for a very brief interlude, as you described, is one thing. It's meant to be an exception, and the dancer was obviously the one in charge. Unfortunately, this clearly created a monster.

    If you're not a confrontational person by nature, this can be hard, but I would advise you to get very serious with them. Refer to us, even, if you need to. Say that you checked it out with an online forum, and everyone there explained exactly how uncool this is. Explain that getting up there the first time was different, since the dancer directed it and it was very brief, but they can't just do it on their own and go on and on, and if they do, they are both disrespecting us AND basically stealing from us.
    "Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins

    "I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott

  12. #12
    Veteran Member KennedyWinters's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    West Hollywood, CA
    Posts
    225
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Okay...I honestly think it's funny. I don't take this "job" too seriously and could hardly see it inferring with my ability to make money any more than one of the other 20 girls going on to do a real set of songs ya know? I'd be curious to let it keep playing out, see how far they are willing to go. See what they do when confronted with "take it off!!!". They are in an interesting limbo of "playing" or "flirting" with the idea but clearly too insecure to really make moves towards being a dancer. I personally want to see them keep making asses of themselves and collecting the dolla dolla bills. I can see it in their heads as this wonderful scheme: " Hey lets go to the strip club and make some cash on stage but we'll just be like, regular girls in jeans who don't taske their clothes off, they'll love us!!!" That little plan really doesn't very smart in the long run.

    But I don't know why anyone would let them back for a third time.....

  13. #13
    Veteran Member DirtyLittleSecret's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    436
    Thanked 237 Times in 123 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Rosewhite- Nope, i'm not a a dancer. If given the chance i gladly would be but i'm meerly a customer that has a huge respect for you all. I'm on this like everyday because i learn some interesting things, feed my curiosity and get to see your perspectives (not in like a lab-rat way but more "wow..i never saw it like that!).
    As of those friends, i told them i dont want to go with them anymore. Figured i'd just rather go with people who respect it then make it a joke. I do have to admit, they did make me laugh at there stupidity.
    Oh. i forgot to add: The dancer that brought them up on stage took all the money that was thrown on the stage when the 2 girls weren't looking. Which was way more then what was handed to them. So she pretty much used them as pawns. I actually gave the girl a wink and handed her the pile that my friends handed to me from the beginning. Mean to my friends but they didnt deserve the money.
    SO ANYWAY! Thank you all for your advise and views. I soooo appreciate it. Lots of love! ~L

  14. #14
    God/dess Pretty_Penny's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Location
    your moms house
    Posts
    5,050
    Thanks
    269
    Thanked 648 Times in 256 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    if a girl or guy steps foot on the stage where i work they're thrown out. the only exception is if the dancer brings one of the female customers on stage during her set, and that doesn't happen often.

  15. #15
    God/dess gypsy_girlchild's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Va mostly
    Posts
    2,750
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 52 Times in 41 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I've worked at clubs where some girls that were custies could come up and "try out". They were expected to act as dancers and take it off.. They were not allowed to do it more than once, if they wanted a job, it was theirs, but they received their time in the lime light and then they got off the stage.
    I never cared for it because it disrupted the club, they were rowdy, their friends were rowdy and it took attention away from me, grrrr... It's hard enough to sell a dance, it's even harder to do so when some girls are jumping around on stage making a fool of themselves and the guys are drooling over seeing new boobs or kitty.. ugh.
    Please don't lick me, it tickles..



  16. #16
    God/dess gypsy_girlchild's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2004
    Location
    Va mostly
    Posts
    2,750
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 52 Times in 41 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    on another note: I have to agree with the poster that I don't bring my friends into the club if they aren't there to enjoy the scenery. I have had one friend go on stage, she had a little fun and came back down and then went on her merry little way. She didn't try to do it more than once, just wanted a taste and she got it and went back to hair school.
    Please don't lick me, it tickles..



  17. #17
    Veteran Member NoCoverLover's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2005
    Location
    Toronto ON
    Posts
    483
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    At my regular club, no one (guys or girls) are allowed onstage, not even to tip. At another club I go to occasionally, if a woman goes up to the tip rail, she can expect to get pulled up on stage! Different rules for different clubs...

    If it only happens once in a while, I have no problem with it. I doubt most of the girls do either.

    If you want to strut your stuff on stage, go and get yourself hired. In most cases, us customers will happily welcome you in! If you really went up only to 'give it a try', then at least take your clothes off while you're up there! Otherwise you won't really know what it's like.

  18. #18
    Curious Guest
    Joined
    Jul 2006
    Posts
    3
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Most clubs won't allow this. I took two dancers to visit another club, and they went up to the stage to tip my regular while she was on stage. The bouncer let them have it because a guy at the stage bought them drinks. "Drinks are for the girls who are working!" they are your guests and you can buy them drinks but they are not allowed to go to the stage or to the bar and get drinks from other customers." Or words to that effect. X-dancers can go on stage and the waitresses. At another club I go to women, even if escorted are not allow to go to the stage and tip dancers, let alone go up on stage and dance! Horrors!

    I don't agree with any of this. I think woman should be allowed to come and go as they please.

  19. #19
    Veteran Member DirtyLittleSecret's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Posts
    529
    Thanks
    436
    Thanked 237 Times in 123 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Maybe this comment is for the newbie board but....
    Now i'm at a complex because i dislike what my friends did yet i would want to go on stage one night just to give it a whirl (try it out in a sense). But i would only go up with permission of another dancer. Like i said i respect your work. Am i contradicting myself or what!?
    I want to ask one of the girls but i dont want them to get offended or anything. I dont see many amatur nights (very rare and are always riged) and it would be a "do it...like it or leave it" situation so i wouldnt be asking for a job (unless offered...). Who would i ask? Whats the proper way? It funny cause the doorman knows who i am everytime i'm there and always says "when are you gonna go on stage for us?". AHHHH!
    I hope i'm not repeating a thread or anything...tell me if i am. I hate what my friends did but i want to do it in a more proper, non-offensive way. Gosh i feel so dumb. HELP! (please be gentle!)

  20. #20
    God/dess sxybrat07's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Location
    in yer bum
    Posts
    3,827
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 12 Times in 11 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    Do an amateur night. I know you say they're rigged, and they probably are, but what difference does it make if you just wanna get up and have fun? I would be pissed if some random girl wanted to get on stage with me and dance. (it's one thing if a girl drags you up there, it's another to want to perform with her). Just my opinion.
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

  21. #21
    Senior Member poriland4's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2004
    Location
    Central TX
    Posts
    141
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I hope these wanna be dancers have a pretty figure.....otherwise....nah!
    It's TOO BAD SHE'LL won't LAST, BUT then again WHO DOES!?

  22. #22
    Member haley6161's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2006
    Location
    Birmigham, AL
    Posts
    24
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I would not take my friends back to the club with me... I think they are "crying for help." It sounds like they are severly in need of attention or they really want to be dancers and just are too afraid to actually do it....then again they may be secretly trying it out and possilby entertaining the idea.
    Haley

  23. #23
    Featured Member avacheetahs's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2006
    Location
    TX
    Posts
    794
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 7 Times in 4 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I think that "stripper chic" is about as annoying as "lesbian chic." We are getting really tired of civilian women who don't know how to behave at my club. It's only a matter of time before one of us turns on one of these women.

  24. #24
    God/dess Bridgette's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2002
    Location
    Gettin the fuck outta Dodge!
    Posts
    14,241
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    They don't care that it's offensive to the dancers. Reasoning with them won't work. They are obviously insecure, attention-seeking and immature. And I'd bet my eyeteeth they think they're "better" than the strippers because they're not strippers I just hate hypocritical insecure bitches like this. HATE! them. I would never go to a club with them again and I'd tell them exactly why.

    Of course, that's just me. If you go to the club with them again, you might try mentioning to a bouncer / manager that those two should be watched for that type of behaviour and that you apologize but would appreciate if he tells them UP FRONT that they're not allowed on stage unless they're going to work there. Or maybe tip the DJ a few bucks to make the "announcement". All arranged out of their earshot of course. heh. I would be totally embarassed to be seen with those two

    Quote Originally Posted by pheno View Post
    When you lead a nontraditional life don't try to measure it with traditional milestones.

  25. #25
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Feb 2003
    Posts
    110
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: The "stage rats"

    I've seen this posted alot but would have to say that it makes sense here to. Treat it as any other "mainstream" job. Can you just randomly walk in and in the middle of a shift try for 10 minutes and then leave. I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't make it past the front door. Yes it is different to an extent but I'd think the only proper time would be an amateur night or to go in for an addition. Which either way sounds alot like an interview imo.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. "Hun," "Baby," "Darlin'" and other endearing terms
    By Chicagoeditor in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 74
    Last Post: 10-29-2013, 04:02 PM
  2. Make more money with a "rounder-vowel sounding" stage name!
    By teaze in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 08-27-2010, 06:31 PM
  3. New "exciting" prop ideas for stage/private partys??
    By Biancanz in forum Private Party Dancing
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 05-29-2006, 09:13 PM
  4. "We're talking business", "I just watch the stage"
    By livenudegirlsunite in forum Hustle Hut
    Replies: 36
    Last Post: 03-04-2004, 10:09 PM
  5. Anyone know of a dancer stage-named "Montana" in Houston?
    By daddySEAL in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 02-24-2004, 08:20 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •