It really messes with guys when I talk shop with them about computers and programming.Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
I try not to talk too much because then they want to be friends not buy dances![]()



It really messes with guys when I talk shop with them about computers and programming.Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
I try not to talk too much because then they want to be friends not buy dances![]()
^^^ I have exactly that problem, the wanting to be friends and/or date me rather than buy dances. I'm getting better at omitting certain details about my life - I try not to lie (too complicated to keep straight), but usually leave out the massage therapist/modern dancer/cookbook author/world traveller/yoga & pilates instructor/etc. out of conversation. I give terse answers and try to steer the conversation back to them.
Back to odd compliments. Does anyone ever get guys who are shocked when you use "big words"? I was commenting that one fellow had a nice 'vantage point' for the stage, and he reacted with "Wow, a stripper with a vocabulary! You must have gone to college or something." What a backhanded remark! Did he expect all strippers to be monosyllabic gigglebots? (And jeez, is 'vantage point' really all that impressive? What if I had started rambling about antidisestablishmentarianism?)
"Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins
"I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott
You know it really doesnt bother me when guys say stuff like that. I just smile and say 'thank y ou' if they continue I say 'stop it your going to give me a huge ego'. I would rather the guy talk sweet then be a jerk. The fact that you guys are making fun of it... well it comes with the job. Sometimes guys just dont know what to say.
With all the customers that read this board.. it doesnt surprise me so many of them are getting nasty. The figure if they compliment us we're just going to come back here and make fun of them.
Maybe we should just put a sign at the door say 'dont speak to the strippers, just hand over all your money and be sure to tip 200% on each dance.'
Last edited by Cally; 07-05-2006 at 11:17 AM.
i was not making fun of them I was venting about a few assholes that i got that night go read over a few notes back.. and you'll understand ..Originally Posted by Cally
Originally Posted by pinkispimp
So whats this? I call that making fun of compliments. Yea sure guys are going to be jerks once n awhile, but its part of the job. But when you read threads like this seriously its no wonder customers are acting like assholes. They figure no matter what they say the girls are going to make fun of them so they give us reason to.




A compliment is a compliment. It's just lame when they try to use compliments as an excuse not to tip. But either way, I will take that over mean comments ANYDAY!
This is a good point, Cally. I really didn't mean to sound like I was seriously bitching about a compliment, but I can see how it came off that way. I think I took the "Wow, you're actually not a moron!" kind of comment badly (on the inside - I'm always gracious on the outside, unless they're being genuine jerks, of course) the other night; just having a cranky moment so it rubbed me the wrong way. Anyway, you're right. Gift horse - - - > mouth.Originally Posted by Cally
"Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins
"I just can't get over how much babies cry. I really had no idea what I was getting into. To tell you the truth, I thought it would be more like getting a cat." -- Anne Lamott




Couldn't have said it better myself, Cally. You sound like the kind of girl guys like to hang out with.Originally Posted by Cally




Cally, she stated later that they were being more than jerks; they hurt her when touching her in a way that wasn't allowed. I agree that fact should have come out in the original post in order to avoid the customer reaction you're concerned about, but it's been clarified since then.Originally Posted by Cally
I, too, am concerned that we sometimes don't emphasize enough that we're generally complaining the strongest about out-of-bounds behavior. (In other words, this complaint isn't about you, Mr. Gentleman Customer.) Also complicating matters is the fact that a dicussion like this one sometimes evolves into tales of general bemusement over certain in-bounds behavior, making it seem without a careful reading or further clarification that it's all being mixed together as reprehensible. (In other words, this followup post is about you, Mr. Gentleman Customer, but it's not really a complaint so much as an observation that I find amusing.) Sometimes we're not completely clear, especially for those readers who want to assume the worst of us, but sometimes a followup post or the context of the entire thread will address that.
-Ev
This isnt the only thread that has been about stuff like this. It doesnt surprise me that GenWar started the post he did. And honestly since i've had GenWar as a customer it shocked me he actually made that thread.
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