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    I start dancing tomorrow for the first time in my life. I know my bf is not the jealous type. I told him if he ever walked in a club I am working at then it is over with us. I could not handle having him see me dance for another guy. I am afraid it would be in his mind forever, and I love him very much. He said it would be easier for him if he could walk in any time. He said I did not even have to talk to him. I know he would never cause trouble but if a customer knows I have a bf maybe I can not make money, and I could not work knowing he is watching me. Can someone give me advice on this mater? Maybe you have had the same thing happen to you.

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    I've dealt with this from dancers I obviously liked (sometimes it's just hard to hide ) who asked me to date them.

    Early on in my SC' day's, I admit that I would find it extremely tough to accept, but of course would always, ALWAYS say it was okay.

    Recently, one of these situations led me to witness said self acclaimed GF to give extras - possibly w/o her knowledge. Fucked me up but then understood - hey, we don't have a relationship yet and she didn't know.

    Man, I've been opened up a lot by my experiences but, here's my general rule of thumb:

    When establishing and keeping a relationship, it is up to each of you to decide when you share parts of yourself with the other person - to know when they might be comfortable with it.

    Right now, I would assume that I would never sit in a club where my GF danced at. It's her work - and would be like asking her to sit in my business meetings - which to be successful need to be very, very private.

    So - it's up to you when you want to share the SC experience with your boyfriend. I would suspect that if you want to be successful, you should do so in private for a while before sharing the experience with him.

    Expect to work through some personal issues too. You will need to fake getting excited about an old guy, an ugly guy, etc. You will need to bring him along in these experiences verbally before sharing visually. He needs to absorb your desire to be a good stripper before he sees you be a good stripper.

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    If it was just a bf it would not be so hard. We have been together for over 2 years, and we are getting married in October. I know if he seen me it would not bother him, but it would bother me.

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    Yes - he should respect your boundaries.

    I consider myself a bit of a 'performer' when I work. It's the only way to be effective. And I wouldn't want my SO to watch me work.


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    Yes, I find it distracting to have anyone I know in the club. It just makes me that much more self-conscious. I've only been at it for a few months, but my own boyfriend has never come to see me. We both want him to eventually, but it has to be on the right noght, and even then I don't want him hanging around all night long - there is no way I can work as effectively.

    Get used to dancing first, and then see if your feelings change - but above all, listen to your own gut, and don't allow anything you're not comfortable with, ever. Good luck!
    "Before I conceived you, I wanted you. Before you were born, I loved you. Before you were here an hour, I would die for you. This is the miracle of life." -- Maureen Hawkins

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    He said he will be strong and waite for me. He is a great guy and my son loves him. I hope one day I can pay him back for all the good things he does for me.
    Thanks for the help

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    not really club chat, although it is about a club

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