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    A male employee of a SC decides one day that he wants to buy a couple lap dances from a female dancer of the same club. The male employee's girlfriend finds out about the dances and gets extremely pissed at the girl and breaks up the guy.

    Was she over reacting? Who is at fault? The dancer for wanting to make some extra money or the guy for not telling his g/f?

    By the way, the male employee's girlfriend is also a dancer at the same club.

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    who cares?

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    well.. if you not the girl.. i dont see what it changes in your life lol

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    she over reacted...i think its strangly sexy when another dancer dances for my boyfriend! hell, sometimes ill even buy him dances and watch! lol if his girlfriend also dances, im surprised she got mad to tell u the truth...she should know it dont mean anything

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    I'd say its the guy's fault. I'll let my bf get dances with girls, but only if he asks first. And I don't think I would want to keep it in the same club.

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    Any male strip club employee who has been working and dating within strip clubs for more than a year or so knows better than to do this kind of thing if he's trying to avoid bullshit strip club drama. So my guess is that he did it on purpose. Either because he wanted the girlfriend to break up with him or because he's one of those male strip club employees that thrives on drama in the same way some of the dancers do.

    Either way... what a pain in the ass to have for a boyfriend. She's better off.
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    Of course it's HIS fault, hun!! I always found it a bit unprofessional when sc male employees do that crap. One of our managers gets VIP rooms with a certain girl when he's off the shift. I think it'd be a bit awkward in my personal opinion to dance for another male employee of the club.

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    His fault. But, I think there might have been more to it. Like... the girlfriend knew he had a crush on the girl he got the dance from. It's kinda funny she'd dump him for getting a lapdance when she's a stripper and he works there... There must be more to it. Personally, if a guy that worked at my club wanted a dance from me, I wouldn't do it... gf or no. But, ESPECIALLY if the gf was a coworker... You know how girls can get.
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    A bouncer from my weekend club wanted a dance when he visited my weekday club. I agreed because he was so nice at work. HA! Why did I do that? He got angry that I wouldn't let him touch my boobs and contemplated not paying me because I didn't give him his money's worth!!!

    It's sooo his fault!

    That was funny 242fair!!!

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    Darn Optimist, how did he act when ya went back to your weekend club? Guys are such babies sometimes,,,all that drama over no boobie touching,,,

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    imo, he's the one at fault if anyone is. the dancer was just doing her job.

    i actually danced for another girl's bf one night without even knowing it. she was there and a few nights later she was telling me how her bf thought i was so cute and that he really liked me. all smiles and friendliness. no apparent jealousy. a number of dancers don't seem to mind if their bf's get dances from other girls. it's hardly the dancer's responsibility to keep track of which girls mind and which don't...

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    His fault. I HATE when guy employees want to get dances. I've even seen a sleazy manager go up to the tip rail with a dollar for a newbie, and it wasn't for encouragement. This guy was a total sleaze.

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    Ok- the dancer who gave the guy the lapdances: if she KNEW the other dancer was his girlfriend, then she ought to expect resentment from the girlfriend. In my opinion, she shouldn't have done the dances- it was just ASKING for trouble (inviting drama), and NO- the guy wasn't just a normal customer. It was inappropriate for him to buy the dancers, and it was disrespectful for her to do the dances. (if she knew)


    The guy- He a. has zero judgement capacity, b. has no respect for his girlfriend, or c. both.

    Finally, if I were the girlfriend I'd dump him. After I chopped off his balls.

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    This sounds so similar to a situation experienced by one of my friends...hmmm...I will say the same thing I told her...DUMP HIM!!

    Oh, and at my club, there is a rule that employees of the club cannot get dances at the club. From anyone, anytime. IMO, that's a great policy!

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    Many clubs have rules against this, both dating fellow employees, and doing things like getting lapdances from fellow employees. Too much possible conflict of interest, too much drama. I know clubs that ban boyfriends/husbands from the premises when their significant other is working. I think they're good rules.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon
    This sounds so similar to a situation experienced by one of my friends...hmmm...I will say the same thing I told her...DUMP HIM!!

    Oh, and at my club, there is a rule that employees of the club cannot get dances at the club. From anyone, anytime. IMO, that's a great policy!
    So she should dump him just because he got a lap dance from another dancer? It's not like he cheated on her.

    Oh but i do agree that would be a good policy.

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    As a customer, I am annoyed by in-the-club relationships. Whether it be with co-workers or customers (boyfriends in the club).

    IMO - it becomes easier and easier for me to spot.

    But that's just me. I think people should take a personal pride in their work that extends beyond their relationship with their SO. I wouldn't want my SO to watch me work, or have personal relationships with any of my clients or co-workers. It's the only way for me to be most effective AT work, which is secondary in my life, so that I can fully enjoy my SO relationship, which is primary.

    He invaded her working environment in a very personal way. Dropping the lout is one way to rectify the problem.


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    Quote Originally Posted by exotisch23
    So she should dump him just because he got a lap dance from another dancer? It's not like he cheated on her.

    Oh but i do agree that would be a good policy.
    Well, I feel that if the GF had to find out that her BF bought dances from another girl, then what else is he not being forthcoming about? Why hide something this is supposedly "okay?"

    In the instance where one of my friends was involved, the BF got a dance from a girl that his GF loathes, while his GF was out of town. And then, the GF found out thru other people a few weeks later. Not cool. AT ALL!

    I guess I feel a little too closely tied to this type of situation and am very opinionated on how it should be handled...

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    After reading this post i could only think one thing what a jerk and of course he is at fault no lose to her

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    i think it's no big deal. why would the girl get pissed over a few dances considering she's a dancer.

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    The guy was an asshole. I never, ever get dances where I work (or anywhere else, for that matter), it's extremely unprofessional.

    Furthermore, if it was a lapdance, and his girlfriend works there too, it was either a blatant effort to stir up trouble, or an incredibly stupid and callous act of disrespect for his girlfriend.

    I know many people regard lapdances as innocent fun, and I respect their opinion. But I don't view them that way for a significant other at all. If I was single and still wanted to get one, I would feel differently (I just can't get into paying a woman to rub all over me, when I've had it done so much more thoroughly and genuinely at home, so many times), but he's not.

    But if I have a serious girlfriend, the last thing I'm going to do is to go looking for some other woman to grind her ass or kitty on my penis, and I'm sure as shit not going to look so hard for it as to offer to pay for it.

    To me it's a colossal act of disrespect for a woman I am presumeably in love with--and utter bullshit, especially in the same club as we both work in.
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