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    In hustle hut there was a 'sitting in the lap' topic as to whether you should plop yourself down or not. This lead me to wondering the same about touching. Do you like it if girls touch you right away (as in your arm, leg, or even your cheek) or do you find it's being presumptious and and invasion of personal space? I tend to do it more spontaneously, but not often, and I wonder if I appear standoffish as a result.\\

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    I like arm and leg. Cheek is a little personnal.

    I also have not liked it when a girl grabs the family jewels when she first comes uup to talk. however after a few minues oif talking it has not bothered me, and may have closed the sale when a girl leans up against "me" with a leg. All depends on mood, the giorl and the amopunt of alchohol

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    Excellent question,

    Every customer is going to have their own personal preference based upon their 'personal space' and just how they are feeling that day.

    What you are trying to do is to develop a rapport with the customer where you read him, and lead him into developing a more intimate encounter that you are in control of.

    It also depends upon the 'hustle' part of your convo.

    Read the customer and what you think they want.

    Is the guy with a buddy or buddies?

    A) If so, check to see if there is a clear "alpha" amongst the group. In a party group, he's the one laughing, keeping people entertained, aggressively flirting with girls around the room and on stage, showing that he's the center of attention.

    In this case, approach him first and acknowledge him. In the group dynamic, you are acknowlidging him as the alpha male. Then it's your choice as to who you sit with/on. You could sit on the alpha's lap. In this case, I would suggest touching him immediately in an effort to test his alpha dominance. Also use convo to establish how sexually dominant/wild you are. If he finds you a worthy competitor, he will buy a dance.

    Or, you could sit on another guy's lap and talk politely about how funny and witty the alpha guy is then ask non-alpha guy a question about himself, showing you have an interest in him. Depending upon his response, follow with touching him to show acknowledgement.

    B) Is there no clear Alpha?

    Here you need to be careful to establish your touch with your best potential client.

    In this case, it may be better to sit in a chair in the group and ask them a group question. You could use, "So, what brings you guys here?", or try to be more original to solicit a response. If you use an original question, use the nature of the response to figure out who your best potential customer is then turn your personal attention to them. Follow up with a touch or convo to establish the rapport.


    Is he alone?

    If he's alone, then you will need to read him and the situation. Is he being approached by other dancers? If so, what is his body language? If they are being rejected, then try him with a different approach than the other dancers. Always ask someone who is alone who you don't have a rapport with if you could sit on their lap before doing so. If he has sat there alone for a while, you could approach him asking him if you could spend some time with him.

    After you're complete with the approach of the customer alone, read his body language and verbal ques. Is he nervous? Melancholic? (a polite way of saying sad) Excited?

    The best advice I could give is, after you're sitting down, look in his eyes and smile. Once you get a return smile, then follow up with the acknowledging touch.

    Chances are, you aren't going to get too many alpha males alone. They lack the self confidence to be in a situation where they can't always have their dominance on display.

    If he's nervous or sad, he's there for therapy and will be open to your touch and relinquish control to you. Your early touch will be much appreciated and rewarded.

    If he's excited, then you may way want to be careful and establish your control over the conversation before you establish contact. Feel free to get him excited with convo about how wild you are, etc. in order to hook the sale, but always control where the conversation goes.

    If you establish contact too quickly with a guy who is excited to get aroused (and possibly get off), then you may be in for an encounter which is tough to control.

    Anyway, just my 2 cents.

    Personally?

    It depends upon my mood. I go for therapuetic reasons and really, really, appreciate the gals who take a soft approach and touches me only after establishing a rapport. Talk to me, establish eye contact and after I respond, give me a big smile and touch my arm, put your hand on my shoulder, and lean in a bit.


    "Life is not about the number of breaths you take.
    It's about those moments which leave you breathless."

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    I'd have to that I'd like a girl to come up and introduce herself and sit down and talk for a shor while before she does anything. I'm not going to complain if a beatiful woman wants to come up to me and touch me but I also don't like to lead a girl on at all and let them think I'm interested in a dance when I'm not. I'm going to assume the reason that you are doing that is to sell a dance and not because you really want to, so take a second and judge his interest before IMO.

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    It's great to be touched but not from behind when I don't see it coming. During a recent SC visit a dancer came up behind me and ran her fingers up my arm and I nearly hit the ceiling, she scared the shit out of me.

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    If you're new to me, the only part of my body you should be touching is my right hand, at least until we get acquainted.

    Once a gal is an established favorite of mine, she can touch me whereever she damned well pleases.

    And yes, to echo what rlams200 said, please don't approach me from behind. I don't have eyes back there to see you with. My eyes are the best indicator of whether I'm interested or not.
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