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    Angry UGHHH housemom rant!!!

    I had a really bad night tonight and gave the housemom 3 dollars ( i usually give her 5) I didnt have many ones at all, sure wasnt gonna ive her a 20, I apologised and told her i would make it up tomorrow. Now I am an adult, I have my own tampons, lotions, makeup and clean up after myself. I work 4 nights a week for about 3 hours and I give her 5 dollars per shift. That is 20 per week and 80 per month, FOR NOTHING!!!.. So she tells me ( keep in mind i have worked here a year and a half) someone misinformed me when i was hired and i am disrespecting her and dont give her shit unless I give her 10 or more per night. Maybe if someone did tell me to give her 10 per shift,my dumbass would be doing it, then she would have 160 per month(at least) FOR NOTHING!! SO being my naive self i am crying like a baby, and asking why she didnt tell me I was underTIPPING her before, I go to my car and borrow 9 dollars from a friend and add that to my three, she still tried to throw it back at me, saying I had been Cheap the whole time I worked there. UGHHHHHH! I always tip like 50 -100 percent to the waitress, hairgirl, dam anyone that does a service to me. I just always assumed that 5 dollars a night was ok for fucking nothing!!

    Then she tells me i never give her more than 2 or 3 dollars per night, ok so if thats true why am i apologising now for giving her 3? And how the fuck is this ass gonna tel me i dont give her 5 a night when I know i do? Either I am gonna not tip her AT ALL out of principal, or I am gonna tip her and send her a form for taxes, b/c if i am paying 160 per month for NOTHING its gonna be tax deductible!! Should I talk to a mgr or something? I feel like she is harrassing me b/c shes not making much money. She also said if I cant afford to give her 10 per shift maybe I should find a new job. Maybe her ass should find a new job if sitting there and doing nothing is too hard for 5 dollars each when there are like 100 girls. I never complained about the 5 per night, but I am soooo not doubling it!!!!I really really have never once used her!! Even after I paid her 12 tonight I asked for a drink of water b/c of my headache( my own tylenol) she said to buy a soda from the machine b/c they already put the water away. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!
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    Ok I've never had to deal with a house mom. I dont understand why you have to tip her when she does nothing for you. I dont tip the waitress at my club because she does nothing for me and we are told not to anyway. Cant you talk to your manager about this or will that just get you in trouble?


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    I dunno I guess I will talk to the mgr next shift, i really wanna just never pay her for crap again, it sux b/c you catch more files with honey than vinegar right? and she totally just poured the effing vinegar on.

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    I'm really against house mums in principle- I've never had use for one. So I totally understand.

    The only reason I can handle it is because I change clubs so often, I'm only with one for a short time. And yes, I'm a shitty tipper, if $5 a night for nothing is a shitty tipper.

    If you can without causing yourself too much trouble at work, don't tip her anymore! Talk to management. Obviously, she will then be vigilant about not letting you use her services then- oh well, big loss!

    If you have to tip her, absolutely deduct it! I don't know why you're not doing that already.

    In any case, she was totally out of line, and bullied you. I've noticed that seems to be how housemums work in general...they somehow stake out a queen bee position, and get all their little drones buzzing around them...I guess it gives them a feeling of entitlement or something.

    it will get sorted out- I doubt you're the first in your club to have this problem.

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    you are right scarlett, about the feelings of entitlement, I am probably one of the very few that doesn't kiss her butt and call her "mom". "OH, MOM!!!" I feel weird calling someone mom, especially someone who does no service to me. I asked her specifically what she does FOR ME and she said she keeps the place clean. Well im sorry but i pay 40 dollars a night to work in my club and if they wanna hire a janitor, so be it, but im not gonna pay a minimum of 160 per month to have it cleaned.

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    It's so simple! She doesn't do anything for you = She doesn't deserve anything from you! If she's gonna give you shit then you definitely need to go to management! Her behavior is completely out of line and I think you have every right to be upset!

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    thanks G~ i feel so upset I haven't been able to sleep. When things like this happen, no matterhowever small or insignificant, I keep thinking of al the things i should have said or done. I feel better now just to get it out, I think I will talk to management. I don't need enemies at work, but I am not gonna play naive little girl either.

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    I have always wondered..what is a housemom & what does she do? I have always bartended in predominately Black clubs, and we don't have housemoms..but i recently waitressed in a predominately White club, and they had a housemom..an older lady, clearly jealous of the pretty dancers, who sat in a coatroom and said nasty things when i (or any waitress) walked by...wtf is she there for, and why do you have to pay her TEN DOLLARS??
    I'm not sure what the f*ck she is there for (i hope somebody is nice enough to inform my dumb ass ) But i'm with the girl that said don't give her a damn thing..and if you do, DEDUCT it. Hell, what you pay them to work there should cover whatever the hell she does, IMO.
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    I used to envy girls who had things like dressing room bathrooms and house moms at their clubs, but jeez! Now I'm not so sure a "mom" is worth the hassle! (Having a house "queen", on the other hand, would be a blast). I'm so sorry you had to deal with this, Buffie, but I agree with all those who say you should cease to tip her out anymore.

    Explain to management why you're doing so and be VERY cool and calm and professional about it. After that's done, use the same cool (without being bitchy - I know it's tempting, but don't) tone and expression to tell her that you won't personally be needing her services in the future (not that you ever DID, but that'll never sink in with her no matter what you say). She will then try to emotionally manipulate you again. DO NOT LET HER! After you make that first cool and cordial statement, I think you should basically ignore her except for basic acknowledgements of existence. If she tries to engage you in an argument, walk away. Above all, make absolutely sure you continue to be well-equipped and supplied, so that you never even have to make an exception to borrow a piece of gum.

    GOOD LUCK!

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    The housemom where I work literally does NOTHING and the crazy part is they sometimes make more than the strippers.They put you on stage and take your tip out. That's it. No tampons,no makeup,hair , etc. I still tip them out $10 every night because they are sort of in a management position and if I'm tired or want to leave and come back they always accomidate me. One girl that's a housemom I think secretly hates strippers...Sounds like your might too. Let me guess, she's fat or something?

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    honestly, i dont have a problem with the housemoms at my club. MOST of them are sweet as can be, and not pushy at all about tip out. there is a minimum of 5$ we have to tip them, and we have 2 housemoms a night. our housemoms manage our schedules, give our breathalizer tests at the end of the night, watch over the dressing room (which i appreciate greatly) and they have thongs and garters ready if we need one.

    i think 5 is reasonable for my housemoms tip outs, considering my bags are too big to keep in those small lockers, and without someone back there my stuff could easily get stolen with as many girls that are at my club each day.

    if there is not a MANDATORY amount you have to tip your mom, i think you should continue to give her what you think she deserves from you. if she watches over your stuff in the dressing room, u should consider that, but dont give her more money then you think she deserves just because she bitched about it.

    she was rude in what she said, she could have asked why you tip her so low in a nicer way. i just think housemoms need to be tipped however much you think you owe them, whether it be 5$ or 20$.

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    oh, and i usually give my moms a little more than 5, because the money in my club is good and they are great housemoms.

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    Our tipout is a minimum of 3 dollars to the house mom, I always give 5 or more, if I have a good night, usually 7-10. Why? Because I feel sorry for her because the club doesn't pay her sh*t, and I don't want her badmouthing me behind my back to the other girls, cause she loves to gossip just as much as they do.

    Paying to not be hated is how the game works sometimes. I regularly eat the food and drink the drinks she brings in, to feel that I'm getting something for my money. She's actually a terrible housemom, she's never paying attention, I have to waste my time waiting around to pay her cause she's yapping it up with another dancer, and she often forgets that I've paid her for a special and tries to argue with me. This is the crap way that clubs are run. They don't want to pay someone to do their work, so they make us pay them. The end.

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    Well, can she do anything if you stop tipping her?
    Consider - she may have been having a really bad night. Everyone else may have stiffed her, and she might really feel the way we feel sometimes at the end of a bad shift - that she is there, trying to do her job and she is not being reasonably compensated. The management may have told her that she could expect 10 a girl when she started, and it is diminishing or girls are just not doing it. It is not your fault, but sometimes we all lose it. I would consider forgetting about it, and tipping her the standard amount (what you have been doing so far) and seeing if she either apologizes or if it blows over. If it doesn't, I would stop tipping her (although you do realize that if you do ever need her services for anything, ever, you are screwed) and I would tell the management why only if necessary.

    Honestly, I feel the same way - I have posted a lot about how much I hate club employee salaries being offloaded onto us, and giving you breathalysers - no way I'd tip for that. That is a service for the club, not you. Same with keeping the dressing room clean. Let the club pay her for the things she does for the club. If you don't require a personal service, you shouldn't be expected to subsidize those girls who do.
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    we had a housedad, he fed us and had 'necessities' and did our hair (he was our hairstylist before our housedad). but he was way too nice to everyone and ended up not making crap. waitresses would come in and eat all of his food girls would take stuff and not tip him. but he's gone now and we're doing fine. i honestly dont see the need.

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    Don't tip her anymore. If you don't use her services, then don't give her money for the services. I would not be nice and tip someone who was rude to me, I don't know why you would start crying and go give her money for simply being an asshole.
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    Wait wait wait, back up here - breathalyzer tests? Your club does breathalyzers tests on you at the end of the night? I've never heard of this before (but then again I'm newish). Is this even legal? Do they do this to every dancer or just thoe underage/suspected of being too drunk to drive? What if you had a ride or a cab? This strikes me as being a violation of privacy if you are of age and an independent contractor. Is this common?
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    If the club has liability (and they do) for letting you leave and drive drunk, I think it is a legitimate requirement. However, since it is to protect them and not you, I don't see why you should subsidize it for them.
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    We have a $15 dollar minimum tipout that is split between mom and dj. I always give the mom an extra $5 and the dj usually an extra $5-20 depending on how much he promoted me during my stage sets. Then the security gets anywhere from $10-$20. So, basically after my house fee and tip outs I'm down about 100 bucks.

    Our mom can be bi-polar moody sometimes but she does keep an "eye" on her girls. She ALWAYS can tell if I'm tipsy and need to slow down on the drinking. And she has been very stern about not letting me get behind the wheel if I'm intoxicated. So, I have alot of respect for that. Plus she will tell me if something (i.e. outfit, makeup) looks good or if it doesn't.

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    yea, every club in atlanta has to do a breathalizer on dancers driving home. its also safer for us, surely u know that sometimes when your drunk, u dont realize it and often make bad decisions-such as being stubborn and driving when u shouldnt. i dont think its an invasion of privacy, i think its to save the clubs ass as well as the dancers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckiCharm
    yea, every club in atlanta has to do a breathalizer on dancers driving home. its also safer for us, surely u know that sometimes when your drunk, u dont realize it and often make bad decisions-such as being stubborn and driving when u shouldnt. i dont think its an invasion of privacy, i think its to save the clubs ass as well as the dancers.

    Why do they have to test dancers and not customers??? Seems like discrimination against dancers!

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    yea your right...im not sure why, im glad they do though or else alot of girls would be getting DUI's.

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    i think because u cant force a customer to take a breathalizer (THAT would be invasion of privacy) , but when u start working at a club in atlanta u have to agree to take a test every day after work if ur driving or u cant work there. its just a policy, take it or leave it i guess!

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    Yeah, it does suck having to tip out everyone all the time. And I honestly don't understand why we have to tip out more money the more we make. I mean, the reason why I have a good night or don't is because I hustled & danced my ass off or got lucky. The floormen do help me & waitresses but not really anyone else. The DJ helps by saying things to promote guys on the floor to tip like saying "come on guys, if you want to see them naked, you gotta start tipping" and other things like that. But when I have a great night, like last night, it was all my work. It was the first customer I went up to and spent the entire night with him (this is the first time this has ever happened) So since I had a great night, I had to tip out more.

    But what's bad for the DJ's, housemom, bathroom ladies, funny money workers, floormen, etc. don't get a salary from the club. I just found that out, they work off of our tips that we give them. At least that's how it is at my club, a girl that works in the funny money area told me that. So, it is possible that the housemom did have a bad night or been having a bad past few weeks money wise and took it out on you. I do understand where you're coming from but if she doesn't get a salary like the ones at our club, maybe it just got to her like how we get when we don't tipped enough by customers. I'd wait to see if it blows over and if so, then forget about it but if not then, don't tip her. I wouldn't tip someone who demanded a certain amount and said you have to tip more, you tip more when they're appreciative and do their job & take care of you. Just wait and see what happens.

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    Well I have a locker so she doesn't watch my stuff, and I always tip 5 dollars. Sometimes I will take a mint or a cup of water to feel justified in tipping her. But I absolutely NEVER need her. We have 2 house moms the one that started this with me is a big, fat woman in her 50sthat looks like a man and is evil to me. The other is a pretty cute girl who could dance if she wanted. She was in the background while this was going on , but she never defended me. What I give them is a TIP, which means it's money earned for a service, you girls are right. Now i would have no problem going bk to 5 , but I dont want to be a pusho ver, I want them to know I'm upset and dont need them.

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