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    Default Yeah, I wanted to crawl under a rock, but waddya do?

    Ok, weird subject, but I thought this topic would get more exposure in the lounge than in body business, and this topic of importance to everyone.

    So, Today I was approched by my lil brother ( he just turned 1, and he asked me "whats that place I can get checked for std's for cheap?" Yeah, I cringe just thinking about that moment again. So I tell him, you have health insurance, just go to your docter, and I give him the number to the office. Then I ask him what kind of std's he thinks he's been exposed to. He says, "I dunno, I just figure it's time to be checked." I tell him that it can take 3 weeks to 8 months for some things to show up, and then ask him why he's not using condoms. He says he is, but they keep breaking.

    So, I guess, what I'm getting at is what other precausions can you take to protect yourself from std's besides condoms, abstinance, and making everyone you sleep with get tested first ( which I actually do, but a teenage girl talking to my brother, or yours, or your sons or daughters, might not have the money for.)

    Please put all answers in easy to read simple language for an 18 yr old, since I do not want to explain to him, I simply want to print it all out and hand it to him, then run away.

    Thanks a bunch.
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    Um, thats supposed to be just turned 18, I have no idea how the smiley face got in there, but I sure as hell am not smiling.
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    Default Re: Yeah, I wanted to crawl under a rock, but waddya do?

    Planned Parenthood in a lot of states give discounted or free testing depending on the income of the person.

    hmm.....dental dams for oral. Your brother could try female condoms, but I don't know anything but condoms that help protect against STDs

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    dental dams! its like a piece of balloon you put over a womans genitals to preform oral sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Guenevere
    You can also use a condom and cut the ring off and then cut down a side. Dental dams are a little pricey but they're the same. (Thank you, Sue Johanson, LOL!)
    ah!n sue johanson! a canadian fav!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fawn
    So, I guess, what I'm getting at is what other precausions can you take to protect yourself from std's besides condoms, abstinance, and making everyone you sleep with get tested first ( which I actually do, but a teenage girl talking to my brother, or yours, or your sons or daughters, might not have the money for.)

    Intelligence. Lack of expectation. Patience.

    Look, if he wants to have sex, unprotected or not, he has to accept the consequences. Promoting other alternatives is really just promoting excuses and embarassment.

    Convince him that if she does not make him feel safe having sex with her, that he should not give in to self-induced pressure, learn self control, and just plain realize that if he says no, it's really no big deal.

    I don't have sex with someone that I can't talk to about it very openly with. This promotes a sense of honesty between lovers and really, just allows you to get to know each other sexually and is always fun. During these conversations and similar open ones I can learn about what kind of person she is, what she expects from her lovers what she demands. Depending upon this criteria and whether or not I meet them in her eyes tells me the kind of person she sleeps with.

    This is a big thing for me because as of now, I do not demand monogamy.

    Depending upon the comfort level of the girl, this conversation can happen over dinner or over a month, the fact is, we have to be open with each other. Nothing is 100% neither is honosty, but this isn't about her. I am CHOOSING to sleep with her, therefor these are consequences I accept running the risk of, and I require the women to be A-quality to even be considered. Otherwise... There is a million and one other things to do with someone you're really jiving with other than finding out when you're going to get a piece.

    And I really, just don't need to get laid :-/

    Based in all that, sex can become very spontaneous, fun, clean, and dirty yet regardless of the consequences I can accept responsibility.

    I have no problems visiting the clinic. And so far, neither do the women I sleep with.

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    If they keep breaking, he needs to be (1) using lube, (2) using better quality or more appropriately sized condoms, (3) keeping his condoms in a cool dry place (NOT the glovebox and definitely NOT his wallet), (4) only using one (yes, more than one increases the risk of breaking, and yes, some boys use multiple because they think it protects better), and (5) slow down!
    I don't know about his girlfriend, but my pussy gets twenty different kinds of sore when my boyfriend just jackhammers away at me.
    And there's no reason to think it's a bad thing that you "need" to use lube -- especially when we're going at it for the second or third time of the day, my cunt can't always keep up with the lubrication needs, so it's better to use lube every time and stay ahead of the curve.

    Send him to Condomania.com and tell him to pick up an assortment or use the Condom Wizard to find the right condom for him. They also have a "TheyFit" line with a ridiculous array of sizes, but I can't vouch for them having never used those. I'd personally recommend the InSpiral, provided he isn't too big, though he'd definitely have to pick up lube, too, as they tend to get a little sticky after a while.

    If he's too embarassed to go to the family doc, send him to Planned Parenthood. And tell him he's doing the right thing, though he really should look into the condom breaking problem more; my boyfriend and I have been fucking like bunnies for four years now and we have yet to make a condom snap (and it's only happened to him twice in his life).

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    A lot of good things have been said, but I have to add, at least he went to someone. Do you know how many people don't even go anywhere, even with he anonymity of the Internet?

    I have a friend that I often felt was like my little brother. He had a real bad 16th birthday. His mother was having an affair and left his father, that very day. Pretty much since then he has hated women to an extent. I’ve tried to steer him on a good path, and since his mother is back in his life, neither his father nor me have had much luck. She keeps trying to buy is love back.

    Now to get back to the thread topic, I actually talked with him about girls and sex a lot. I also told him about the sick shit that can happen, and how to look for it before hand. I shared what I knew then; someone had to let him know the good, the bad, and the ugly. I even sent him videos on how to use condoms. I had a great one, with this real plain chick putting a condom on a plaque mounted dildo. I sent the IM: man you gotta check out this hot video. I even renamed so he would not know. He first watched it at 6am on a Monday morning.

    From then on we had a contest on who could send the sexiest calendar, or other gift. Being older I usually managed to win. He never did quite get the concept of class over crass though. I could swear there are some familiar faces on some of those calendars. Last time he sent me the Brisbane boobies T-Shirt, which still makes my Mother, laugh.

    I haven’t spoken to him in a while. We used to do gifts for birthdays, and then it kind of spiraled into Christmas, then New Year, then very little contact. Don’t really know how he is really doing these days. I know he says he is fine but, I don’t think his mother’s influence has been that good. I know he barely speaks with his father now. His father may be a cantankerous old bastard, but he is still a good man, with good values. He just got too old too quickly. I may just send him a gift this year for old times sake. Actually I might send his father one also just for the hell of it. Probably get his father in trouble with his new girlfriend, but what the hell. From what I hear his father is not that cantankerous these days.
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    Planned parenthood and I believe most doctors offices can keep results private from parents and everyone else.
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    Guenevere is right the penis in many men can expand during sex. Depending on the level of arrusal it can certinally be larger at times. I've actually read about it contracting as well. You are supposed to leave a bit at the top of the condom for expansion, and for when ejaculation occurs.
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    You dont pull them on. You roll them on. Else they will break if you pull too hard. Also be sure to use latex or polyurethane types, NOT lambskin which do not stretch, but break instead.

    If he can't figure this out for himself already, neither he, nor his partner, is ready.
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