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    Angry I Fucking Hate Job Searching!!!

    I am on a very short fuse right now. I just got here after driving around aimlessly through thick traffic, applying to temp agencies for "regular" jobs...why am I looking for regular jobs?? Because I stripped to get through college...however I did NOT go to college to be a stripper. Besides, dancing has been burning me out lately and I want to desperately be able to use my hard-earned, high-GPA B.A. in mathematics for SOMETHING. But oh, even the rinky-dink $10-12/hr temp agencies don't want me, because I don't have experience. So I ask them well what if I take a $9/hr solicitation call job, will that give me enough experience to go after the entry level accounting/finance positions that require like 1/100000000th the education level that I have. They vaguely said they "don't know," which basically means no...that I'd be slaving my butt off for $9/hr, not being able to even cover rent and car insurance alone on that kinda money, and not have it even lead anywhere but to more $9/hr call jobs. You can say that I have a bad attitude to call the temp agencies' jobs "rinky-dink," but the truth is, if I was qualified enough for the accounts payable/receivable jobs, I would think the world of the temp agency and would never think to call it rinky-dink.

    How do I get experience??? Companies were as willing to give me an internship in college, as boys were willing to give me a date in middle school/part of high school...basically ZILCH. I WAS in a good mood, but now I am feeling so depressed and defeated. Jobsearching puts me in such a foul mood. Then again, so does dancing, or even thinking about the 160mile round-trip I have to make to work to and fro...just to be fined outta the ass by the managers at my club who thinks it's "cute" to fine every girl $25 each and every time the toilet gets a little clogged. If it weren't for dancing money, alcohol/pot, and most of all sex, I would be suicidal by now. It's because of my bad luck getting jobs & experience, that my own family disowned me and kicked me out on the streets. And it's only because I went against every single itty bitty stupid little moral that I was taught by these "loving" parents, that I started dancing and saved my ass from ending up like the idiotic smelly fugly homeless bums that clog up the sidewalks of center city. Back then, my family was about as good as "no family," maybe worse, because I had to put up with them e-mailing me insults and then threatening to call the cops on me if I dare showed up at their place. It's because of my dead-end "career," that some guys are turned off by me because they wrongly view me to be "irresponsible" with only stripping one-day-at-a-time as my career goal, despite my constant hourly announcements about my college degree. I'm not that kinda dancer, and I understand that a lot of dancers are also responsible, but I hate those stereotypes that come with saying "I'm a dancer and it's my only job/agenda." People never remember that I went to college or graduated.

    I feel so depressed right now that no one will give me a fighting chance to do a good job at a non-dancing job above the level of McDonalds or Wal-Mart. When people hear that I have no experience, I try my best to use fluent, sophisticated vocabulary while explaining that I DO have skills & knowledge, am easily trainable, adapt quickly to new work environments and projects, are team oriented, etc...and all employers hear is shit. They don't give two shits about my "soft skills" or anything, if I don't have experience, they don't want me. It's like being branded with a big red "I" on my forehead, I for inexperienced. I'm starting to see why my Acme-working college graduate friend M--K is so bitter and introverted all the time now. I swear to god, if it werent for me being able to do ok as a dancer to support myself(e.g., I'm not fat, physically handicapped, deformed, etc), I would probably be left on the streets by now and I would be looking to kill myself.

    Thanks for listening to my rant...sorry that I went on. I hope you guys don't think I'm some kinda psycho now. :-( It's just that my #1 biggest insecurity has, and has been for MANY years now, been my lack of a stimulating job/career. It sucks when 3 yrs ago, you find out that your little sister even has a job related to her career track before you do. I feel so miserable right now.

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    If it's any consolation, I'm going through the exact same thing.

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    Does your undergrad have an alum network? Mine does and it was very helpful for finding my first job out of college and I was even able to help another alum (back before I started dancing. ) Even if you don't know someone, you "know someone"....and we all know it's "who you know" not "what you know" that gets you in the door.

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    Job-hunting is one of the single most despairing and dehumanizing acts one has to go through in life! I know all too well what you are saying. It is a process of rejection, after rejection, after rejection. You’re either inexperienced, or too experienced, or your personality doesn’t suit, or you’re not a team player (what a load of double speak). Leave the agencies behind and do some networking.

    I do recommend you try your personal network, if family is barred, then friends, and acquaintances, even people you just had coffee with or take a class with. Let everyone know what it is you are looking for. If you can't use your Alumni association, use annother's in your area. They often work on the principal that one of thier students my be trying another.

    I have some books that may be of use to you.

    What Color is your Parachute?
    Richard N. Bolles

    10 insider secrets to a winning job search : everything you need to get the job you want in 24 hours--or less!
    Todd Bermont

    Two books that I have excerpts from but have yet to actually find:

    Guerrilla Tactics in the Job Market
    Tom Jackson

    College Grad Job Hunter: Insider Techniques and Tactics for Finding a Top-Paying Entry Level Job
    Brian D. Krueger –This one seems to be in a similar vein to Guerrilla Tactics.



    You ever notice in university, they never teach you how to get a job, only skills that might make you employable?
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    Look at this from another angle. Since you can keep dancing for a while, do it & get your foot in the door at a place you want to work at by offering to be a low-paid or no-paid intern. Just fib about your source of current income ("inheritance!") and prove your usefulness.
    Oddly enough, my revolving door of menial jobs made me able to BS into better ones. Seriously. Moving up is people skills & connections, not being Nerd Poindexter in the corner cubicle.

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    Thanks for the advice, you are definitely right about networking and knowing the right people. My friend/roommate Keith is trying to help me because he's done accounting for KPMG and many other big-name corporations, but still...he'll talk to people about me after I send them my resume, and still no call-backs. As far as my college goes for help, it sucks sucks sucks. My college didn't help me when I was going there, they didn't help me during the times that I had to temporarily drop out because I didn't have my tuition money, they didn't help me afterwards. It was a big argument just to get the diploma that I'd rightfully earned and paid for...they kept making excuses such as "I know you graduated in December, but you gotta wait til May because we, um, only run our diploma printing presses once a year."(bullshit) And their career services center simply tells me stupid stuff that I coulda told myself in the 9th grade. Such as, "Do you have a...resume??" and "Have you tried looking up names of banks in the...yellow pages??" I was expecting them to have an alumni list of companies that commonly hire my school's graduates, or companies that approach my school's career services center looking for summer interns, at least some goddam statistics on what % of people in my major stay in the area for jobs, etc. BUT INSTEAD I GOT NO HELP AT ALL! THATS basically what I paid literally thousands upon thousands of dollars for! I totally hate my college.

    My friend M--K(yes, the same friend who still works at Acme and gets bitch-slapped by chicks at bars for doing literally nothing wrong) graduated from the same college as me and he's had crappy luck with jobs, too. He was stuck working at Acme after graduating college. It took him 2.5yrs to find a job and it was a shitty $10/job that paid less than Acme and wasn't even in his major(communications), but he was desperate for SOMETHING that'd look better on a resume than Acme; he got laid off 9months later. One of the things hindering me is that my math degree is a B.A. and not a B.S., it comes from a small liberal arts college, and my school does not have a strong enough reputation like Penn State or Swarthmore would. The only reason I went to that school was because they gave me the biggest scholarship and my parents bullied me into going there and made me feel like I had no other choice but that school, community college, or no college at all...and then they totally abandoned me.

    And no no no to going back to school! I'm already overqualified as it is. I do not have the money for tuition, and all taking courses would do is reduce the hours I can dance and burden me with even more expenses...a great way to get into credit card debt and car repossession! I am looking to get a master's, but I'd like to wait a few yrs so that I will HOPEFULLY have some experience. Moreso, I'm hoping to be working for a company that may provide me with tuition reimbursement or a helpful program like that for continuing education. I just wish someone would give me a chance.

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    I don't know about America, however here in Australia there is a three month limit as such. It's an unwritten yet well known rule for anyone, like myself, who has experience true unemployment.... after you finish a course, certification, degree, intership or job you have around three months before potential employers will look at your resume as being "out of date". The no or low paid intership is an idea - advertise yourself in the local newspaper if you can ???

    Your situation is the reason why I havn't done anything above a certification course for "college" studies......... experience is king as well as "who you know" not what you know. *sigh* That's the way it is in the "real world" .........


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    OK I finished my degree in December 2005, so are you saying that my resume is outdated and I have even less chance of finding a job? :-( Probably...there goes my luck down the drain again.

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    This is the main reason I decided to become a nurse. Insecurity and the thought of unemployment scares the shit out of me.
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    I used to hate this question every time someone asked it of me, but have you tried online job searches, such as Monster.com and Careerbuilder.com? Those are good places to put your resume out there. You may also visit your college's career center and go over your resume to make sure it's appropriately targeted and worded for maximum effect. You may also consider going to Barnes & Noble/Borders and reading some books on resume-building and implementing any changes they suggest.

    Also consider signing up with contracting companies like RHI/Robert Half.

    Long-term, think about moving. Some markets are hotter than others for specific jobs. Monster and Careerbuilder will allow you to search nationwide. I know job-searching is very frustrating (believe me, as a survivor of six layoffs in 5 years, I know!) but the best thing about your position right now is that it's very portable. If you've always wanted to live in a new part of the country, now is your chance!

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    phillydancer i feel your pain, i grad with my bachelors in dec 03 and looked for a job for a few months before giving up and opening up my own freelance art biz supported by the dancing i still currently do. i danced my way through school and now feel sorta silly since im 25 and still dancing but on the other hand i am buying a house and own my own business and now i also coach two sports so don't get too discouraged.

    did you check Craigslist? i had great luck on there.

    Love it!

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    What kind of job are you looking for, and are you willing to relocate?

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    I'm looking for ANY job in finance, insurance, or real estate...basically something associated with numbers and economics. Yes I know that I'm not very specific, but how CAN I know exactly what I want to do when I don't have any real-world experience or internships?? That is like being expected to choose a favorite flavor of ice cream when someone hasn't even tasted ice cream before...and that is how I'm feeling right now, as pathetic and stupid as someone who's never tasted ice cream. At age 23, aren't I kinda OLD to not have ANY relevant internship or experience??? Seriously, 4 yrs ago when I was still a biology/chemistry double major and everyone else in my class worked at labs/doctors office/dental office/etc and I was still making $7.50/hr scooping ice cream at Friendly's, I felt retarded and childish; and that was FOUR FUCKING YEARS AGO AND I HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING PROGRESSIVE TOWARDS MY CAREER SINCE THEN. My ex-boyfriend(the same one who caused all that drama a few weeks ago over Myspace) constantly mocks me for dancing and has even put words in my dead mother's mouth, by saying "what does your mother think, looking down from heaven and seeing you as a stripper after college? she's probably very ashamed of you." When I was doing stuff with politics a few months ago, I told him about that and passed it off as if it was a full-time job, and he totally saw thru my fib and said with a wave of the hand, "Oh, its just volunteer." I'm embarrassed and angry. (And I wish my ex was the one dead instead of my mom, but that's a different story.)

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    Oh, Philly, why are you even talking to that scumbag? He's just trying to push your buttons.

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    ^ ^ ^ Yeah, I know! That's why I have started a new rule for myself...no more talking to my ex K--l G--l! LOL! One of my personal friends who frequents stripperweb wanted to know why I even bothered to change my pictures on Myspace simply because my ex bitched about the one picture showing "too much flesh." But every now and then, he will text my phone still and say stuff that hits a little too close to home...it makes me annoyed. You know what? I have an issue I'd like to discuss about my ex, but I will post about it in a different post. But yeah, I hear you.

    In other news, I am going to keep chugging away at jobsearching and also search craigslist as someone advised me to do. Craigslist might be a little more personable than the cold people at a temp place, hopefully. Wish me luck.

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    Change your number. Or have his number blocked. Seriously, you are under enough stress as it is without subjecting yourself to this kind of treatment.

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    I would, but we have a shared cell phone "family" plan so I don't think I can block his number. The best thing I could do is cancel his phone service, but that wouldn't be fair to him because he does pay his share of the phone bill each month and then he'd have to pay for a new phone and all the activation charges all over again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982
    I would, but we have a shared cell phone "family" plan so I don't think I can block his number. The best thing I could do is cancel his phone service, but that wouldn't be fair to him because he does pay his share of the phone bill each month and then he'd have to pay for a new phone and all the activation charges all over again.
    Yea, that's smart. Take verbal abuse from him as long as he pays his half of the bill.

    Seriously, if this is the drama you've come to expect from him, surprise him by shutting his phone off. I read your drama stories and he can bite the fleshiest part of my ass.

    As for your work...just don't give up...and be positive. You'll get something. You come across too likeable to get turned away for long
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Do you have a resume? And are you at all interested in sales?

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    Have you tried teller, call center work, receptionist, etc. There are places that are good starter jobs I call them. Look for any place with a high turn over rate. Why? They are always desperate for bodies. Banks can have a high turn over rate. Apply at large companies. Put any work experiance on your resume. Working a call center can get you an account job. You have the education but employers want to see job commitment. Because you cant include dancing on your resume it may look like that you haven't worked at all.

    Get your foot in the door. Start anywhere and work your way up. Most companies perfer to hire from within. Apply at large companies for entry level position. Start as a teller, call center whatever and search the companies site. After you been there six monthes start applying for other positions. Let them know you want to grow beyond your current position.

    I have found the majority of my jobs online. Monster has a great section about building resumes, cover letters, and how to fill in employment gaps.

    Look at in terms of selling yourself. Hustle your education and work ethic. We dont always start off with a big job. Sometimes you have to work up to it.

    I know we have talked about this before. When I started at GE in their credit card division I started as a customer service rep. I have never graduated from college. I would volenter for projects. I worked hard at anything I was given. I was promoted to middle management. I was the youngest ever to hold that position. I was up against people that had been their 20yrs. They liked that i was a self starter, worked hard at what I was given, and educated myself about the job. If I can do it I know you can. Keep the faith and good luck.

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