Do you know what is annoying? When I was still dating my drama-king long-term boyfriend, he started telling me about how he wanted me to look for a "real" job after I finished college and quit dancing altogether. My boyfriend always tried to act like a parent and tell me what he thought "would be best for me," even after we broke up, which was annoying in itself but anyway...yeah, so he told me that it was "stupid" and slightly degrading for me to be stripping full-time with a college degree and not do anything else. He also told me that once I had a full-time job making at least $30,000/yr, that I shouldn't even be stripping part-time. WTF?...If I could get a full-time job and strip like 2nights/week, that'd be ideal because I'd have side money to put towards paying off my car loan early, or put as savings towards a house.
So my ex says that it's stupid for me to still be stripping after college and how if my mom was alive, she'd be ashamed of me for stripping at all...but then goes and brags to his guy friends about how I'm a dancer! Oh, I guess it helps him to gain control of me by playing role of the "mom" and say to stop dancing, but in front of his guy friends it looks *cool* to have a "hot little stripper girlfriend"????? WTF?
One instance in particular steamed me. Me and my ex were getting food at this cafe, and he recognized one of his acquaintences who was now working there. They were talking for a bit, and I think I urged my ex that we need hurry because I had to get to work soon, and my ex's friend asked, "Where do you work?" I lied by saying some bar as a bartender or something common, then my ex interrupted and said really loudly(we were in a public place), "Stop lying, you're a stripper and you know it!" In front of public!!! Part of the reason I lie to people I do not know about my job is because of security issues...announcing that I'm a dancer in public is a great way to gain stalkers or robbers! Then later on, I found out that my ex had told his friend about me being a stripper before, and that the friend was being a smart ass when asking me where I worked, as a test to see if I'd tell the truth or not. Then my ex goes on with his stupid spheel(sp?) about how bad lying is...he lectures about honesty so much, that my guy friends started mockingly calling him the "honesty police" for a while. But I think I was justified in being vague, esp since I didn't know my ex's friend and we were in public. Come to think of it, SEVERAL of my ex's friends have asked me where I work and when I lie, they call my bluff.
But WTF? WHY does my ex pull those games, telling me the "responsible thing" that it is stupid for me to dance full-time after college, but then telling his boys the "cool thing" that he is *hot* enough to obtain a hot stripper as a girlfriend? God I'm beginning to hate my ex more and more every day...hence his being an EX.


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