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    I have no dancing or stripping experience at all. I want to do something special for my boyfriend (in private of course). I really have no idea where to start, with the planning.

    This needs to be really special. He is in the ariforce and is leaving the country on August 2nd. I want this to be extremely memorable. I was also considering having a friend take some photos of me for him to take with him. OK now I would really like some "professional advice."





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    I don't mean to be too much of a contrarian. (okay, it IS my nature)

    However, if your boyfriend is going overseas - he will cherish those moments with you which were 'normal' and made him feel calm and secure in his skin.

    The 'special' 'sexy' moments strip club customers get from entertainers are fleeting fantasies.

    If you want to do something special for him, go get massages for the both of you, followed by a light dinner and a visit to a SC. Show him how much you care for him by allowing him to enjoy a fantasy derived from a lap dance or two.

    If you want to be very special, sit at the table with him and talk about how fantastic all the girls look and appreciate what they are doing for their customers. Get him comfortable enough to find a gal he can have a fantasy with and get her to come to the table. Explain to her what you are doing and then let her take him to another part of the club to give him a couple of dances.

    Then take him home and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Make him feel comfortable and allow him to have his own fantasies without threatening your relationship. Make him feel that this is 'normal'. He will cherish and long for you while he is gone - anytime he needs to fantasize in order to make it through the day/night - he'll remember you.

    Best of luck to you and your boyfriend.


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    Hmm, I think if you want to strip for him go for it!

    Have a great evening something like suggested above, whatever you think will be special then take him home, dim the lights and put on your music and strip.
    Obviously have everything ready beforehand like the music and anything else if there is anything else... like maybe where he's going to sit for instance!
    Practice so your confidant - watch yourself in front of the mirror so you know what moves look good and what doesnt. practice in the area where youre going to dance and see what things can be used - like maybe you want to put one foot up on a coffee table or something to give a little flash or what ever, or you might want to lean bend over on something...
    I suggest not making it too drawn out - just a few minutes will feel like a long time if you havent done it before and a few minutes is long enough (-: You want to be wearing sexy clothes that you can take off easilly because then you can make it look sexy. Ie look him in the eye cheekily as you un button or unzip. I always think the old fashioned way of turning your back when removing your bra is cool, then you cover your boobs before you turn around and dance abit more... I think its good beginner stuff because youre not so self concious about it.
    Anyway hope that gave you something to go on (-: All the best!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by azcustomer
    I don't mean to be too much of a contrarian. (okay, it IS my nature)

    However, if your boyfriend is going overseas - he will cherish those moments with you which were 'normal' and made him feel calm and secure in his skin.

    The 'special' 'sexy' moments strip club customers get from entertainers are fleeting fantasies.

    If you want to do something special for him, go get massages for the both of you, followed by a light dinner and a visit to a SC. Show him how much you care for him by allowing him to enjoy a fantasy derived from a lap dance or two.

    If you want to be very special, sit at the table with him and talk about how fantastic all the girls look and appreciate what they are doing for their customers. Get him comfortable enough to find a gal he can have a fantasy with and get her to come to the table. Explain to her what you are doing and then let her take him to another part of the club to give him a couple of dances.

    Then take him home and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Make him feel comfortable and allow him to have his own fantasies without threatening your relationship. Make him feel that this is 'normal'. He will cherish and long for you while he is gone - anytime he needs to fantasize in order to make it through the day/night - he'll remember you.

    Best of luck to you and your boyfriend.
    So let him get his dick hard over someone else and then go home and fuck him? No way.

    Girl, you should definitely strip for him if you think he'd like it. I'm sure he will be thrilled!
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    depends on how comfortable you are. We dance for couples all the time, so if you can get into it, trust me--it will be more about you two than the dancer. I second az's advice, but I would say 1) buy that special type of outfit that he likes, sundress, booty jeans, mini skirt and wear that to dinner, and 2) buy another special outfit for afterwards. You can strip out of that casually with music in the background without making it a big ba-da-duh burlesque number.

    as for shooting pics, take a look at pics of women either nude or semi nude. Suicide girls can be a good one--and go from there, taking what you like re: poses, clothing, and makeup.

    Good Luck, and best of luck to your boyfriend. that's really tough to have him leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl
    So let him get his dick hard over someone else and then go home and fuck him? No way.

    Girl, you should definitely strip for him if you think he'd like it. I'm sure he will be thrilled!
    AGREED!

    Best of luck to him, though. I'm sure he'll remember you fondly while he's away.

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    We have lots of "regular" and normal date memories but I also want to do something special for him. We just hung out at his place and watched a movie last night.

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    i think what you want to do is beautifull!

    i strip for a living but when i dance for my boyfriend its on a totally different level to even the best dance i'd do at a club.

    Does your man have favourite fantasy outfit??? nurse? gorgeous evening gown? corset and suspenders? try to think of something he'd be really into-then take your time and think about the details-you can enjoy this as much as he will!!! you'll have a lot of contact with him so think about how the fabric feels men love silk for instance, especially if he can feel the fabric on his skin-very sexy! or a g-string that ties up with ribbon so that he can unwrap you! the more layers you have the more you can tease him-and if you want a special experience tease is the way to go!!! it will also give you more to do!!!

    If you want photos (for his eyes only ;p) you should start your dance by seating him in a chair and placing another big comfortable chair just out of his reach. Set the rules with him. tell him he cant touch you unless you let him and only WHERE you let him. Give him a camera and tell him he can take photos of you whilst your dancing-believe me he'll dig this and you'll find your self playing up to the camera-also its a very personal way of giving him photos, everytime he looks at them he'll think of your hot show!!! Move slowly-shakiria might look great bouncing at a million miles an hour but she has a editor to edit out her bloopers! try to ignore the beat of the music and enjoy your own body! you look hot so love it! make sure you wear scented lotion/body gloss or tan - every stripper knows that a gorgeous body is really only a aairbrush away-seriously if you tan and wear body gloss and the highest heels you can find-EVERYBODY looks phenomenal. Oh and don't forget really soft lighting... Tease him and give him a little then take it away-for instance if your wearing a buttoned shirt lean back in the chair and unbotton the blouse almost to the end, then lean forward and do up a few buttons, slide your into your bra whilst its still on, let the straps fall of your shouldersand pullit down only a little... get my drift? rember men ar every visual, the tinest movement is GOLD! flick your hair around, kneel on the floor infornt of him and flick your head along his chest or thighs-all whislt not allowing him to touch you and letting him take the photos he likes best!!!

    As you take off more clothes bring your chair closer to him you can use it as prop, lay on him with your legs on the arms of your chair and run your hands over your body. You can use aids too if you like-for instance when your naked (or almost naked) have a bucket of warm soapy water next to your chairs-rub the bubbles over your body and grab a sponge and let him wash you whilst you ly back-drop the sponge in water and squeeze it out over your boobs or facing away from him down your back and over your bum! or you can use candles and pour hot wax overself or whipped cream and let him make you a bikini! if you want you can even use a vibrator or dildo at the end (don't have to, though, just a suggestion ;p)

    The most importantt thing is to love it-enjoy your body and watch him-notice the things he seems to like the most and milk it!!!

    You go girl! BEST PRESENT EVER!!!


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    one thing I forgot to mention is that he asked me to plan something special for his last weekend stateside. I just want it to be spectacular. I am even using a vacation day that friday so I can have all day to get ready. I want everything to be perfect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl
    So let him get his dick hard over someone else and then go home and fuck him? No way.

    Girl, you should definitely strip for him if you think he'd like it. I'm sure he will be thrilled!
    Agreed 100%

    If a girlfriend of mine asked for a special goodbye weekend, you think I'd take her to get a dance from Max and Rex at Le Bare, then bring her home and fuck her, since she'll be ready for me?

    No fucking way...

    Make it a special, intimate occasion, that only you can provide. The music should be special, too--we have Music Mix for questions of this nature, feel free to look there for advice.
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    maybe buy a beginners dvd? i haven't ever watched it, but i've heard the S factor book and dvd are good for strip tease dancing. other videos make focus a lot more on pole work, and that probably won't help you much unless you plan on buying a pole. i would read-watch up on some basic moves, buy a hot outfit, and have those pictures taken. then you can dance/seduce/ETC him one night, and give him the pictures when he's leaving. for some reason i think the pictures are better given after the night, kind of like "remember this?"

    oh something else. it may seem kind of cheesey, but i think it works. say you go out to dinner or something before "the night". you could wear a new sexy bra underneath whatever it is your wearing, and make sure to let the strap show just a bit on occasion or make it so that the top you wear comes down enough to show just the slightest bit. it's cool if it seems "accidental" like you wrent even thinking about it. also, it works better if it's noticably something he hasnt seen before, like a different color. it might help set the mood.

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    just so you know, I wouldn't take any semi clothed or even lingerie or bikini photos, unless you want them confiscated from him. my brother is in the army, and when he went to afghanistan, there were routine checks for stuf that was considered "contraband" photos like that fall into this category. If you want to take some photos wear normal clothes that are really nice. just so you know... It would suck If you took nude pics or anything that could be considered mastubation material and his sargeants were the ones jerking off to it......

    as for the strip tease go to the local strip club. watch some of the dancers. go home. practice some of thier moves and floor work. blow your boyfriends mind.

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    My wife gives me a lap dance occasionally, it's awesome. She's not a pro, but the fact that she's doing it for me makes it special. She learned how by watching this video: http://exoticdanceschool.com/store/female.php #4 "Lap Dancing & Entertaining Your Man"

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    Thanks for all of the advice.
    I really hope it works out well. tonights the big night.

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    Good luck (-:

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    i'm sure it will be fine. he'll see how much effort and love you put into giving him a special night to remember no matter what. just don't sike yourself out too much.

    have a drink or two first.

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