Warning- some high elements of drama, but I would like to get your take/advice on the situation.
So today I come into work, and there are girls running back into the dressing room yelling/jumping around about how some customer is giving out hundred dollar bills. This goes on for awhile, several girls are talking about how he's giving out 100's 20's etc.
Eventually I asked one of them if they would mind if I sat with them. She said that probably wouldnt be a good idea, since he wouldnt want me to, saying he picks his girls. I said ok, that's cool. Perfectly understandable. Another one of the girls talking about the guy was a sweet girl who I've always been cool with. I asked her who the customer was, out of curiousity, since I didnt intend on going over there unless he asked me to. She said to me that I should watch where she would be sitting because she'd be sitting with him. I told her that I couldnt come over there because of what the first girl had said (that he wouldnt want me to) and she said "You never know baby", basically encouraging me to find out if he wanted me over there.
Anyway, I still didnt feel comfortable going over there without being asked by the customer, so I didnt. The only time I interacted with him at all was when I was going around the bar for tips.
And that was the end of it. Or so I thought.
I saw the girl who had been encouraging me a couple of times throughout the night, as we passed on stage (since I was after her on the rotation). I told her she smelled wonderful and asked what her perfume was and she said thankyou. The second time she called me "Sexy thang" and I laughed and smiled. This is how we usually interact.
Later in the night I saw her in the dressing room getting ready to leave, and I asked her if she was alright and she said she was. And I told her to tell me if she needed anything.
Then she says to me "I'm quitting even as we speak but I want to tell you something- you get your own customers. Dont ask who I'm sitting with and try to take other peoples customers. Make your own money" etc. At first I thought she was talking about/to another girl through me (you know, speaking loud enough for another person to obviously overhear), but then I realized she was talking about me!
I was SO surprised to hear this coming from her since she is usually so sweet! I told her I didnt know what she was talking about, but she just got louder and more aggressive (keep in mind this was in front of a whole dressing room of girls and she was being very confrontational). The whole thing escalated from there, she started yelling, I was yelling that this was bullshit, I never went near her customer etc.
Other girls started saying shit like "Dont let that little girl get to you" (I'm 19) and "I woulda killed that bitch" etc. The girl who originally was yelling at me started calling me a bitch, yelling to the bouncers who had come into the room that I "have done this to many girls" and "have been doing this since I got here".
As the drama went on, her accusations got worse. She was saying that I went sneaking around behind her back trying to steal her customers, saying that every time a customer tipped her a five (come on!! a fucking five?!) or twenty that I would ask who he was and try to sit with him, and even that I fucking "follow her around all the time"
!!!!! The only time I ever even interact with this girl is in the dressing room or on stage. I NEVER even see her on the floor. I've never even sat with a customer or group of customers with her, let alone follow her around!
::sigh:: The thing that makes this even worse is-
a) that there have been rumors floating around for weeks that I steal people's
customers!
b) this is the sweetest girl in the club who never makes trouble with anyone and never yells at anyone either. So NO one would take my word over hers. Plus she's been there longer than I have. She even threw that in my face as she was yelling, saying "I've been here a year you've only been here a month".
I can hardly even blame other people for believing her over me because I would have never expected her to go off like that or make shit up or start drama for no reason. I am still stunned and so confused as to what her motivation was.
Granted, she was drunk and obviously upset about something else since she was in the process of 'quitting' and storming out ealry when this all happened.
I started crying for the first time there, because though this has happened before with meaner, cattier girls, this was someone who I thought I was cool with, and who I liked, so it got to me.![]()
I'm pretty sure I'm going to be leaving this club now. I'm not even sure I want to go back in tomorrow.
What do you make of all this? Did I do something wrong?
Keep in mind, I am new, young, and make more money than almost anyone else in the club. I do more dances than almost anyone else, and they give me amazing shifts without my even asking. There is plenty of reason for jealousy. But I dont believe that gives them an excuse for conspiring against me behind my back to give me an awful reputation.
Should I go back, or should I move on to a new (yet much more inconveniently located) club?
Also, this incident shook me so much that I ended up crying in the bathroom and leaving early to check out the other club I want to work at.



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