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    Last week I wrote to one of my favorite authors thanking him for writing such a brilliant book and inviting him to lunch. He actually WROTE BACK to me and told me he had been in town last week, but told me lunch wasn't on the radar because HE LIVES IN FIJI. But he DID ask me about my life, which means maybe he is also single and looking, and we are DESTINED for one another.

    Somebody please tell me that you know of successful relationships between people who met online or wrote to each other long distance before they met and lived happily ever after. NO POSTING if you don't think so. I only want to hear of hope and encouragement because
    THIS COULD BE LOVE.

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    I just got up and checked my e-mail-- he wrote back to me again and sent a link to the CHARITY he founded in Fiji. That's why he spends most of the year there... isn't he WONDERFUL???

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    who's the author?

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    Somebody please tell me that you know of successful relationships between people who met online or wrote to each other long distance before they met and lived happily ever after. NO POSTING if you don't think so. I only want to hear of hope and encouragement because
    THIS COULD BE LOVE.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    What color are your sunglasses?
    I was thinking the very same thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FireTiger
    and we are DESTINED for one another.
    If a guy said this about a woman you'd think, rightly, "Oh, boy. Stalker."

    Besides, FT, stay away from writers. They are worse than actors and nearly as worthless as out-of-work muscians.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor
    Besides, FT, stay away from writers. They are worse than actors and nearly as worthless as out-of-work muscians.

    Hey I'm a writer! I have a day job too!
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    To the valley below....

    Slowly moseying my way to the exit.
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    I dont do hope and ecouragement if it isnt realistic. You should be real with yourself - itll be best for you in the long run. Im all for love and falling in love in odd circumstances.

    Why not just be pen pals? I think the best relationships begin as friends first. Even if you never end up together you will still be great friends. Thats a win win strategy. Besides, the man lives in Fiji. It could very well turn out to be love but just let things flow naturally and get to know the man first before you start thinking about love.
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    Sure.

    I met my husband through Blogger. It's possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
    Sure.

    I met my husband through Blogger. It's possible.
    Did you think you were destined for each other and could be in love on the basis of a few letters?

    Red flags all over the place here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chicagoeditor
    If a guy said this about a woman you'd think, rightly, "Oh, boy. Stalker."

    In this case... its the other way around. Someone living in a fantasy world. If the author really is writing I bet hes just being friendly with a fan.

    For some reason im thinking this post is far from being for real.

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    I have never dated an author, actor, or out-of-work musician... what are they like?

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    Quote Originally Posted by FireTiger
    I have never dated an author, actor, or out-of-work musician... what are they like?
    Usually when they take you out to dinner, they are kind enough to allow you to keep the Happy Meal toy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    Did you think you were destined for each other and could be in love on the basis of a few letters?

    Red flags all over the place here.
    For me, or for her? No, at first I didn't think of even dating him.

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    BTW- Tigersmilk, THANK YOU... really good advice!!!

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    It seems that alot of women suffer from falling in love with a man's potential and not the man himself! *sigh* I can't speak as I suffered the same thing in re: The Fireman. I fell in love with his potential and as soon as I woke myself up from that dream ... I realised there is no potential. It was total fantasy in my head.

    Make sure you know the man first and thus be in love with the man himself... not what he can possibly be for/to you.


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    I dont have any experience with this but anything can happen so it definately could be meant to be good luck.

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    But he DID ask me about my life, which means maybe he is also single and looking, and we are DESTINED for one another.
    ROFLMAO!

    You know how you're nice to a customer so that he'll buy dances? Same thing here. Buy my book, contribute to my charity, boost my ego...

    Feature costumes for sale!

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    Scarlett- you are so right!!!

    He sent me a link to one of the charities he founded in Fiji, and when I asked him about american volunteers, he basically wrote back that he was getting too busy to write to me... I guess I was lucky that he wrote to me in the first place, but he doesn't know what he's missing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
    It seems that alot of women suffer from falling in love with a man's potential and not the man himself! *sigh*
    Wow that is so true. Im going to put that on my myspace page.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FireTiger
    He sent me a link to one of the charities he founded in Fiji, and when I asked him about american volunteers, he basically wrote back that he was getting too busy to write to me... I guess I was lucky that he wrote to me in the first place, but he doesn't know what he's missing.
    Just curious -- have you sent him your picture yet? He might suddenly find some time in his busy schedule.

    Speaking for the many writers on this site, I can assure you while we might share some common creative bond with successful actors, I can't think of a single similarity to (God forbid) out-of-work musicians.

    The romantic idealization you have about this guy is based on the world he has created in his books -- a world that has also inspired your mind and perhaps your heart. Now that he's focused all that creative energy on you, it's natural to be charmed and flattered.

    Even if you find harmony, romance and excitement in your correspondence with him, remember that the whole world between the two of you is made up entirely of what you already admire about him (his mind, creativity and humor) and what you want to believe about him. You fill in the gaps in your knowledge with generosity and hope.

    When you finally meet, you need to be prepared for a cold dose of reality -- the gap between fantasy and reality can be narrow or it can be enormous. But that gap always exists. How you handle it determines whether the relationship in real life -- a genuine relationship -- can survive and prosper or whether it turns out to be as fleeting as an imaginary character on a page.

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