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    Okay, so yesterday, my bf posted a thread in this forum he belongs to with a couple of pictures of me... then more and more pictures. Most guys said I was hot, a couple said I wasn't! I'm really upset about this! He actually called me to tell me this when I was at work yesterday... I had one more hour left to go and I was due up on stage in one girl. I spent that last hour not talking to ANY customers. This is seriously a blow to my self-esteem, right? I have to go to work TODAY! What do you do when you're having an ugly day?
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    Default Re: Help! Ugly Day!

    Well, I can identify with how you feel. I am also sensitive to what others think of me. But they are strangers, and why in God's name was your BF putting pictures up of you on a forum?? If mine did that, I'd shoot him unless they were like vacation pics. And if he CALLED you to tell you that some losers on his forum think you're not hot....he's a loser too. Sorry, just calling it like I see it.
    You're gorgeous. He's insecure.
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    First of all - wtf he is posting pictures on an internet forum w/o your consent?! To me thats fucked up.

    Those comments than ones at work - just said aloud. Guys may not think that Im hot and sometimes rudely say so. You have to realize you cant be everyones cup o' tea. If they want to do dicks let them be dicks.....they are invisible as far as you should be concered. If that was the case I think we all wouldve retired from dancing months/years ago. lol
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    Yea... HE is another story. I haven't said anything to him about it yet... I'm still trying to decide what to say. I'm trying to remind myself that I can't be EVERYONE'S type. There's not a single person on this earth who EVERYONE thinks is hot (although angelina jolie sure is close!). I guess I'm just upset that he posted those pictures (along with pictures of him with some BEAUTIFUL girl we tried to pick up a few weeks ago). I know the whole thing was just an ego booster for him or something... Ugh, maybe THAT'S what I'm most upset about? Either way, I don't want this to affect my money! Today's gonna be $$$$.
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    Bella you are gorgeous. I'm sure that whoever it was that said that you were not attractive said it out of jealousy, or because they know they will NEVER get a girl like you. I can't imagine anyone denying that you are pretty because you are 99% MORE attractive than the average pretty girl.

    I can totally relate to how horrible you are feeling right now though. A month or so ago I had a similar experience on a forum my Fiance was a member of. A lot of the guys said I was gorgeous, some even said they didn't think I was a real person ect. But this one guy told me that I should get plastic surgery because I am so ugly. He said to post another picture of myself after I visited the plastic surgeons and I was just hysterical. I was so hurt and cried and cried and it really did hurt my self esteem. I already had some self-esteem problems, and because of that they are worse than ever now.

    It hurt and if I wasn't pregnant I probably would have headed straight to the PS office. It was a shitty thing to hear while pregnant that's for sure, because I'm already so emotional. I just don't understand people like that, who seem to get off on hurling insults at people and hurting others feelings.
    The sad thing is if any of those guy's saw you in person they probably wouldn't even have the ball's to talk to you much less insult you. They are safe in cyber space behind their computer screens, and that is the ONLY reason they said what they did.
    You're gorgeous. I promise you that and I'm sure everyone here on SW can agree with me there.
    By the way, Did you see pictures of these losers? I bet they are ugly as sin.

    Hope you feel better.


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    I was really hurt when I read a slam of my appearance on Stripclub List. Of course, people who do things like that are chickensh*t, often jealous or not remotely able to score a hot piece of a*s themselves. (Forgive my crudity) In simple terms, they're people in glass houses throwing stones....

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    Default Re: Help! Ugly Day!

    You'd be surprised on how many ppl think Angelina Jolie is gross when I think she's the hottest thing walking. lol.

    If a person isn't another person's type, that doesnt mean that person is unattractive. Those guys were just dopes who didn't know how to say that. OR just plain gay....cause you're very attractive.

    Maybe he posted your pics to show you off. But either way, he shouldn't have posted them w/o asking you.

    And you are NOT ugly hun.

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    How many people that judged you can prove they get paid to be beautiful?

    Just curious.

    I mean, chronic masturbation hurts the eyes right?

    Uhm hi, it's the internet? Not to mention most people disagree for the sake of disagreement and jealousy.

    Now lop the BF's nuts off for fucking putting you up on the web. Give them back to him after he's done your bidding for a while.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    You are right Bella21; there are different types that turn everyone on. Not everyone is going to be attractive to another; even famous actors and actresses get that. Some are just going to be more attractive than others. It does hurt when an SO says something like that.

    I've had a lot of times the SO upset me at work. Petty little things I don't need to deal with when I have 1000 screaming demands to be met. Since she rarely calls to say I love you, I learnt to not answer the phone when she called. I do turn my mobile on silent when I am in the office. This will get you through the day, and if you need them, you can call them.

    I don't think I'd ever post a pic of an SO to get a hot/not rating. What matters is that she is hot for me, even if it is only a smile, or something about her that turns *me* on. Then again that is the kind of guy I am. The overall package needs to be worth more to an SO than beauty alone.

    Don't let this get to you at work! When you go into work, turn off or silence your phone, put your best game face on, and check your grief at the door. Then you go in and vacuum the cash out of everyone’s wallet. A foul mood will drive people away; a smile and a pleasant thought will attract them. This is true even for a guy that fixes computers. A foul mood works great on driving street hustlers and panhandlers away though.

    Sometimes even the best people can be idiots. Yes, you can forgive and forget, but if it is burning inside you and eating you up, and even posting here and also talking to your closest friends does not help, then you have to confront him. Do it at a time of your own choosing though, fight that battle in a time and place you have superior strength. Fighting through the phone at work sucks.

    Oh and he needs some punishment for bugging you at work about something like that! Silent Treatment would be a good start men really hate that. Especially when they have been a dick and have not realized it. Maybe you could put some chili oil in his coffee? I’ve done that one before when asked rudely for a cup of coffee.
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    First of all - wtf he is posting pictures on an internet forum w/o your consent?! To me thats fucked up.
    That's the first valid question of the day her--why did he do that? Discretion always matters, dumbass.

    Of course, people who do things like that are chickensh*t, often jealous or not remotely able to score a hot piece of a*s themselves. (Forgive my crudity) In simple terms, they're people in glass houses throwing stones....
    Very well said, with appropriately crude references for clarity.

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    I agree with all - he should of asked before posting pics . Seems kind of childish/strange to me that he would ask people what they thought of you . I mean to ask people about yourself is one thing .

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    It seems weird for him to call you (at work, like this is vital information!) and say that people on the internet think you're ugly. He shouldn't be saying anything that might make you feel bad/unattractive.
    Also, the posting pictures thing seems off unless you agreed to it before.


    Sounds like he's a very insecure man who needs validation from strangers on forums and may be putting you down indirectly so you won't leave. So really, this is about him being insecure and you being far too hot and fabulous for him...and also, random jackasses on the internet.

    P.S. My sister is gay and she doesn't find Angelina hot at all, she does however drool over Catherine Keener, so there is no accounting for personal taste.

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    Bella...you're gorgeous. 'Nuff said!

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    God, you guys! Thank you all so much! The last post I caught before leaving for work was Magdalena's. It helped SO MUCH! Sooo much! I did great today! When I was leaving, one of the bouncers actually said (after he'd walked me to my car) that he hopes my man appreciates me. Now, I feel stupid and selfish having this a thread about my self-esteem... but that was really the right thing at the right time from the right person!

    I love you guys! Thank you so much! I was really a mess. I can't say thank you enough!
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    Bella- there is also the jealousy factor. You know how girls slam each others' looks? Guys do it to each others' girlfriends- especially over the internet. People like to bring others they consider more attractive down.

    You're crazy hot. I'm jealous everytime I see your avatar!

    Feature costumes for sale!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    God, you guys! Thank you all so much! The last post I caught before leaving for work was Magdalena's. It helped SO MUCH! Sooo much! I did great today! When I was leaving, one of the bouncers actually said (after he'd walked me to my car) that he hopes my man appreciates me. Now, I feel stupid and selfish having this a thread about my self-esteem... but that was really the right thing at the right time from the right person!

    I love you guys! Thank you so much! I was really a mess. I can't say thank you enough!
    Your man is damn lucky to have you. He should know that and kiss the ground you prance on (ah if only all men will do that). Dont feel silly about this thread at all. Sometimes we need a push in the right direction to realize things that were there before.
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