Thanks girls. I'm just going to tell him that I cant take the time off and I cant find babysitters for my kids. We'll see what happens....
Ok I dont know if Im posting this in the right section, sorry if its not....
I just started dancing and this really nice guy asked me to go watch horse racing with him. He said he'll give me money for clothes and whatever else i'll need for that day. This is the first time I've gotten this type of question and I didnt know how to answer him. I told him to come back Tuesday night when I was working again and I would give him an answer.
He's a sweet guy (meaning not gross and did not try to grab me and stuff) and I made alot of money off of him that day just on tips. The other girls say he's harmless and they've gone out with him before and had a blast. I would like to have him as a regular seeing that he liked me so much and he wasn't a typical sleezeball. But I dont feel comfortable going 2 1/2 hours away with him for a whole day. I guess its not him that makes me uncomfortable but just the idea in general from all the stories i've heard.
Should I go or not go? And if not then how do I let him down without loosing the business???![]()
Just tell him you have a very busy schedual and you would like to join him but dont know if you can come up with the time.
Something about seeing customers OTC kinda creeps me out.. speshly now with my stalker.. ugh..
Just be super careful. We dont need to be seeing you on the news as a OTC meeting gone bad..
Some dancers I know have gone out to dinner/shopping/night out etc with a harmless customer and not been killed, creeped out etc. Personally I don't feel comfortable with it no matter how sweet some customers are, not to mention my bf would freak out and most likely think I am cheating on him. Decide what your personal boundries are and stick with them.



Some guys have fantasies of being white knights, prince charmings, big spenders, personal saviours, etc. Sometimes those, rather than the sexual fantasies, are the ones that keep them coming back. That doesn't mean they'll actually do it, although some of them do--lots of perfectly nice guys throw money around, but usually you have a gut feeling about who they are.
Going OTC with a customer rarely results in a regular customer. To them, it's a date, even if they're paying you, not a business transaction, no matter what they say.
No benefit in going unless you want to go. And a "potential regular" is just a guy who's not a regular, not a certified regular-to-be. So don't sweat it, go with your instincts, and don't waste a minute thinking you can play him large if you play him right--the odds are against it.
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