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    Roxi Dlite
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    Im so upset ladies!
    Ive been working at this one club for 3 years, travel a lttle but always go back to my home club. There was this girl that used to work there for a little bit lets call her sara (not her real name). This girl Sara is always butting in on your table when your trying to ask for a dance, rubbing her boobs in your custys face when your talking to him etc.. A few months back she got fired for throwing a chair at one of my friends at work. Last friday I come into work to see her back. a little disapointed, however i go on my merry way. she then sticks out her but knocking me over and then starts lauging. later i was at a table, asked some guys if they want a dance, they say for sure just come back later. as i was leaving "sara" pushes by me and sits in my spot. later i went back to the table to claim my dance, and then they were reluctant. they said that one of the girls (point to sara) said that i give shitty dances. I told him that i wanted to prove them wrong, and so we go to the vip. as im dancing sara gives me the finger... after my dance was done i went over to the manager and asked him... "how long is she working here for, cause if its a while im going to put myself on the other clubs schedule until she is gone. He got so upset yelled at me, and sent me home right then and there with only 40$ in my sad little pocket. He then fired me and i am not allowed to work there again.
    Ive been loyal to that club for 3 years, I do great stage shows, never get in fights, am nice to custys, and see myself as pretty easy to get along with, and have no other enemys that i know of at that or any club. My boss claimed that i was trying to tell him who to hire and fire, i never asked him to fire anyone, i was going to leave till she was gone is all. he says im self centered. How am i supposto work in an enviroment like that. its a lot of stress that i choose no to be around it is all. The shitty thing is, is its the best club to work in right now where i am, all the other ones are suffering. I feel as if i am going to have to leave town just to make some cash. the worst part of it all is she was only going to be there for two nights or something and she is working at the club that i got sent to, which is owned by the same owners. I HAVE NO OPTIONS! Im a nice girl and feel i dont deserve this. I got fired for being picked on. and he seems to think that im being a bully. I admit i had bad timing i guess.
    ANY IDEAS ON HOW TO GET MY JOB BACK??? even tho i dont want to work for a lguy who i cant count on understanding my concerns, I need to cause i have no were to go. do i suck it up and appoligize for someting im not sorry for? OUCH my pride!
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    sorry that was so long of a story!

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    Apologize to the boss-man and ask for your job back. It's not pretty, but if you want to work there, it has to be done.

    Since you've been there 3 years and your bf is friends with him, you should get your job back no problem.

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    I have never been good at it, but if you want your job back, it might have to be done. he sounds like a jerk--good luck.

    Why is bad management so endemic in this industry?? I have lost more than one job from being unable to disguise my contempt for shitty managers...

    The one thing that crossed my mind right away is that this "Sara" might be taking very good care of the manager in his office--I have seen this sort of thing many times before. It would explain everything as far as her bad behavior and his toleration of it.

    What about working in Detroit? It is pretty high contact but some of the clubs are better than others, and it would be better than working far away in Canada. Or is it impossible for a Canadian to work there?
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    i would work in the states its just that i dont drive and i dont have a work visa to work there. if you know of any good clubs that may pay for a work visa then im game.

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    Change your schedule to Road Work Only & have some "helpful" H.A. guys visit the manager & have a "talk" with him....

    Somebody as awful as "sara" is going to get hers soon. Don't worry about it.

    Sorry this happened. This biz is full of crazy crackhead bitches.

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    Why is bad management so endemic in this industry?? I have lost more than one job from being unable to disguise my contempt for shitty managers...
    This and rampant politics is my downfall at alot of clubs. The no. of good managers I have worked with I can count on one hand... just like the "smart strippers" they are in the minority. Unfortunately, there are alot of power-trippers in positions of authority (ie managers).... so it really depends on how much you want to work there.

    You either swallow your pride, apologise and do what it takes to build that bridge back up again or move on.... plus it depends on the club itself. I've worked in only a few clubs where fired is fired.... they won't allow you back ever (elephant memory)........and many more where if you take some time off from the club and return a month (or more) later to ask to work there again they will take you back.

    They took back "sara"... why shouldn't they take you back?

    I've even seen girls who have been the consistant top earner and decent worker be fired for stupid reasons.... so even that won't save you.

    There is a reason why I say to all dancers that I meet to never ever "marry" any club. Don't get "comfortable" at any club to the point where you have no back-up. Always always have a back-up. Learn from my life lessons.


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    Is this the first time you've been fired from a stripping job? If so, then don't sweat it. Unlike in the straight world "fired" pretty much means "get out of my face for a while". Call back in a day or two, and ask about getting back on the schedule.

    Sara probably is either having sex with the manager or has dirt on him, and that is why she is back. If she is leading him around by the dick, then getting "fired" probably had more to do with her dislike of you, then the manager's own feelings. He just needed an excuse to fire you, and he did find one.

    Call the owners if the manager won't put you back on the schedule. Frequently the owners have no clue what is going on.

    You also mentioned the other club in the area... Go ahead and try working there. I've seen plenty of girls that were allowed to work at one club in a city that has the same owners as several other clubs, but not allowed to work at the others.


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    Yea I just know ole sara will get hers....oneday. I hate it for her.

    I think you ought to call the club back and see what you can work out. Perhaps you could work an earlier or later shift??

    Dayshifts make money too plus you get to do stuff at night that you might miss if you are working....

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    [QUOTE=There is a reason why I say to all dancers that I meet to never ever "marry" any club. Don't get "comfortable" at any club to the point where you have no back-up. Always always have a back-up. Learn from my life lessons.[/QUOTE]

    HA! thats what my boyfriend said to me today, he gave me a lesson on getting "comfortable" he said that managers dont like to see thier employees getting too comfortable. I guess he is right, damn he is ALWAYS right!
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    wow..that really sucks. i agree with the other....if you really want to go back, suck up to the manager. it sounds as if he misunderstood you (and/or is just an egocentric jerk). perhaps also explain that you weren't trying to tell him who to hire/fire, but that you just wanted his help in dealing with her....make him seem like a wise mediator, or some other such crap. sometimes these people have to be pandered to. but if that club no longer becomes worth it, move on.

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    Managers are irrational and care more about being sucked up to than running a business. There may be 3 or so who actually run their club like a business, but guys in this business are even dumber than the girls (Am I self-hating tonight or what?). So your options are: a) never see/hear/talk to the manager. Stay far, far away, and he won't know you exist. b) suck up, at least occasionally (seriously - this is more important to these guys than anything. It is more important than sex, money or going to prison. They want to be in charge) or c) keep running around and hope that they will forget you in the meantime.
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    ^^^^^DAMN! That is some deep sh*t! More important than sex, money , or going to prison.

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    It seems like it would have been better to ask if you could have spoken with him in private and let yourself calm down a bit. Mangers hear complaints between girls all the time and if you just launched into " How long is SHE going to be here?" instead of taking a more diplomatic approach, explaining a bit carefully in private what was happening and what you should do, he may not have made such a snap decision nor yelled at you on the floor. From the way it sounds, you approached him on the floor where they may have been other customers about to hear you or he may have felt like it was not the right time. Doesn't make it right, but in any job, you have to choose how and when to make a complaint and how to be graceful about it without getting 'worked up'. Guys tend to stop listening if they hear griping but if you appeal to his ego to help you 'figure out a solution', you may have found out what you needed to hear without also being fired in the process. Just playing devil's advocate but it's always good to keep your cool, no matter how long you have been somewhere because we dancers ARE interchangeable and the dynamics between managers and dancers change on an individual basis. I've seen absolute nightmare-ish or serious extras girls continue to work in clubs I've worked in because management knows them personally, knows their family situation (there was a girl with 5 kids!), etc....So just ask to see him and apologize for not waiting to discuss it with him in a different manner.I doubt you'd have any problem getting your job back!

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    You don't drive? Get the Train to Montreal and work with Me!!!! =D

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    WOW, tonight after work at the other club, sara asked if we could talk, she was sweet and explained that she is going through a lot and is sorry if she did anything to upset me. she got punched out from two of the girls the night i got sent home. someone spit in her drink as well. she started to cry and said that ever since she came here everyone has been giving her a real hard time, and spreading roumors. I just dont understand why she had to be like that to me if it was everyone else giving her a hard time? i kinda still felt really bad for her. i forgive her and we sorta worked it out. however, you wont see us togther on my spare time! Its easier to work this way. I just told her she should lay off when im talking to custys and move on to an empty table. girls here dont really like it when you swoop in while your trying to make a sales pitch! she said she will try not to. thats all i can ask. glad we got threw it, it was really bumming me out. HOWEVER, IM STILL OUT OF A JOB!!!

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    What if she put in a good word for you with the manager? Apparently, she has some kind of influence with him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by candie00
    You don't drive? Get the Train to Montreal and work with Me!!!! =D
    AH!!! the newfie in montreal!!! lol. what club are you working at? maybe i can get my agent to set me up with some shows or something! could be fun! and ill stick up for all the newfies, however im french and dont speak it, they usually frown upon that too!!

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    Im thinking of doing Montreal in the near future as well... maybe we could do a trip together? There is another girl on here who wants to join me.. so a three way trip.. cheaper hotels

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    hmmmm.... sounds intresting, ill have to talk to my agent. however i know for a fact it major contact and i work no contact. ever come to windsor? cheetas is pretty good.

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    oh and by the way a litte update on "sara". lastnight she said sorry but today her actions spoke louder. when i seen her i said thanks again for sayin sorry she said "so were cool" i said ya girl dont worry... then she goes on stage and dances to my song.. boots.. these boots are made for walking. everyone knows thats my track and she has seen me dancing to it a the other club for like a month now, she only dances to rap, she danced to boots then 50 cent or something after... WHAT THE FUCK??? I was soo upset i asked her why she did it and she told me to F off, then im dancing for a guy in the back and she waddles over and says to the guy, "why dont you smack her ass she likes it" ITS A NO CONTACT CLUB!!!! i was soo upset i approached her and asked her what her problem was and she said that i was just jealous cause SHE was MY compition.... PUHLEEZE! im not the one stealing music going out of my way to make her job hard. Why are some girls such nut jobs? I cant seem to win with her.

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