this kind of goes along with kaiyla's thread "stage side customers who don't tip" but i didn't want to jack her thread.
anyway, in the past i have always casually gotten anyway from rude customers who say hurtfull things or cheap customers who make blatent comments about how they're not going to spend a dime. i always figured it was better to cut my losses and move on, not "stoop" to the level of saying something to them about it. however.... i finally snapped and the reaction was not at all what i expected. here's what happened...
i was sitting with a guy and we were having decent well balanced conversation. he kept complimenting my body (in a semi creepy way.. but what else is new) and i thought we were generally "headed somewhere". 3 songs had gone by without him buying me a drink, but it was slow and i didnt have any better option. around this time the dj calls a dance special and i hit the guy up for some dances in my usual playfull (not wanna dance) way. his response is this "no way honey, i work way too hard for the money i have" to which i -for once- responded "so do i" to which he... and here was his major downfall... came back with "yeah..RIGHT"
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i calmly, but very firmly explained to him that this is our JOB, that it's how we pay our bills. i told him why it is -not- an easy job and why it is rude to stare at the stage or touch the dancers legs while they sit with you without even forking up a few bucks. he argued with me about it for a few minutes and i eventually excused myself and left. the funny thing is, the next time he came in he walked right up to me when i was on stage and gave me a 10 .. told me he thought about it when he went home and that i was right. he comes in once or twice a week and tips all the girls on stage now.
since then (this was about a month ago) i always tell the customers what i think when they pull this. i don't yell or get out of control, i just stand up for myself instead of backing away. not every response has been as cool, but some of them have. the ones who haven't just wind up not comming back in.. and that's just fine with me. i'm not doing this to every guy who refuses a dance or doesn't tip -me- it's moreso the guys who refuse to spend any money at all on any of the girls and who act like they can "show us" by not tipping.
i stood up to a guy this week who told me "i know why you're here, and you girls are not getting any of my money." although with this guy i was much more ... wordy. i basically told him that i was glad he finally found somewhere that he could feel empowered. i also mentioned something about how pathetic it is that he has to "steal" time from girls just to have some sort of fake adult interaction.
i've also started approaching guys when they sit stage side for a full rotation of girls and don't tip any of them.
anyway, the moral of the story is...sometimes it's not bad to rock the boat.



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