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    High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

    Hi Ladies,

    So I have danced a couple of nights and am liking well enough so far. Trying to hang back a little and figure out how things work/my place as new girl before becoming really agressive...and I am totally content with the money considering my current approach. (I don't want to been seen as trying to steal regulars from other girls, etc.) So 3 questions:

    Question #1
    I work in South Florida where we dance nude onstage and during table dances, but the friction dances are topless. My question is: how far do you let their hands wander during the friction dance?

    I have already been fighting off guys that are trying to finger me, but the "light touching" that is generally allowed seems to include tits & ass for most girls. While this doesn't really bother me with the nice customers, I won't even offer a second dance to a lecherous perv with his hands all over me...they're gross and not worth $20.

    Question #2
    Also, I had a guy the other night who kept slipping me good tips (10s & 20s) while I sat at his table, but his drunk wandering hands kept sliding from my thighs to my crotch. In a high milage place like So Fla, is this excessive?

    I am a grown woman and knew exactly what the clubs were like down here, but I also don't want to be so naive as to be taken advantage of by customers who should be paying more for what they get.

    Question #3
    Am I supposed to limit touching (customer touching me) in the first dance to sell a second dance, etc? Or is that contrary to the whole idea of a "friction dance"?


    Thanks so much, I really appreciate the input!

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    Default Re: High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

    Set the boundries that you are comfortable with. Even if "everyone else is doing it" does not mean that you have to cross the line of your own personal comfort.

    Communicate with your customers that you do not want to be touched on the inner thigh or on the breasts. Tell him this after your dance has begun (like, right when the song starts). Then he is committed to the one dance, anyway.

    If the customer crosses the line, simply grab a hold of his wrist and tell him again, that you don't want you inner thighs or breasts touched. Make sure you look him in the eye when you say this, and don't release his wrist until you have told him, again.

    If he trys to cross the line again, grab his wrist hard, and in your best stern voice say "I told you NO!" That was his last warning, if he tries it again, the dance is over.

    I don't understand how pissing off the dancer can be any fun for the customer, but they seem to insist on doing it anyway.


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    Default Re: High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

    i agree with paris, once you sell out your morals, you sell out your soul and bad things will happen with you mentally.

    though i have found since i started dancing 5 years ago, that more touching over the years has not bothered me as long as they stay away from my crotch. this is prolly due to desensitization and im not alltogether sure how healthy that is either.

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    Default Re: High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

    I work in South FL too...unfortunately nothing is out of line here in most clubs....it's all about where YOU draw your own boundries because the club usually wont draw them for you.Thankfully I found ONE club where they are strict. Money is ok..not the boom it used to be, or anywhere near what i make out of town. ...but decent.

    Personally...I allow light touching. If the guy is grabbing hard enough to leave bruises (i bruise like a peach) he gets one warning to lighten up. If he doesnt...I dont even bother asking for another dance...If the grabbing on my breasts gets too hard a flirty "you break 'em you bought 'em" usually works (I have implants).

    A "slip" of my knee into their balls with a "sorry...you grabbed too hard and startled me" usually helps them stop too! A real hard yank on their hair is good too...very distracting. I'll pull their hair back REAL hard and tell them if they dont hurt me I wont hurt them. The bonus to this is a lot of times I get guys that LIKE that...so I'll spend the rest of the time dominating them and beating them up for money! Always a great frustration release!

    Some girls dont care...but like I said I bruise really easily and while nothing is sexier then a bunch of fingerprint size bruises all over me....I'd rather not!

    Where do you work? Email me privately if you dont feel comfortable putting it on here....I've worked almost everywhere in Broward county so maybe I can give you some tips on the club!
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    Default Re: High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

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    Default Re: High Milage Lapdances - how far to let them go?

    I'm in SC but also in a high mileage club. The rules I go by are that you can't touch privates. I usually say that you can touch my ass, maybe squeeze gently, hips and stomach and back are perfectly welcome, and if you touch my breasts you better be very gentle because "I have very sensetive nipples and they get sore if you aren't gentle". Then when I take off my top a little bit of help and I can prove that my nipples are indeed sensetive and they don't question me. I've had a couple that try to get sneeky but I usually playfully pat their hands away and tell them they're naughty and not to try that because we have cameras and I really like my job and don't want to get fired. I haven't had an incident where I had to stop dancing though I did have to pin a guys arms on the arms of a chair during a table dance on the main floor once, he thought it was hilarious so I played it up.

    Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with and if a guy isn't willing to pay you for what you have to offer then you don't want to dance for him anyway. Also, usually if they press for details on your rules then they're going to press your limits so if you DO accept then watch out for roaming hands or worse.

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