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    ok, so i have a handful of regulars who come in every week to visit me, and a few of them lately have gotten all crazy on me... i am very up-front with the regulars who i spend a lot of time with about the fact that i am in a serious relationship. but it seems like these guys get caught up in the fantasy of the club and think that the flirting and conversation and regular interaction means that something is going to happen between us, even thought i do not say anything that would indicate that. when you hang out with your regulars, of course you are sweet and charming and flirty... they are paying you!! why don't these guys get it that it does not mean that something will ever happen?! SC junkies can be such idiots... i hate it when guys forget that they are paying you to hang out and be nice to them.

    one of my regulars usually drops $300-$400 on me in a night every week or two, but i cannot deal with his emotional neediness... the money is only worth so much!

    sorry if there are already posts about this, i just wanted to vent some... do other people have similar experiences, and how do you minimize this type of interaction with regulars??

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    I have always had this problem, too. I think most dancers expierence this at some time or another. Regulars have a shelf life. It could be 6 weeks or 6 months, but eventually they all expect the dancer to put out for the amount of money that they have spent.

    It is like a fake relationship to some guys. They will see a dancer for a while, spend all of their time and/or money on their fav, then just like IRL dating, they will either expect more out of the relationship or will move on.

    For this reason, I always try to stay friendly with other dancer's regulars. You don't have to hustle or even try to sell them. Just let them know that you are a fun and flirty girl, too. Then, when he is ready to move on to another dancer, you will be at the top of his list.


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    This always happens to me! I was gonna start a thread on this but you did it for me
    I have a guy who refuses to buy dances, just pays me to sit and talk with him. He's the typical 40ish guy who sits at the back of the club wearing a tacky suit and smokes cigars. Well, he recently sent me a text message saying he loves me!!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW, that's what I get for giving my # out. I have refused to speak to him cuz of it. It really creeped me out. I totally agree, regulars only last so long. They eventually think you owe them for all the money they spend on you. I even had one guy who also creeped me out repeatedly come in to try to "get me back". He told me he was loosing sleep cuz I was mad at him and then once said, "Is that all I am to you? A paycheck!?" I felt kinda bad, but I said, "Well yeah, to be honest, you are". That's why you should try to get the most money you can out of them before they act all psyco

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    thats one of the reasons i never give my number to regulars. if they wanna see me, i tell them to call the club to see if im there that day. i would feel bad too if i was forced to tell them they were only my paycheck, but strip clubs arent like girlfriend banks or something.

    i had one guy come in and, even though he paid me the whole time just to sit there with him, he talked about how he needs a good woman and needs a girl to move in with him and blah blah blah... i never sat with him again although he comes in my club all the time. im sure his feelings got hurt because i avoid him, im not gonna put myself in an akward situation like that.

    it actually offends me when men come in and think theyre gonna be able to just pick up a girlfriend or something.

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    Oh! I had custy like this too about couple of years ago, Likely at the beginnig i didn't gv him a number... about 4 months in to his visits and after he spend 7gr. on me he said: so i'm getting frustradet in here. I invested so much money in you and you still didn't go out wiht me!
    i told him that sorry but when you go to grocery store every week and spend 2bills on food the owner doesn't owe you any more food or any other product!
    it worked he didn't bother me for while but then he got even more weird until i told him F---- off. and then he was gone. i hate regulars who creating a mind marrige with you.
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    i hadn't thought about regulars as having a "shelf life," but that totally makes sense. my other regular who got pscyho told me that he felt "alienated" because I missed work one night and he came into see me. i guess he thought i should have contacted him to let him know i was ok.... WTF?

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    Default Re: why are all my regulars turning psycho?

    Quote Originally Posted by funlatina82
    This always happens to me! I was gonna start a thread on this but you did it for me
    I have a guy who refuses to buy dances, just pays me to sit and talk with him. He's the typical 40ish guy who sits at the back of the club wearing a tacky suit and smokes cigars. Well, he recently sent me a text message saying he loves me!!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW, that's what I get for giving my # out. I have refused to speak to him cuz of it. It really creeped me out. I totally agree, regulars only last so long. They eventually think you owe them for all the money they spend on you. I even had one guy who also creeped me out repeatedly come in to try to "get me back". He told me he was loosing sleep cuz I was mad at him and then once said, "Is that all I am to you? A paycheck!?" I felt kinda bad, but I said, "Well yeah, to be honest, you are". That's why you should try to get the most money you can out of them before they act all psyco

    And this is why customers who want sex shouldn't be giving money *at all* to dancers.

    You'd much rather not have the money, and I'm cool with that, because I'd much rather you not have it as well.

    No lay, no pay.

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