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    Of all the many many customers who have came and went, there's one or more that you (some of you anyway) have dated, maybe even gotten serious about. What was different about them from all the custys you don't and never would date? Were they especially good looking? Especially wealthy? Especially funny, strong (inside or out), hung like a ? Or was there something about some that you can't quite explain? Just trying to get an idea of what it is that stands out about those few customers who actually get to date a stripper.

    PS: Don't suppose any of you who have dated customers have ever dated one who was a non-successful, non-accomplished loner who has no interest in other people except for wanting a girlfriend?

    "Hey ladies. I'm Ben. Wanna take a ride on the Stud Machine? Chiseled 6'2", 240 lb frame. Ex-male stripper (until I had to quit cause I was making the ladies too wild). Women call me "Big Ben" in bed, if you know what I mean. Wanna see why? Leave me a message."

    And "submit". Now I can....NOOO!! NOT MY REAL PIC!! I WANTED TO USE THE ONE I FOUND ON THAT GAY PORN SITE!! HOW THE @#$% DO I EDIT IT?? WHAT THE @#$%!!!!!

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    Default Re: Customers you've dated; what was different about them?

    I've "dated" a couple of guys that I met in a strip club.
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    "D" was probably the most significant. He came in about every 2 months for a couple of times, and I wouldn't call him a regular....but I knew he'd get like 5-6 dances off me if I saw him. He never really left an impression on me except I thought he was a little stuck up. Not especially good-looking, but okay.

    Well, one night he came in and he was dressed really well. He smelled amazing. He had on a Gucci belt and shoes. I was doing my dances for him and we started talking and I got into it. We ended up doing like 15 dances and I told him I wanted to stop (I don't usually do that, obviously, but it fucks with my head when I'm turned on.) He wanted to do more. So we did. Then we closed and he went home jsut like he always did.

    He came back a few days later and I was so happy. He could tell. He came to buy more dances, but I told him to call me instead.....and we lasted like 5 months.
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    Then there was "V" who came in with his best friend on a slow night. They were both attractive and normally I'd avoid them because I can't hustle them for the reason I stated above. We had a really good conversation and he asked if he could call me. I said I'd think about it. I left him and watched him the rest of the night. I wanted to make sure he wasn't doing that to all the girls. I did let him call me and we dated a few times.....but in the end, not compatible.

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    Then there was "B" who was just plain hot, but he opened his mouth and idiocy came out. it ruined everything until I realized he had a huge dick and he started talking dirty in a way that I liked. So that was a one-night stand.

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    So basically dress nice, be good looking (no hope there), smell good, be a good conversationalist, same thing most non-dancer women seem to want as well. Nah.......too much work. There's always internet porn.

    "Hey ladies. I'm Ben. Wanna take a ride on the Stud Machine? Chiseled 6'2", 240 lb frame. Ex-male stripper (until I had to quit cause I was making the ladies too wild). Women call me "Big Ben" in bed, if you know what I mean. Wanna see why? Leave me a message."

    And "submit". Now I can....NOOO!! NOT MY REAL PIC!! I WANTED TO USE THE ONE I FOUND ON THAT GAY PORN SITE!! HOW THE @#$% DO I EDIT IT?? WHAT THE @#$%!!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainQuantum
    So basically dress nice, be good looking (no hope there), smell good, be a good conversationalist, same thing most non-dancer women seem to want as well. Nah.......too much work. There's always internet porn.

    It'll do you good too you know. Better shape means better health - and often means better looks. A bit of change in the pocket is always a good thing.
    Conversation outside of "show me your boobs!" can be rewarding too.
    Last edited by Deogol; 07-29-2006 at 01:55 PM. Reason: quick slip of tongue

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    not trying to be rude, but if you don't respect yourself or your prospective lady enough to take care of yourself and look as good as you possibly can, then you will NEVER.......LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN, "NEVER!!!!!!" GET A WOMAN'S AFFECTION. if that sounds like too much work and you are too stupid to recognize the side effects and behavior of your legitamate porn addiction than maybe you should seriously consider nuetering yourself...believe me, it will save you the trouble and heart ache, AND it will keep your "less than desirable" genes OUT of the gene pool.

    if i were you (and thank god i'm not) i wouls get porn addiction counseling because my husband had/has your same problem. how do i know? you have ALL the tale-tell signs, symptoms, and behavioral patterns of the addiction.

    P.S. YOUR SPEED SEDUCTION THREAD PISS WOMEN THE F*CK OFF, CONGRADULATIONS YOUR SEX APPEAL IS IN THE NEGATIVES.

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    P.P.S not that it will help, Captain Quantum Negativity, but you give geeks, dorks, and nerds a bad name. i hope i don't see you at gencon in a few weeks. actually, if you went then maybe you'll get to see all the REALLY unattractive men who get the girl because of there awesome attitudes and how fun they are...IE my 6' obese (yeah, he's big), four-eyed, belching (publicly and proudly!!), D&D playing, minature collecting, clinically unattractive husband (oh yeah!! i bagged me a geek!!). i love him AND i married him b/c of not his looks, but his personalty. and don't even entertain the thought that i may not be that goodlooking and you wouldn't get a decent girl if you were more positive...because i'll be in MAXIM'S Hometown Hotties this year.

    change your attitude, and maybe you'll get that special someone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonn
    i wouls get porn addiction counseling because my husband had/has your same problem. how do i know? you have ALL the tale-tell signs, symptoms, and behavioral patterns of the addiction.
    All I've said is that I'm too lazy to work on myself to get a woman, and it would be easier to just stick with porn. That's an addiction? If I won the lottery or something and instantly became attractive to (some) good looking women, I can honestly say I would never look at porn again. Why would I, if I had real live good looking women to fool around with? I don't have those women now, hence the usefulness of porn. Doesn't sound like an addiction to me, oh wait, I'm probably in "denial". Yeah, that must be it.

    "Hey ladies. I'm Ben. Wanna take a ride on the Stud Machine? Chiseled 6'2", 240 lb frame. Ex-male stripper (until I had to quit cause I was making the ladies too wild). Women call me "Big Ben" in bed, if you know what I mean. Wanna see why? Leave me a message."

    And "submit". Now I can....NOOO!! NOT MY REAL PIC!! I WANTED TO USE THE ONE I FOUND ON THAT GAY PORN SITE!! HOW THE @#$% DO I EDIT IT?? WHAT THE @#$%!!!!!

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    it most likely is, you're not in denial, you don't no it exists. most people never do, you'll crave it even when you get a woman...if you get one. i pin pointed your addiction by you other behaviors and your tone so far, not your need for it.

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    I met my current boyfriend at the club. he didnt really say or do anything to me but he caught my eye when i was dancing for someone else when i was on stage. i felt like we clicked, as dumb as that sounds but we had eye contact and i just felt the need to give him my number. I dont know, he doesnt really go to the club, except to visit me once in a while. im very happy with him it was just one of those things i guess.

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    oh and i should mention that i never danced for him. i refuse. i feel like, i dont know, it just wouldnt be right.

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    I'm totally on board with Bonn. I'm a nude model, and a dancer, and I'm a natural FF and a size three - and I don't date guys for looks. Why? Cause I wouldn't want some guy to just be dating me for my looks. I bagged me a geek, too - he's the same height as me (5', thick glasses, heavy set, all that and an engineer to boot - and it doesn't matter. I don't care what he makes. I don't care how he dresses (though clean is always a must). He's sexy to me cause he makes me laugh and think.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sauske
    I met my current boyfriend at the club. he didnt really say or do anything to me but he caught my eye when i was dancing for someone else when i was on stage. i felt like we clicked, as dumb as that sounds but we had eye contact and i just felt the need to give him my number. I dont know, he doesnt really go to the club, except to visit me once in a while. im very happy with him it was just one of those things i guess.
    Then let HIM tip you, since HE is the one fucking you.

    If you had any clue how much money these admissions are going to wind up costing this industry....

    I'm not going to pay to get other men laid. Period. If you don't root out every last dancer who does this, you'll just wind up getting rid of the customers.

    Don't want to hear it? Fine? Want to delete my threads? One more reason not to tip and one more printout to show to a dancer and explain why. Every time I get a thread deleted from here or banned, it just adds one more lock to my wallet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonn
    not trying to be rude, but if you don't respect yourself or your prospective lady enough to take care of yourself and look as good as you possibly can, then you will NEVER.......LET ME SAY THAT AGAIN, "NEVER!!!!!!" GET A WOMAN'S AFFECTION.
    Well, since women make such thoughtful relationship choices, we can assume that every thread about abusive/cheating/loser boyfriends relates to a man that the dancer chose so thoughtfully.

    Once again: YOUR CUSTOMERS READ THESE BOARDS. You think words like that are going to cause us to tip you? If there's another sucker who will take my place at your bar, enjoy him, but don't be surprised if you wind up with the lower end of the food chain.

    You think sex is the only arena in this world? You think no woman ever needs a favor from me? You are wrong.

    And any woman who needs me for anything, even a life-or-death situation, is going to hear the word NO. Because of women just like you.

    Hope you are proud.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonn
    P.P.S not that it will help, Captain Quantum Negativity, but you give geeks, dorks, and nerds a bad name. i hope i don't see you at gencon in a few weeks. actually, if you went then maybe you'll get to see all the REALLY unattractive men who get the girl because of there awesome attitudes and how fun they are...IE my 6' obese (yeah, he's big), four-eyed, belching (publicly and proudly!!), D&D playing, minature collecting, clinically unattractive husband (oh yeah!! i bagged me a geek!!). i love him AND i married him b/c of not his looks, but his personalty. and don't even entertain the thought that i may not be that goodlooking and you wouldn't get a decent girl if you were more positive...because i'll be in MAXIM'S Hometown Hotties this year.

    change your attitude, and maybe you'll get that special someone.

    Thought of the day was provided by:
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    I'd rather pay for sex than ever change myself to win over a woman like this.

    When God judges men, it won't be on how often we get laid, or how hot the women were.

    But thanks for letting me know just how much contempt you have for men. I might have been stupid and kept on tipping you girls.

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    Looks don't matter so much as selfless behavior. If you get joy out of giving to other's, this is extremely attractive. For any relationship to be successful (even if it is short term) you have to put the other person's needs foremost in your mind, and then do all you can to fulfil the needs of that other person.

    For instance, today I would love nothing more than to go shopping, to the salon and out to lunch with one of my female friends. But, my husband is so behind on his work that I am going to go to his job (as soon as I'm off from my job at noon), roll up my sleeves and work with him until late tonight. I know he would do the same for me in a reverse situation (and has). That was obvious to me the moment I met him. I did meet him at a night club I was working at (as a cocktail waitress, not as a dancer), and he was the first (and only) customer I've ever dated from the club.

    Dating and relationships are not a 50/50 effort. It is a 100% effort on the part of both people. If one person is not doing everything possible to keep the other happy, then the relationship will fail. Maintaining a good relationship is hard work. It is just like anything else in life.

    If you just educated yourself enough to get your job, but stopped putting any effort forth to keep your job, how long will your boss keep you around? Not Long, I would guess. Same with relationships. You must constantly be aware that there is always someone else who wants to take your place ( in either relationships of jobs), so you must always be at the top of your game for fear of replacement.

    Relationships can be just like keeping a job. If you are a good employee, an occasional f*ck up won't get you fired. Same with relationships. If you occassionally screw up with your girlfriend, contrition can go a long way (she needs to be the same way, though). If she can't accept that you are human and will make mistakes from time to time, then she is not doing her 100%, and vice versa.

    So, basically, there is no "secret" to making a relationship work aside from working at it. If it is too much effort to give of yourself selflessly to another person with joy and love in your heart, then yes, porn is a substitue (albeit a poor one). It is sort of like the difference between actually traveling to new and exciting locations, or watching a special about it on The Travel Channel.


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    Nice girls don't work for organized crime, Paris.

    Who runs your industry?

    Get off the soapbox.

    Your whole industry is based on the financial destruction of sexually weak men.

    Soon as your looks go, so does your relevance, your job, and likely, your man.

    Want to moderate this post or ban me? Go ahead. Just one more lock on my wallet.

    Looks don't make you ethical, or smart. They make you something guys, including your husband, want to fuck. Nothing more, nothing less. Who you choose to fuck is not a moral statement about the man.

    I'm glad for you that so many men are so stupid that they'll keep feeding money for you to use to fuck other men, but not all of us are that stupid.

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    The difference between customers I've dated and customers I haven't? Bottomline (and this is going to sound mean), the guys I've dated weren't really "customers." They were not the guys coming in once a month or every other week spending money on me. Truth be told, I would never seriously date those guys. No, the guys I dated were the ones who rarely came into strip clubs, and when they did, it was part of a guy's night out. While I enjoy hanging out with a guy who doesn't mind taking me to a strip club every once in a while, in general, I will run from a man who frequents strip clubs. Yeah, I know, sounds like a bit of a double standard...but I'm retired...so...ha!

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    I doubt I'll ever date anyone I meet through work again. The one serious relationship was with a man who turned out to be more conniving than any stripper I ever met. (Must have been in the gene pool- his sister was a stripper at a famous Bay Area club. I bet she did well.) Of course, I am at fault too for letting the relationship get out of hand.

    I have retained a few wonderful male friends from my time at a club that was next to a Navy base...a lot of very nice, normal guys cam in there because it was 1 of 2 American bars close to the base.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BrainyDancerGirl
    The difference between customers I've dated and customers I haven't? Bottomline (and this is going to sound mean), the guys I've dated weren't really "customers." They were not the guys coming in once a month or every other week spending money on me. Truth be told, I would never seriously date those guys. No, the guys I dated were the ones who rarely came into strip clubs, and when they did, it was part of a guy's night out. While I enjoy hanging out with a guy who doesn't mind taking me to a strip club every once in a while, in general, I will run from a man who frequents strip clubs. Yeah, I know, sounds like a bit of a double standard...but I'm retired...so...ha!

    So in other words, the less often I visit the same club, the less I spent, and the more approval I have from a group of men (which women say are mostly scum), the more likely you are to fuck me.

    Thanks for saving me even MORE money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    I doubt I'll ever date anyone I meet through work again. The one serious relationship was with a man who turned out to be more conniving than any stripper I ever met. (Must have been in the gene pool- his sister was a stripper at a famous Bay Area club. I bet she did well.) Of course, I am at fault too for letting the relationship get out of hand.

    I have retained a few wonderful male friends from my time at a club that was next to a Navy base...a lot of very nice, normal guys cam in there because it was 1 of 2 American bars close to the base.
    Did he ever prove his sister was a dancer or was that just a line to get your guard down?

    So, how many times did this CUSTOMER get sex from you? If he's staff, then he's using MY MONEY to get close to you and that's still a reason not to tip. I do not pay to get other men laid.

    Since I doubt you're going to balance the scales with other customers, the smartest idea for me seems to be to stop tipping the dancers. Oh yeah, that's why I became a "club customer."

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    never had the opportunity to date a customer....always had a bf

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    I don't really get why this question is even being asked? Strippers are still women. It's not like they drink a secret potion or anything. They like the guys they like. Nuff said.

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    I met my BF at a strip club and thought he was cute, funny, nice, liked science fiction and was very smart. He also asked to hang out sometime. I can't really put my finger on why I said yes, other than the above-listed reasons that I found attractive. Something clicked. He stood out from the other 500+ guys that asked over the course of my dancing career...I'm picky. A guy has to have a certain personality that meshes with mine in order for me to be interested. Of course I have to be attracted to him, etc., but genuinely enjoying spending time with said person qualifies that attraction. I never felt like he was a "customer," and didn't try to get him to spend $$ on me. It was hard, at first, to wrap my mind around the whole thing, though. To the OP: if a girl in a SC is going to like you, she's going to like you...just like at any other meeting place. Although SC dynamics are more complex and varied, as you are at her place of work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Madcap
    I don't really get why this question is even being asked? Strippers are still women. It's not like they drink a secret potion or anything. They like the guys they like. Nuff said.
    That's true, but we do have different standards. We have to be more suspicious of a guy wanting to see us outside the club.. does he just want to fuck you? Does he just want to brag to his buddies he's dating a stripper? Or does he want your money? That can make us harder to date than other women.

    And Bonn, I don't think he deserved to have you go off on him like that. It sounded to me like he was joking. Lighten up?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Persona
    That's true, but we do have different standards. We have to be more suspicious of a guy wanting to see us outside the club.. does he just want to fuck you? Does he just want to brag to his buddies he's dating a stripper? Or does he want your money? That can make us harder to date than other women.

    That's a good point Persona. And you didn't even mention the possibility that he's a stalker or rapist or what have you. What do you ladies think though of guys who perhaps find a gentleman's club a less intimidating - if not practical - way to meet and get to know pretty women because its the dancers' job to be friendly, even flirty, with them? The fear of rejection isn't there - until he actually asks her out or asks her phone # of course. Then he finds out like Persona said, that if anything getting a date with a dancer is harder than outside the club for the above reasons.

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