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    I feel very ignorant asking this question but I am very curious to know where most girls that dance for a living came from (socio-economically speaking.) There seems to be this certain stereotype (at least that I’ve seen) that all strippers came from lower class backgrounds, broken homes, were abused, and raised by drug addict parents. I sincerely apologize if I offend anyone by being so naive but I am completely new to all of this.

    I KNOW my family would be extremely disappointed if they ever found out I was stripper. My parents are still together, paid for private school tuition, 8 years of dance lessons…I suppose I don’t exactly NEED the money to live off of right now as I am still mostly financially supported by my family and they are fine with that but in a year I will be expected to have finished my final year of college but unfortunately, there is just no way that’s going to happen in one year.

    I’m partly afraid I will continue to be a burden on my family and partly I just really enjoy being in the spotlight and love the atmosphere of most strip clubs I’ve patronized and those are my main reasons for wanting to pursue exotic dancing. I suppose I’m just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and how they managed to pull it off or if there are any regrets.

    Sorry this was so long but things seem entirely too complicated right now to go at this alone. This is a wonderful site and I am now officially addicted to hearing what everyone has to say.

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    My home life was horrible & my family (who I lived with) was broke-ass broke. I had nothing to lose by being a stripper. It was the best thing I ever did. Stripperweb is a great resource for prospective dancers, if I had been able to read it BEFORE I began, it would have been such a help.
    Why do dancers feel like they have to apologize to the whole world for supporting themselves...? Do what you need to, take care of yourself.....

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    My life sucked very badley.

    My dad beat the shit out of Me and My Mum and My brother also bet the shit out of Me. I have been having anxcity attacts since I was only 6 years old! My parents got divorced when I was 9 years old. I was only 10 years old when I frist got suspened from school. I haven't passed a grade since grade 6. I droped out of school when I was 15. Did lots of drugs and got drunk all the time.

    Now I'm dancing and I have smarted up ALOT.

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    I come from a great family. My parents are still together and I have three other sibilings. We're all in college. My parents are upper-class. But not extremely upper-class like oil tycoon's or something crazy like that.
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    My family got a divorce when I was five but it was amicable and my dad ended up moving into the apartment complex next to my mom. I was never beaten or any of that. My father was a musician, my mom in high computer labratory job. I have a sister who hasn't become a stripper yet, haha, so I don't know.
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    My parents were idealistic idiots who had 6 kids despite my dad's measly teacher's salary and chronic illness. My mother is a mentally ill woman who felt that her only purpose was to be a mom (an ok one, she had frequent panic attacks, severe issues, severe hypochondria, and blames me for many problems). Dad's an idealistic Christian who wanted to look good, and "loved Japan so much" that he melded with the culture by sticking his dick in a Japanese woman (the first one who came along, and he stupidly thought that he could help her with her issues and is more of a daddy to her than a husband). They were also Asian parents who wanted to look good, because god knows all plain white Americans are stupid and all Asians are smart. The claim to be poor but happy, but I see their facade breaking due to dad's forced retirement from chronic illness.

    I started stripping because I needed money to move back to Texas.

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    My parents are now seperated but not divorced. My mother has severe problems, my father is a sociopath and use to beat me up before my parents seperated, took all the money that was designated for my education, moved back to my country and refused to pay child-support. All my family is overseas except for my mother and my brother. I started stripping as soon as I turned 18.

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    Spoiled only child here. Middle class abuse-free and drug/alcohol-free family. Worldwide travel and shopping sprees. Received everything I wanted and more. I have no idea why I made such shitty choices (unrelated to dancing) after I hit adulthood.


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    My mom dances/owns a SC. She's been married five times (or seven, if you count marrying the same person twice as 2, rather than 1). Damn if she didn't always pick the losers - abusive physically, mentally, and sexually. By fifteen, I was a FF, and one day my mom took me to work with her. Been stripping and living on my own ever since.

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    i come from an upper class family... i had everything i wanted growing up... I hate to say it but i was very spoiled.. I didn't know anything else.. Yeah i had a few jobs in high school, but it wasn't like i desperately needed the money.. Now that I am an adult i don't go crying to my parents for money... They helped to pay my way through school but i am dancing on my own... making my own money.... I think its nuts how many guys ask me all the time if i had been abused, raped, neglected, molested as a child... Not everyone was involved in a situation like that... Its amazing the kind of girls you meet at work who come from all different sorts of backgrounds.. ya never know who you'll meet in this industry.... Its shocking sometimes...

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    I didn't have a fantastic upbringing, but it wasn't all that bad either. My divorced parents are both heavy drinkers with sharp tongues, but I've never been exposed to physical abuse..EVER. My very Christian granny raised me.
    I started dancing to get away from the 40+ hour work week and for travel. I stopped travelling when I met my military boyf because I'm scared of losing time with him. He goes overseas soon and I am gone from here!!

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    you know what I think? I think that the girls in the industry who were abused or molested while growing up are more open and forthcoming about it. I think that women at 9-5's who were abused are just more hush-hush about it.


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    I come from a lower class family. My mom was a single parent, raising 3 girls and 1 boy. She definately exceeds the title when it comes to mother of the year. She never made us "feel" as if we were poor. Yea, we may not have a steak dinner but we never missed a meal, even if it meant we had to each grits and pancakes for dinner...we still ate.

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    My parents don't know, either. They divorced when I was at an early age, both are factory workers, both remarried. No abuse, I'm still close to both, my dad's a very devout Protestant Christian... we never were banking but my dad's doing good now and my mom... well she'll always be in debt working in a damn factory where they treat her like dogshit. My mom is my only motivation to get rich- to help her out. I'm dancing now because it's the most financially sound option I have- pay off my debt, put myself through school (even though it's paid for- thanks gi!) and put money back.

    I think it's admirable that you don't wanna continue to be supported by your parents, and that you're doing what YOU want. I wish I could give you advice on parents, but I can't. My plan was to maybe tell mine when I was in school and doing good- if they see everything else in your life is going OK, and then it should be easier, IMO.
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    First of all, I'd like to say that anyone can end up in the sex industry, not just the lower socioeconomic classes. Paris Hilton is a perfect example of that (you might argue that she is a pop icon, but she was a complete nobody until her "porno" film emerged, convienently, a month or so before the premier of The Simple Life).

    My own background is two working class parents. I was a strong willed child and would probably be labled ADHD or ADD and highly medicated if I were a teen today. There was nothing remarkably odd about my up bringing. We weren't rich or poor, we did all the normal stuff.

    I became a dancer because of pride and financial hardship. I found that I love the job, and so I kept dancing, I've got no real motivation to quit dancing, so I'll just keep going until they thow me off the stage and toss my walker behind me.


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    My parents divorced when I was 11, and my dad remarried when I was 14. He was a plastic surgeon until his retirement 2 years ago. Despite his status as a surgeon, I'd say we were middle to upper-middle class at best. I definitely grew up with severe daddy issues and massive insecurities about my body & looks in general (but I never had him do anything more extreme than removing a few moles). Mom was an elementary school art teacher who never stood up for herself when it came to child support, and Dad wasn't going to offer any extra if she wasn't asking for it.

    Still, I know how very lucky I was. I got to go to college for dance and only had to work part time, plus my student loan payments aren't nearly as bad as some friends I know.
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    i guess i had a trailer trash upbringing....

    mum was alcohole dependant. her mother was an escort,spilt from my dad when i was a few months old, after finding her mother murdered, mum then hit rock bottom,and never really surfaced.
    i grew up with my grandparents,as mum was not able to care for me properly. got severly brainwashed my my grandmother...another story altogether.was a naughty kid at school.but never bad enoguh to get in any trouble other then a few detentions.got extreamly good grades.
    at 17 dropped out of school (as i call it) to go to uni a year early (i was a year ahead at school) but dropped out of uni after a few months to start dancing and become independant from the grandparents who were a mindfuck.

    my lil bro (16) grew up living with my mum, hes a naughty kid now, so im looking at brining him to live with me, i know a persons personality is made up so much of surroundings, hes not happy living in poverty,yet its a trap.

    i dont think ANY of that contributes to the fact that I decided to become a dancer.

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    People don't associate female sexuality with intelligence or class... It is always annoying when folks assume we've been abused or come from shitty backgrounds.

    Well-bred and well-read, private school educated, rents were paying for college, but I've always been very independent and started dancing b/c I didn't want to be on their dime. I prefer to call my own shots. My rents are divorced but great friends. They're both conservative and republican... They'd freak if they knew I dance.
    Mom is an exec, dad is a business owner, sister is a lawyer. I'm a chronic over acheiver who has learned to relax, speaks 3 langs and has the resume/job experience of someone about 5-10 years my senior.
    I'll earn 2 degrees and earn ~85k working 3-4 days a week in a vanilla profession in the next ~4 years, but you bet I'll be reserving one night a week to dance (and bump myself into 6 figs).
    I'm 21 btw. Started college at 17 then took a year and a half off to establish myself financially and recover from a chronic illness. Started dancing @ 20 in Dec 05. Expecting my 1st baby in December 06 so won't be back to the pole 'til Jan 08 hopefully sooner... You know I miss the money!
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    Back at school full time for the next 4 years, btw.... Can't want to have it over and done with...
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    Upper middle class, only child, parents still together, never suffered any abuse.

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