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    i have this big thing about manners.

    i cant stand a person who doesnt say excuse me, sorry or shoves to signal someone who is in their way. i generally expect that people should have some basic manners.in a strip club, im not so sure this is the case.

    im sick and fucking tired of dancers and other employees walking right in front of me,cutting me off when im waiting to book in dances (we have like a desk, and a first come first book basis to put dances thru the computer. these girls shove in randomly to get their dance put thru first) never ever saying 'excuse me' or even sorry.

    i consider myself a nice dancer generally, i say thank you constantly, i think im polite, i stand back and not push. i dont think it helps me get anywhere. unless you kiss ass in a sc, being polite means nothing. people dont notice that, they notice dancers who suck up 'omg! thats dress is soooo hot!' (omg like your so freaking fake!!!) sometimes i just feel invisible,it sucks.

    should i change my attitude towards politness in order to make more money like the other girls? im really not seeing any other solution to this, and ranting will get me nowhere either!

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    I know how you feel as I am in the same boat. I think with attitudes like that surrounding you the best thing to do is look out for number 1!
    Ot alternatively if your feeling brave if a girl pushes in say excuse me I was waiting here first. Its up to you though you know how the girls are and what your confidence is like.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz

    should i change my attitude towards politness in order to make more money like the other girls? im really not seeing any other solution to this, and ranting will get me nowhere either!
    I say no, you shouldn't. Just be who you are and don't compromise to people less considerate than you are. Ultimately, it will come back to haunt them. All it takes is one customer to see their behavior and it's lost revenue for them and more for you. Whenever these situations arise where you feel like strangling some of these dancers, ask yourself, "Would I rather be happy than right?" Sometime being right doesn't make the situation better...it even makes it worse. You don't have to necessarily like it, just understand it and deal with it. Maybe even laugh at it. Ultimately, you'll be the better person.

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    There is an older dancer at my club who pulled me to the side once. She told me that I'm just so nice that most nice girls dont' last in this business long. She said this business really makes you turn cold and hard, and have more of a "me, me, me, or go f*** yourself" kinda attitude.

    Anyway, I agree w/ DW. I dont think you should change who you are. Trust me, there is always someone watching.







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    I'm a very polite person too (unless you are listening to me bitch at other drivers when I'm behind the wheel - lol). I think customers are able to tell you have class and ethics and this will end up working to your advantage in the long run.
    Don't stoop to the level of these girls. If one really does something nasty to you, say something, but don't cause a scene.

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    thanks

    i was really starting to rethink some of my attitudes towards politness. if you cant beat them,join them.

    i was so fed up with it on friday night, i made less then half what id normally make (yep, i took to sulking, bad bad!) and didnt bother going in on saturday cos i was feeling negative towards work.

    *sigh* ok, i wont change, ill just keep getting shoved out of the way,and pulled back down.i dont have the balls to tells these girls to 'move the fuck out of my way' for a change haha

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    wow, i can't beieve it gets like that! i suppose to my advantage, i'm a bigger fish in a fairly little pond so i don't think anyone would try that with me but still...... how rude.
    where i am we are all polite to each other and work as a team
    . occasionally we get girls that are major bitches and try that shit but we just explain the way things work where we are and if they don't like it we will all have a lovely chat to management.

    you must have a magnet to bitches. i was just going thru the review section and saw your old review for mens gallery melbourne. i laughed out loud when i saw who said that crap to you about "we are all bitches here- we don't like new girls taking our money"
    i work with her very closely these days and i can SO see her saying that. she was in her comfort zone there as a BIG fish for so many years and at the height of her ego. she's left the gallery now and has mellowed a lot. funnily enough, she generally speaks to me for approval before she says anything these days because i am the "voice of reason" and she knows she'll get herself into trouble.
    now that she's moved and a few of her buddies have 'hung up the stilleto's', the gallery is a little more approachable which is why the girls in the reviews are all defending it so much after your post.

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    its not so much that the girls are bitchy, the girls at my current club are generally lovely, we dont have drama or anything. its just the little things, im just shocked they dont say 'excuse me' when they walk right in front of someone or whatever...its just rude. maybe im just sensitive to that.

    lol,yeah im still shocked that chick said that too me at mens gallery. totally put me off ever going there.

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    being a nice, polite person doesn't have to mean being a doormat. i'm a well mannered polite girl but i also don't take shit from bitchy girls. next time you're in line, stand your ground. position yourself & use body language that says "i'm right here, in line, in front of you ". and if someone tries cut in front of you, call them on it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by spoiledpet
    being a nice, polite person doesn't have to mean being a doormat. i'm a well mannered polite girl but i also don't take shit from bitchy girls. next time you're in line, stand your ground. position yourself & use body language that says "i'm right here, in line, in front of you ". and if someone tries cut in front of you, call them on it.
    Excellent posts - I agree wholeheartedly with DW.

    And yes, if the gals are rude, politely call them on it. While it probably won't change their behavior with you, all it will do is wind the rude gals up more and yes, we customers can definitely tell.


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    [QUOTE=DancerWealth]All it takes is one customer to see their behavior and it's lost revenue for them and more for you. QUOTE]

    Exactly...I'm a very polite person too. One night a girl and I went to try and sit with a large group. When we walked up they all looked at us and the girl asked if they wanted some company...they said not right now so she replied "Well have fun watching for free asshole" I just shrugged and said "I hope you guys have a great night"
    I went to sit at the bar cause my stage was soon and a couple minutes later the ringleader of the group walked up and handed me a $20. When i asked him what it was for he said "It's just a thank you for not being rude to us" haha score! The other girl was soo pissed
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    I totally agree with spoiled pet. There is a difference between being assertive and aggressive. You can still be polite and assertive.

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    There is polite, and then there is letting people walk all over you. I'm pretty polite, but if some bitch started pushing in front of me in the lapdance que, I'd first simply step back in front of her with a loud (not yelling) and firm "I was in line here" and pull my custy with me. If that didn't work I'd push the bitch back. No sense letting others take advantage of your being nice. I agree in the SC some toughness is warranted.

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    i feel the same way....i am shy so i dont speak my mind....i need to learn how to stand up for myself cause i am too nice to people who i shouldnt be nice to

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    to put in my two cents, I actually get lots of comments from custies who notice that I'm one of the few girls to thank them both when they give me the tip(s) on stage but then also, when I have time, after I've gotten off stage. Also, one thing that I'm always second guessing myself about, and yet it seems to go over great with the clientele is me asking the guy if he'd like someone to talk to or not...that way if he doesn't, I haven't createde an awkward situation by just sitting down when he wasn't ready...fuck these impolite bitches...I get more good karma from doing things my way, thanks.
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    Having Etiquette and manners will take you places, you will outshine people who lack it. People think you are easy to take advantage of if you are polite and always nice. I used to have exactly the same problems as Mermaid but now I say what I think and stand up for myself with a bit of tact. For example when someone pushes in front of you say "Exuse me, I have been waiting here I think you are behind me, thanks" and stand your ground. She will probably look at you wiered and have a bitch later but stuff her. You can have manners and still be firm, just think thank god you are not like them. They want a lady on the street and a freak in the bed or in our case in private rooms!!..... Oh and Mens Gallery definately has a big fish little fish thing going on, i want to read that review , lol

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    Polite dancers are the best! So don't let anyone tell you different!
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