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    Default Frustrated with club....are they toying with me?

    Sorry this is so long I'm just at a loss and need encouragement/advice...

    So I'm 5'8 130 lbs size 5-6. About a month ago I was 145 lbs and a size 6-8. I've been at this club a year and a half and have never had problems or caused problems. A month ago a manager at my club pulled me aside and with 4 or 5 others in the room told me I was getting fat. Fine but tell me in private and tell me more details about it right? I ask if I'm on weight restriction..no.
    Ok, so I start eating better and working out anyways. Over the next couple weeks two more managers pulled me aside to tell me I was fat I tell each of them I've been working out and eating better and in these two weeks I had lost 7 lbs.
    A week after the last manager talked to me(about 2.5 weeks after the initial talking to) I was leaving to go home wearing jeans and a sweatshirt walked by the main manager of all the clubs in our area and he sent a manager from my club after me. He grabs me in the middle of the floor and says 'youre going to fucking hate me' I ask why and he goes 'you know why' and I asked if i was fired and he tells me 'technically we can't fire you, you're breached, main manager sent me !running! after you to tell you'
    So I'm pissed, I leave and call our general manager who tells me he had talked to the main manager telling him I've been losing weight he told him he 'didn't see ANY diffference'. He hadn't seen me on stage that night. He saw me leaving fully clothed carrying 2 bags. It was written down that I still had a week and a half before they were going to breach me for not showing improvement. General manager tells me to lose the weight and come back.

    So a couple weeks later I've lost 10 more lbs. doing cardio 60 minutes a day+light weights and eating only vegetables fruits and lean meat. I call my main manager who is now sweet as pie and he sets up a meeting with him the next day. These clubs are 40 minutes away from my house. I make the drive am 15 minutes early and sit and wait an hour. He talks to me (nicely) for all of 5 minutes tells me he needs to see how I look on stage and tells general manager to put me back on the schedule and he'll see how I look on Thursday.

    So I feel like I've gotten the run around. Nobodies told me anything but I'm a heiffer for the past month and nobodies told me exactly what needs to happen. I'm worried I'm going to go in on Thursday and he's just going to send me home again even though everybody has been telling me I look a lot better. If he does I'm out $30+ in gas that I don't have to spend and out a lot of time I could've been making money. Theres girls at this club who are larger than I was who carry their weight badly(all in their stomaches) and girls who look very unfortunate and look like they could use a few sandwiches. Theres girls who miss shifts skip out on fees and drink underage. I make money, I show up, I pay fees, I've always been porportional and I feel like he's just suddenly coming down on me from out of nowhere. It's a huge headache, nobody will tell me exactly what they want from me and nobody will tell me why it's suddenly me.

    Is this normal of clubs? I'm having a hard time deciphering whether he's being legit with me or if he's just giving me the runaround some more. On one hand he wouldn't have told me to go back thursday if he didn't see a difference but on the other hand I didn't feel I had a problem and neither did the general manager (especially compared to some other girls) and I do look a lot better but I feel he'll still be overly critical of me since suddenly he's been cracking down on me.

    Should I chance it or just go to another club? I'm sorry I don't have any pictures I'm sure that would help greatly.

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    Sounds like one of the managers wants to fuck you, and isn't.

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    I don't have useful advice for your predicament. But, I am a frequent customer of your club, I got a bunch of dances from you around a month ago (assuming you are Tori the engineering student), and I thought you were great -- attractive, interesting, and quite charismatic. Your mngmt is way off base here, it'll be their loss IMO.

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    Woah, no useful advice but I'm 5'9'' and 130 and you are in no way fat! WTF?!?! What kind of club do you work at?

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    Dude, I'm 5'3" and 130 lbs and no one has ever said I was fat. I carry it in the right places, i suppose, but at 5'8" there's no way anythign between 130-150 could look bad on you. I don't know what's wrong with your club :-/

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    Quote Originally Posted by lolagetz
    Dude, I'm 5'3" and 130 lbs and no one has ever said I was fat. I carry it in the right places, i suppose, but at 5'8" there's no way anythign between 130-150 could look bad on you. I don't know what's wrong with your club :-/

    150 might look iffy. But shiiet, even then, if you carry it in the hips and booty that's all that matters!

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    ce'st moi! thank you for replying. wanna come cheer me on tomorrow night? i'm nervous as all hell!

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    GOOD LUCK!! You probably don't need it, you sound like you look completely fine!

    I'll be sending you good vibes throughout the day tomorrow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TifaRae
    150 might look iffy. But shiiet, even then, if you carry it in the hips and booty that's all that matters!
    Hey now, those are my stats! (yeah, it's in the booty & hips!) Even though I'm working on losing weight, I've NEVER had a manager, custie, or co-worker tell me I'm too big to dance nor have I seen a decrease in my earnings.

    If I remember correctly Tori, you're right up the street from my club aren't you? A couple of times a year we get a few girls from your club defect to mine. 99% of the time it's because thier management has gone on a witch hunt for the "fat" girls. What kills me is that these girls are TINY! They wait for the smoke to settle and then go back and get rehired without loosing any weight.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mia M
    If I remember correctly Tori, you're right up the street from my club aren't you? A couple of times a year we get a few girls from your club defect to mine. 99% of the time it's because thier management has gone on a witch hunt for the "fat" girls. What kills me is that these girls are TINY! They wait for the smoke to settle and then go back and get rehired without loosing any weight.

    They do this quite often and quite randomly. It's like he saw me in the wrong place at the wrong time and didn't pay attention to the others, just zerod in on me. The manager who told me he hadn't seen any difference in my weight didn't remember my name a couple weeks later which shows how much he remembers. Boggles my mind, I sort of feel its over personal things and I don't feel they have their priorities right. I've seen lots of girls get sent off then come back and they're the same. If they don't hire me back I'm going to shotgun's to stay cause their bobblehead criteria is getting annoying. I just have a huge customer base there I'd rather not lose.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tori1982
    If they don't hire me back I'm going to shotgun's to stay...
    Don't tease me like that! Well, I'd be glad to meet you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tori1982
    wanna come cheer me on tomorrow night? i'm nervous as all hell!
    As w/ most nights, nothing would be please me more than a visit to the club... unfortunately, I can't make it.

    I will be there next Tues or Wed, and I anticipate seeing you then, as I'm sure your Thurs will go just swimmingly. <positive vibes>

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    I HATE that. I could MAYE understand if if you had gained 50 or 100 pounds since you started, or you werent making money for the club anymore.....but a cpl pounds??? Hell..at the wrong time of the month we can gain 5 or 10 pounds!

    I'm 5'7" and 135....and I've lost close to 15 pounds since I had surgery two weeks ago. I'm not a skinny stick, but I'm nowhere near fat either. I'm muscular (and at least 5 or 6 pounds of that is my implants!lol!)

    Not every guy wants a girl whose ribcage pokes at him during a dance. When I started at the club I'm at now I was the biggest girl there. Every other girl was 90 pounds soaking wet, no tits, no hips, no ass.....
    I had SO many guys crowd the stage saying "FINALLY.... a woman with CURVES!!!!" I made more then the rest of them! Now there are a few other girls my size there so it's evened out a bit. But I've met TONS of guys who hate that lollipop head-Nicole Ritchie-Lindsey Lohan-anorexic look. Guys LIKE curves. Who woud've know it? DUH!
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    Um..... 130 is healthy for 5'4"... let alone 5'8"


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    Quote Originally Posted by cameronfl
    But I've met TONS of guys who hate that lollipop head-Nicole Ritchie-Lindsey Lohan-anorexic look. Guys LIKE curves.
    What's that saying in the fashion industry? Clothes look best on a hanger? I sometimes worry that the slim, stylish woman in the taylored outfit will look like a concentration camp survivor once the clothing comes off. So, yes, heartily agree: Curves are good, curves are fun.

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    I'm 5'4". When I'm NOT working off the 4.5 pounds I gained on vacation or dealing with the 3-4 pounds of water weight I always gain during PMS and lose right after . . . I'm about 131 pounds. Muscular and curvy. This is a totally healthy weight.

    It sounds like you are very healthy indeed, especially with all the extra workouts you've been doing, and like Mia said, you're just being unfairly victimized by this asinine phase your club goes through periodically. Be healthy and find where your own body feels best. Please don't get too hung up on losing an unreasonable amount of weight because of these jackasses! You'll only gain it back and then some, making it harder to lose the 2nd time, and the 3rd, and the 4th . . .
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    Your club sounds like it's being run by people who are not only nitpicky and irrational but just plain MEAN. If you have a choice of clubs, I don't see why you would stay where you are, especially if the other club is reasonably close and you could convince your regulars to follow you there.

    You know as well as I do that in this business, your dollar is your voice and your source of power. Stop making money for the jackasses at your home club. Take your business dealings somewhere else. It will be ENTIRELY your gain and their loss.

    Oh yeah, I'm 5'3" and 125. I would kill to be 5'8" and 130.

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    SO! an update from last night...
    I went into the club got dressed and waited for main manager to get there to watch me on stage. I would've worked but I'm hella sick and a coughing sniffling dancer is not hot. All the managers (except for the one who started all this hubbub and initially called me fat) were in a meeting.
    I went upstairs to see if general manager was done yet and the initial fat teller manager goes "What are YOU doing here" real condescending like. I tell him whats going on and he glances over at me and goes "You haven't lost ANY weight". It took every ounce of my self control to walk out of there without socking him.

    So I know this manager was in on it all. He has something out against me. Another bigger girl went up after I told her why I got fired saying she was worried about getting fired and he told her she was fine and she asked why I wasnt and he said ''because Tori's fat and she hasn't lost any weight at all''

    Later though I got to talk to general manager in front of initial fat teller manager(His new code name haha) and he told me that main manager wouldn't be in until 11 or 12 and to just go home and get better and start working my shifts again and he pulled main manager aside after I had left our meeting and told him he thought I was wrongly fired and have been showing a lot of effort and have lost a lot of weight so there's a good chance I'm back in the game. After general manager tells me this I look at initial fat teller manager who is looking at general manager like he has something to say and is all butthurt looking.

    So I'm really really mad I can't believe of all the girls he thinks I'm fat. I don't know what I ever did to this guy to piss him off so much but I know he's the one who put me through all of this and he doesn't want me back there even though I rarely work with him. I'm just glad that my general manager is on my side.

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    WTF? 5'8", 130 pounds isn't fat at all. Shit, I'm 5'4" and I weigh around 135-140, and I'm not fat. I've never been turned down from a club because of my weight either. It sounds like the fat teller manager just has an attitude problem or has something else against you for some reason. Sorry you're going through this.

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