What do you ladies think is the best way to ask for a tip for sitting with a custy when they dont want any dances?
What do you ladies think is the best way to ask for a tip for sitting with a custy when they dont want any dances?
I say something like, "a lot of guys don't like dancing and that's fine....but they also enjoy my company and understand my time is valuable. I'd love to stay and spend time with you, so maybe we can work something like this out so I can stay?"
Make it sound like you want to be there and aren't just begging for money jsut for sitting there. Then he'll be more likely to want to keep you there.
if he tells you he doesn't want you to stay, then you can still ask for a tip. But if he hands you a $20 or some amount you don't think is enough, you can say something like, "well, normally I earn $200/hr in the VIP, so I think half that is fair, but this feeds the meter for a little bit!"...or something like that.
That sounds like the right approach. A good customer will understand that you need to be compensated, but may not know how much if there isn't something like number of dances to latch onto. Emily's approach is polite and still communicates.
With a bad customer, on the other hand I haven't a clue . . . and having just read the colostomy bag threat on Stripping General, I have no advice on dealing with bad customers period . . .





"I have to tell you this. I've got two regulars in the club right now and I'd actually rather spend time with you because I'm having a good time. Tell you what, how about we take this conversation into the VIP room otherwise I'm going to have to go take care of the other two."
It puts pressure on them to buy. It's called a "Take Away" close.
The ORIGINAL Stripper Sales School
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Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle. ~Abraham Lincoln
but then what if he doesn't want a VIP, then what do you do?
The other night at the club, I was off getting a lapdance and this gorgeous girl came over and plunked herself down in my boyfriend's lap, grabbed his crotch, and said, "How about a lapdance?" He was caught off-guard and didn't like it so he said no, and she rolled her eyes and said, "How about you tip me then?" He said no, and she stalked off muttering something about "cheap motherfucker."
Just make sure you're not taking THIS approach!


I was having this same concern last night. Actually, the past two nights I caught myself sitting way too long with a customer. One ended up giving me $200. The other one gave me $40. The $40 guy said he refused to buy dances from me because he wanted to take me out to lunch and date me outside of the club. I made him buy me dinner and drinks instead, at the club.
What I have noticed is that it is hard for me to work up the nerve to ask a customer to pay me for my time. I never know what to say or when to say it. I understand it's my job, but I don't want to come across as being money hungry. That would push a lot of guys to not want to give me money.
I do find that if I ask early on in the conversation and set the rules up early, I am more likely to not waste my time/monely earning potential then if I chance it, not say anything and hope that he tips me for my time.
Good customers know and offer the money upfront. I wish there were more guys like that out there. At least coming in to see me on a regular basis.![]()
Are you "in" or "in the way"?





if i know they are too cheap to go VIP or not wanting it, i might say something like, "would you like to tip me for my time?" concise and to the point, but onyl with certain types, mainly younger guys. with older men i would use emily's line. that tip line however leads usually to dollars ($2-$5, sometimes $20) so maybe it's better to use emily's line all the time.
Love it!
KittyKat, I doubt that anyone who is as sensitive to the issue as you is likely to appear to be money hungry. The dancers who are offensive about it are way out there. by comparison. You could -- without any fear of appearing to be pushy -- be far more assertive than it sounds like you are at the moment. Remember that a lot of customers just want to know what the rules are.Originally Posted by KittyKat07
Polite but up-front is not offensive -- take a look at Emily's post up above -- that is about the right approach, from this customer's perspective.
I'm going to try using Emily's line tonight!
Last night was my first night, and I found talking to customers toughest, try to differentiate myself (and calm my nerves) by just making them laugh and trying to sneak in some kind of... not innuendo's but naughtiness. Anyway, I'm sure I came across as being cajoling and a touch too forward moneywise and asking for a tip seemed hard, think it came off as a bit of a turnoff. Absoutely going to try the line about 'my time' though...
Thank you to all of you for your wonderful advice, I'm reading every scrap of it before I'm back there tonight.
xxx
Last edited by Wilhelmina; 08-11-2006 at 04:40 AM. Reason: grammatical error
I tried doing that one night and my approach was what i think not too pushy or money hungry sounding. And boy did i get an bad response. I tried it three diff times and they all got worked up about it. They all said they didnt understand why they should tip me for sitting and talking.So i blew it off and said ok thanks you have a great night! So i dont think i will try that one again.
sometimes I get that too....and sometimes you can explain it, "well, I was here with you when I could have been doing dances, and I make all my money off tips and dances."
sometimes they are just determined not to spend money, so that means no tipping and no dances.





well... if they weren't gonna buy dances anyway, I don't see what you lost....three guys who werent spending money on you got irate... so what?Originally Posted by Xmacknmadix
Dancers seem to give me pro-bono stuff a lot, but they never ask for money for it. Although I usually tip reasonably well for their stage dances and give them $10-$20 if they were really nice to me. I don't know if they're expecting something without asking for it, working on making me a regular, or as a few of them said about sitting with me for an hour, "I just feel lazy tonight" or "the customers aren't buying dances anyway". As for frenching, jamming their nipple in my mouth, or rubbing one off in the VIP, who the hell knows. The funny thing is, if I like one of these girls and ask to see her OTC, 80% of the time it never materializes. I suppose it's some kind of business tactic or they are just entertaining themselves in a safe environment.
So, if a dancer asked for $100 or $200 or something after the fact, I'd be kinda like, "WTF, we never agreed to that." It probably seems sneaky to a custy to spend time with them or give them extras and then ask for money ATF. I've had some dancers sit with me for ten minutes and get pissed off because I didn't tell them I didn't want a dance before they sat down and had others get pissed off if I told them I didn't want a dance before they sat down. I've heard of guys going out to dinner with a dancer and it's not until after its over she says "you owe me $200". I think that's just bad business. So you can see why a custy might get confused. Hell, I've even had a couple situations where a dancer sat with me for 20 minutes, and when she went to go, I handed her a $10 and she said, don't worry about it, keep it.
Last edited by Widget; 08-12-2006 at 11:37 AM.
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Omg i tried that line and the guy told well i understand then go ahead and go make your money (asshole)because you sat with me i didnt say for you to come over.other guys i told them upfront to pay me for my time if they didnt want a lapdance




Originally Posted by DancerWealth
that is great! i'm gonna use that tip too!thankx![]()
That sum real good advice Emily! hah u sound like a natural born hustla! haha ya i dk but it helped me!
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It doesnt matter whether ur black or white, cuz the only color that matters is green...
I think that this approach really depends on the type of club you're in. At my old club (upscale gown) or the one like where Emily works, it's fine. The place that I'm at now is VERY blue collar and that would never really work there. The guys just come in and play looky-loo as it is (which is why I am not there now).
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