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    Hey...

    So I've found that during the past few nights of dancing (I've only been dancing a week, and I guess this is normal but anyways...) I've been really intimidated and crushed by the other girls. Once I get there and look at them, I don't, and don't know how to feel sexy.

    I'm short, 5'2, and I'm Asian/Aussie, and while my body is fine I'm slim but still have curves and good muscle tone as I work out a lot as well, everyone always tells me how cute I am, which is all fine and well in my day to day life, but I carry that with me when I'm dancing, and I don't think cute is the kind of thing I should be going for. When I'm with the older dancers who aren't so pretty I've done well, but when I'm around the glamours, I don't do so well.

    Is there anything I can do to make myself less cute? Or is it all in my head? Guys always tell me I'm hot, my boyfriend thinks I'm the hottest there, but I really feel like a little kid when I'm up on the podium I'm almost 20 but people think I'm 14...

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    Default Re: How to feel sexy...

    Cute is a good thing

    Lot's of men like the cute look, as well as the sexy look.

    enjoy being cute, really let it work for you, not many people have just a cute look




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    Default Re: How to feel sexy...

    Well, it works for me when I'm on the floor trying to approach guys, they like the fact there's a girl there that can talk and is easy to talk to and not all look at me im so hot...

    But my biggest problem is when I have to do a double podium with one of the leggy blondes...which is a lot...they always get all the attention and the guys just arent interested in watching me when there's a girl that has all this sex appeal like her up next to me.

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    Oh dang, I had the same problem a few nights ago. Guys would laugh and joke that I was 15. I'm short, skinny, and new so I expect not to look like a glamorous pro yet. But still! I'm 18! Not 15, not "the age of my daughter" as some guys told me.

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    Default Re: How to feel sexy...

    Quote Originally Posted by mia_bella
    But my biggest problem is when I have to do a double podium with one of the leggy blondes...which is a lot...they always get all the attention and the guys just arent interested in watching me when there's a girl that has all this sex appeal like her up next to me.
    YOu dont know that..just cause the guys are on the podium watching the leggy blonde doesnt' mean there isnt' some man in the back of the room who is absolutely smitten with you Let your "cute" looks work in your favor. Every man doesn't want some Barbie doll. Let your cuteness (is that a word) shine through.







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    A lot of guys prefer the cute sexy girl next door look vs the barbie doll look. Im not sexy by any means.. im cute and a girl next door... and im constantly being told by guys that they prefer me vs the barbie doll because I have the cute personality shining through as well. There is a girl for every guy, remember that. If we were all barbie dolls the industry would be boring

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    Default Re: How to feel sexy...

    I'm shorter than you. I have a small bust (my avatar shows that). I don't have curves (I would call my shape more rectangular as I don't really have HIPS per say yet I do have booty!). Work the "girl next door" angle. Totally! It always worked for me and even tho' I now work in a part of the industry where blonde and/or busty sells (looks more than personality) intitially.... once I am there at the booking... I'm the favourite

    One thing I have learnt about the strip club environment: personality sells heads over heels over looks. Looks only pertains to a small (vital yet small) percent of the "why" a patron will choose to have a dance with YOU!

    As I said, work the girl next door angle. Be confident in that "look" (as in not over-done porn style make-up.. natural looking hair etc... look great yet don't over-do it.. don't "sex" yourself up too much)... I found it worked wonders for me even with a busty blonde on stage next to me.

    Your body language will speak worlds. There is a reason why the leggy blonde is making the money. The patrons and customers can read your non-verbal cues and thus they pay attention to the blonde. Go on that stage like you own that stage... forget about the fact that you are sharing it... and your body language will reflect it.

    Then again, I can't speak. I'm sooooo used to being the lone girl on stage that I find it very very hard to share the stage. I dislike sharing lol only because I want to be the star ..and not have share that


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    okay, while yes, you should let the cute thing work for you, there are some tricks, I'm sure that you can use to boost your self confidence and THAT is what will make the difference.

    do you wear your hair pulled up? Try letting it down or getting a wig with lots of volume and crimp in it (not something you have to use all the time, but like fake boobs, it's not the fake knockers that bring you attention it's how you feel about YOURSELF after you get them. Luckily a wig is a lot less permanent and a lot cheaper than boobs.)

    How do you do your makeup? Learn how to create angles in your face, whether it's by boosting your cheekbones, narrowing your nose, or shading your eyes. There's lots of tricks that can get you that glamorous, mysterious femme fatale look.

    What type of shoes are you wearing? Try seven inchers in either stilettos or a little thicker, but not the clumpy shoes. That puts you at 5'11" which is pretty damned tall.

    What are your costumes? Try using long sweeping gowns that give you a taller, more mature look. If you're small busted, maybe try a corset for a dramatic attention getter.

    Even how you talk can affect how people view you. Do you have a high pitched voice and speak quickly, or do you mumble and talk really quietly? Either one of those, to me, would denote someone who's a teenager. Adopt an accent if you wish so you don't feel self conscious about playing with your voice, yet understand how pace and pitch can put off a more mature vibe.

    When you do embrace the "cuteness" then you can rock the schoolgirl, but all of us at one time or another get tired of our looks, even if they are our money maker looks. Become versatile in how you approach your look and then you'll begin to see how you can attract different men based on the vibe and the look you're putting out.

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    This has made me feel so much better about myself! I always get called 'cute' by guys..i do get 'hot' or 'sexy' somtimes, but mainly it's always cute.. i think it's flattering! I have that 'girl next door innocencent' look..
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    hehe.. I'm small, 5'2 and curvy.. liked the one girl mentioned above, work on outfits/costumes that could help you stand out...

    I used to rock the bikini sets of all styles, solid colors, polka dots, all kinds! and I'm definitely small chested so the whole look just didn't do much for me. and I just felt like the small cute girl on stage, but not the "big boobs" sexy girl like many girls I've worked with.

    One day, I decided to change my look.. an more "classier" look as well as outfits that defines my body shape real well! So I started to change to more lingerie - like corsets to enhance my bust a bit more since im very small WITH y/t backs thongs of all colors..

    and daMN do I feel like the "little" glamour hottie! my confidence is just so much better on stage.. I feel like I look just as GOOD as the big breasted glamour ones..

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    5'1" but very curvy here.

    But Asian Australian. Honey there's so many asians here but NONE are dancers... so all these men get to see a ton of cute girls on the street and NONE nekkid. So you're a hot commodity. 25% of Aus. is Asian right now... and I've seen ONE Asian dancer (at two clubs!)... delve into it and feast on the harvest of being a cute Asian girl. Aussies loves it.


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