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    i've been dancing for over a year now. my parents thought i was still teaching. friday, while i was in the dressing room by myself, i answered a phone call from my mom. as i was on the phone with her another girl walked in and started to say something very loudly. my mom asked where i was. i knew i could lie and say just about anything and she wouldn't question it. for some reason, maybe just exhaustion from lying, i said "i'm at work". there was a slight pause and then my mom said "chrys... where -exactly- are you working now" i explained that since i started going back to school i started dancing as well. to my suprize she was fine with it. she is VERY conservative and a born again christian. i know how she feels about dancing, but she was ok. she said she won't tell my step dad (he would be furious and upset) or my grandmother (who's always lived with her). i feel relief i guess. not because i felt that she needed to know, but i guess because she does know and doesn't think any less of me. trust me when i tell you that i did NOT think that's how it would go down.

    of course, i didn't tell her the full extent of my job. she asked if there was contact and i kind of alluded to their not being any. i also told her it's bikini.. which IT IS... but i MAY be going topless soon. i figure the details aren't important. heh... baby steps.

    i think her being accepting of it has a lot to do with the fact that i'm a full time student, and she knows how bad i wanted to go back. she also knows how much i put it off for financial reasons. she even said to me "well you have to do what you need to in order to better yourself".

    all of that said, it's still a little weird with her knowing. i haven't seen her since i told her. i wonder if it will feel different being around her. i also wonder if she'll bring it up again or have further questions. i hope i don't regret telling.

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    It's really good to hear it didnt make her flip




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    It must feel great to have that off your chest! Big huge kudos to your mom for being so chill, that's awesome.
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    You're lucky your mom's so understanding! Mine would flip.

    You're so brave.
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    My mom found out from someone else, it was a nightmare!
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    Thats good! See she loves You! She understands! Mum Rock! =p....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    You're lucky your mom's so understanding! Mine would flip.

    You're so brave.
    i truly, TRULY, thought my mom would as well. we're complete opposites. well, almost. she's also VERY opinionated and can have a serious temper. perhaps you'll be as lucky as me if your mom ever finds out.

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    I thought My mom would flip as well but she didnt. I had been dancing for 3years before she found out. She thinks I am new to it! lol

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    I don'tknow about you, Prettty_Penny, but when I told my mom what I did for a living, it felt very grown-up. No more of this lying-to-the-parents crap like a middleschooler who tried smoking ciggarettes. Telling my mom what I really did for a living proved to her and I that I was my own person, and by no means was I going to seek her approval any more than anyone else. We were equals, then.


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    PrettyPenny, I did the same thing with my mom. I didn't tell her the complete truth. I just told her that I work in a showclub as a waitress and we have to wear the "stripper clothes and heels". Which for her, that is close enough tothe truth!!lol For the first two years I danced, I told my parents I was waitressing at Hooters.

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    Told the folks awhile ago now. Been estranged ever since. They preferred the lie and I actually could have decent conversations with them when I was lying. Sad but true. My step mum thinks it is immoral and my dad just doesn't approve at all. (for the record, my biological mother has "transitioned" from this life since late feb 1999 hence the reason for the step-mum).

    They have made me swear to not tell anyone else. My younger brother knows. I don't have a relationship with my step-brothers (younger as well) so they don't know. The rest of the family doesn't know except for one aunty and uncle (and even then I don't know if they still realise I'm still doing it or not).

    It's a lonely existance for me. I can't rely on my family at all due to the estrangement. It hurts. I could rely on them more when I was lying (I said I waitressed at strip clubs and explained the money thru tips).

    It is a relief to hear that it worked out well for you.


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    How does your younger brother feel about it?^^^^^^

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    i wish i could tell my mom, but she would absolutly die. she already has only one kidney and acid reflux, and her doctor says NO STRESS, so it would be cruel for me to tell her that her only daughter is a stripper. my fam thinks i work a beer stand at a crazy night club and i make really good tips. if my dad found out i dance, him along with my uncles and cousins would be at my club causing a very big scene...it wouldnt be pretty!

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    Good for you for having the balls to just get the truth out in the open... and good for your mom for keeping a cool head and understanding! I've just moved back in with my folks for the summer (college summer break) and although I'm not dancing while I'm home, I feel the urge to tell them what I've been up to almost every day. I am POSITIVE it would be a catastrophic, destructive, horrendous thing to do and I must resist blurting it out, but I've never kept a real secret from anyone before and it's proving *very* hard... I don't know how long I can keep it up...

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    i'm glad that it went so well for you, especially due to your mom's "conservative" values. *sigh*...mine would never understand, and it would hurt her....my sister (also conservative) and brother (a rebel like me) know that i used to dance, and although they didn't like it, we never had fights about it.....and we still respected one another. anways, again, that is great news for you, and i'm sure you feel very relieved now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by funlatina82
    How does your younger brother feel about it?^^^^^^
    He's neither here nor there about it. It's just work to him. He's my younger brother and even tho' we may not speak heaps... we generally have a good relationship.


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    M Dad lives with me and Joe, he thinks I am a waitress. I don't think he would be furious... just.... dissappointed... Like, he would think that I am better then this.... and he is older, so explaining about stripping and how it's honest and everything... not going to really fly with him...although since my mom died and he moved in, he has told me things I never would have thought... What do you guys think... Should I tell my dad the truth?

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    ^^ Test the waters by bringing it up in conversation somehow to gauge his opinions and beliefs about strippers and strip clubs.


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    My mom is strict and very conservative..! if my mom found out, she'll kick me out the house.. or beat my ass, hell, if i helped pay for bills with the money from dancing..she'll still kick me out the house or worse!

    i couldnt even tell her i'm a waitress, she'll be the type to "stop by" to make sure I'm working at an restaurant. heh :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    i've been dancing for over a year now. my parents thought i was still teaching. friday, while i was in the dressing room by myself, i answered a phone call from my mom. as i was on the phone with her another girl walked in and started to say something very loudly. my mom asked where i was. i knew i could lie and say just about anything and she wouldn't question it. for some reason, maybe just exhaustion from lying, i said "i'm at work". there was a slight pause and then my mom said "chrys... where -exactly- are you working now" i explained that since i started going back to school i started dancing as well. to my suprize she was fine with it. she is VERY conservative and a born again christian. i know how she feels about dancing, but she was ok. she said she won't tell my step dad (he would be furious and upset) or my grandmother (who's always lived with her). i feel relief i guess. not because i felt that she needed to know, but i guess because she does know and doesn't think any less of me. trust me when i tell you that i did NOT think that's how it would go down.

    of course, i didn't tell her the full extent of my job. she asked if there was contact and i kind of alluded to their not being any. i also told her it's bikini.. which IT IS... but i MAY be going topless soon. i figure the details aren't important. heh... baby steps.

    i think her being accepting of it has a lot to do with the fact that i'm a full time student, and she knows how bad i wanted to go back. she also knows how much i put it off for financial reasons. she even said to me "well you have to do what you need to in order to better yourself".

    all of that said, it's still a little weird with her knowing. i haven't seen her since i told her. i wonder if it will feel different being around her. i also wonder if she'll bring it up again or have further questions. i hope i don't regret telling.
    I love when moms are understanding about those things.

    I'm happy for you.
    Hopefulyl she'll always be cool with it, and never use it against you.

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    I think I am just going to leave it as it is... I mean, in my heart, I feel like he already has to know... stripper shoes everywhere, lingere hanging in my bathroom... Lets not forget the pole burns... I think by him not mentioning those things... I will avoid mentioning it to him... Like an unspoken agreement...


    Oh and soon there will be a pole in my bedroom....
    Last edited by Classic'sMontana; 08-08-2006 at 05:10 AM. Reason: because for a moment I forgot about my new pole...YAY!!

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