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    I've read loads of conversation bits and lines from these forums, but no matter how good they are I can never deliver them... my problem is I'm really shy, especially with people I don't know. So it's difficult for me to make conversation - I can introduce myself and ask a few generic questions about themselves but then I just draw a blank and I feel my conversation is so lame and I get a lot of awkward silences, because I am shy.

    Are there any other shy dancers out there? How do you combat your shyness? Those who aren't shy - tell me how to be like you! I am really funny and outgoing once you get to know me, but obviously I have a limited time with these men and 'getting to know' me won't sell a dance. I'm thinking of just resorting to "wanna dance?" no matter how big a no-no it is

    I searched for this topic elsewhere, but nothing really hit the mark on what I'm looking advice for.

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    I've met shy girls who make it work for them. If you look young you can especially play on that. I've worked with a couple of really young looking soft spoken girls who played up the shy thing. You know... "Hi, I'm so and so.... I'm sorry *giggle* I'm really shy. What's your name?" And then keep playing on it. Tell them you're shy on stage too... maybe add that it turns you on to be watched dancing and "don't tell anyone".

    Many guys go for the young innocent inexperienced look. It sells. Think that might work for you? Sorry I couldn't put anything more specific.

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    No, that is amazing! I'm totally going to try that on my next shift. Thanks for your help

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    For Me I Use An Alter Ego When I Dance I Pretend I'm Who My Stage Name Is Because You Have A Stage Name For A Reason On Stage Your Not You You Are A Dancer So Be Who You Wanna Be If You Wanna Be Sexy And Outgoing Be That On Stage

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    Hi Lyserod, I also have a predisposition towards introvertedness. How long have you been dancing? It actually took me quite a while to overcome my shyness and akwardness and to be able to initiate and hold a conversation with complete strangers. It probably took me about 8 months in the club until I felt *comfortable* doing so. I still prefer my introverted ways, but dancing helped me to learn to project a more extroverted persona. Maybe that doesn't really help you but I hope it does in at least some way.


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    one thing that helps me is i'm not (my real name here) i am (your stage name) it kinda helps because we are all playing a role.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney
    Hi Lyserod, I also have a predisposition towards introvertedness. How long have you been dancing? It actually took me quite a while to overcome my shyness and akwardness and to be able to initiate and hold a conversation with complete strangers. It probably took me about 8 months in the club until I felt *comfortable* doing so. I still prefer my introverted ways, but dancing helped me to learn to project a more extroverted persona. Maybe that doesn't really help you but I hope it does in at least some way.
    I've been dancing for nearly 2 months now.

    How come you prefer your introverted ways? Did it help you sell more dances in some way?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyserød
    I've been dancing for nearly 2 months now.

    How come you prefer your introverted ways? Did it help you sell more dances in some way?
    No, being introverted did not help me sell more dances. I just prefer being introverted because thats the way my brain is wired. It doesnt mean Im a hermit or anything...it just means its a little harder for strangers to get to know me...

    I think at this point you can play up the shyness or go ahead and do the hit and run. Play up the shyness if its slow and try "wanna dance" if its busy. As youre dancing for your custy he will probably ask you a question or 2 and there is your opportunity to make a bit of small talk and feel more comfy about it. I wouldnt get all deep or anything, just keep it light, playful, flirtatious.

    The important thing for you to remember is to approach these guys! For me I think that was the hardest part initially. It will get easier, I promise. And then youll have learned a socialization skill that you can apply in all aspects of your life.

    ps: sorry about the poor punctuation, guys. for some reason my apostrophe key is working as a hot key for some search function...weird...


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    You are such a big help, THANK YOU! I'm working tonight, so I've brought along my little dancing book (where I keep info about cutys - who buys dances, who doesn't, what their name is, what they do, etc) and in the back I put all these tips. I'll try them out tonight and share my success rate with you

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    I've brought along my little dancing book (where I keep info about cutys - who buys dances, who doesn't, what their name is, what they do, etc) and in the back I put all these tips
    I love it...

    I would avoid having anyone see it though!

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    Yeah, my thoughts exact.y. I ripped out all the sheets I had writ on and carried them around with me all night tonight (I was working tonight). The book was too small to fit into my little bag I never took the sheets out in front of another girl.

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