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    It’s been maybe 2 years, since we last seen each other.. it’s been maybe 1.5 years this has been going on… we been communicating through online journals, writing our thoughts and updates on our lives… it’s been that long and I still care, I don’t want to care because caring for her hurts..

    I go crazy jealous when I read updates of her and her new relationships and keeping thinking I wish that was me holding her… I don’t want to be like this but it’s hard to stop.. I’ve always been a passionate person, through my cooking and dance but for sometime now I’ve been just getting all emotional and just eating my feelings away.

    I went to the beach last Sunday, looking at all the pretty girls and most importantly seeing my friends with their GFs.. which made me kind of sad being one of the only 2 single guys in the group.. realizing how I just let life pass me by, .. it’s hard for me to be flower-hearted because I have always had the thought…idea of finding that one person to be with for the rest of my life, one girl, one love, one wife, one soul-mate. I’m really bad at dating people, because I don’t believe in the concept of dating people, you know you go out with someone dressing your best, behaving your best and trying your best to have a good conversation relating to that person.. it just that, why can’t you just be with someone, you know, sitting in the sofa watching a movie together and just be with someone for the sake of being with them? No bullshit that comes with dating, sigh…

    What do you do when you’ve experienced love at first sight and having it turn out not to be… you have believed in magic for so long and going from one person to another without feeling that magic again, do you give up of that silly little idea of magic? Do you reform to not how you believe this world should be but to how this world actually is? I remember a smile, who made my heart beat really fast, giving me millions and zillions of butterflies in my tummy, making my soul and body weak as she got closer to me, waving at me, making me blush, out of breath just trying, trying to say a simple “hello”

    I don’t know how love is but I hate this feeling that comes and go, I JUST HATE IT!!


    I’m just ranting I guess, deciding, trying to let go and just stop reading her journal because for the most part, it’s not helping me

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    Are you in love with a dancer whose time you paid for or just some random girl I am not sure i understand your situation to offer advice.

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    krchab99, I do believe it has more to do with the phase of the moon than anything else. I noticed that it is a full moon down here tonight, and it is driving a lot of people out of their normal modes.

    Relationships are like jobs, dating is the interview process. Sometimes it is quick, sometimes it is painful, and sometiems a good thing goes bad. Roll with the punches, and find a new one. Just like job interviews 1000 rejections are worth one yes, you just have to get through all those bloody rejections and figure out why.
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    Good advice CherryRipeBoy.

    And one DOESN'T have to put on a show for a date. It is good that the OP feels fake about it because it is for a lot of people. One can watch any dating show and see informal dates to the boardwalk, boat rides... basically anything you would want to do with the other person anyway!

    My first "date" was a walk around the block at lunch time (granted she worked a few cubes down from me.) After that, we went to an aquarium and just kept going with it.

    And Dinkie, once you find her replacement, you will be surprised how fast you forget about your current obsession. It's happened to me! When you wake up with a nice soft girl in your bed you can snuggle up against and hold her boobies and she actually smiles - you're gonna be like "Who was that girl again? Who?"

    (And if she is a stripper, just have a read of this to get turned off. In fact, this web site has many threads on it called one thing but could easily be called "Why you don't date a stripper.")

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    ^^LoL^^

    Except Sugar Daddy's generally understand their role in the relationship... $$$ for compainship and affection. (that is the BIGGIE - Sugar Daddy's expect AFFECTION (physical affection) )

    although in that particular thread I think it is the girls who are a little confused... IMHO.
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    Well, you're not getting over her by keeping in contact with her, obviously. You need to stop looking for a girl and be happy with yourself... Your alone self... Or you won't be ready for a healthy relationship and it just won't happen.
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    No no she isn’t a dancer, she would be the stable, med student with a strict family and I would most likely be the dancer, free spirited, wild, crazy and emotional wreck, :-V

    Yeah I have heard that many times, you must love yourself before you can love another ;-/
    The first interview is always the hardest

    I just have to start training again and focus on the things I love to do :-S

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    Not to crush your bubble dinkie, but I used to be the Hopeless Romantic type (emphasize "Hopeless.") YES I know what it's like to be drawn to someone, infatuated, blah blah, all that good stuff. This is called a "One Sided Crush." It's a fun feeling when you can adore the person as a friend but accept that the feelings are not mutual. (A good movie on this topic is "Bedazzled" [2000] with Brendan Fraiser & Elizabeth Hurley.) You have to be patient & learn how to be complete on your own.
    I don't want to write a sad "Russian novel" on how hard life is & why we are drawn to people we have no prayer of being with........Try to have a sense of humor about her & I bet she'll look less appealing. Or, get her to do something that will totally turn you off. LOL

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    I just have to start training again and focus on the things I love to do :-S
    that's a great idea. I've felt like you do towards someone and it's no fun. But eventually it does go away. Just try to keep busy and focus on yourself and stop reading her journal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    Not to crush your bubble dinkie, but I used to be the Hopeless Romantic type (emphasize "Hopeless.") YES I know what it's like to be drawn to someone, infatuated, blah blah, all that good stuff. This is called a "One Sided Crush." It's a fun feeling when you can adore the person as a friend but accept that the feelings are not mutual. (A good movie on this topic is "Bedazzled" [2000] with Brendan Fraiser & Elizabeth Hurley.) You have to be patient & learn how to be complete on your own.
    I don't want to write a sad "Russian novel" on how hard life is & why we are drawn to people we have no prayer of being with........Try to have a sense of humor about her & I bet she'll look less appealing. Or, get her to do something that will totally turn you off. LOL
    I love E Hurley.

    But she goes out with these dorks

    1) who whore around on her
    2) get her preggers and then deny paternity
    3) generally treats her like shit

    Come on E - I'm right here for ya!

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    Dinkie, you're in love with a fantasy. Not a real person flaws and all, but a sanitized version a person. She probably can be mean and hurtful to others, but you aren't spending time with her on that intimate of a level.

    Go find yourself a real person who wants you as much as you want her.


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    I guess this thing that has been going on for some time now, was both our faults, we were both totally different people, I’m was the rebellious raver/break-dancer, smoking, drinking, loud-ass, jackass guy while she was the conservative, smarty-pants, school girl.. I know her flaws and I love them, how stubborn she is when she doesn’t get her way and how she would argue about every little things just because she wanted to be challenged… one thing that we shared was a certain type of pain when we were young, sometimes this world is soo evil..it’s hard to let go of someone who knows how you feel…iyah anyway life has passed some time now, we’re both old, adults now.. we might be meant to be bestfriends in another timeframe in life… but for now I just gotta find my path..sometimes love isn’t enough ;S

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    Well, you're not getting over her by keeping in contact with her, obviously. You need to stop looking for a girl and be happy with yourself... Your alone self... Or you won't be ready for a healthy relationship and it just won't happen.

    Agreed

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