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    Ive had it ladies!
    Last night will be the second night in a row that Ive left with nothing in my pocket. I am so sick of it. I feel like im loosing my edge. I cant even bring myself to ask custys for dances anymore. Why am i all of a sudden flaking? I need more modivation in my hustling. Can anyone help me with how to pick myself up again? I need MODIVATION!!!

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    I always tell myself its a cycle. Some days suck perpetual ass while others rock my socks off. Are you trying your hardest when you work? If not you know what you need to change. Not too long ago I went home with -$20. It was a boring Sunday night for christsakes.

    Anyways, if you go out there with a plan every night and do everything you think is best then it cant be that bad? You might end up making an extra $40 or more. You really cant be upset if you may have not tried as hard.

    When I have a few shitty nights I take a few off to get back to me. Make me feel pretty and workout ALOT. I go back thinking Im the shit and once again Im back in my groove. Good luck to ya'.
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    thanks for the words of encouragement!

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    Also, it has everything to with mind-set... what "self-talk" you are saying (not out loud, in your head to yourself). If you go in with the attitude... "Oh here we go again...*groin*" your body language will reflect that no matter how much you actually think you're being "happy, bubbly, etc". Listen to yourself, listen to your thoughts. Are you approaching each and every shift as a new day? New slate with endless possibilities for great money? Are you focusing on succeeding or are you focusing on NOT succeeding? It starts with the mind and flows from there.

    If the low income is really starting to get to you. It is better for you to take a break and get out of that environment..... get back to nature or something where you can re-gain some perspective on it all... than to continue going to work. Even if that break is only two nights...

    If you feel your lack of motivation has nothing to do with your thought-process and/or perspective on things.... the next thing is that you may have forgotten about your greater hopes, dreams and desires. Are you feeling like your ultimate dream/desire and the reason behind everything you do is not achieveable? Instead of thinking that... visualise like it is happening now. Daydream a little. Remember your short and long term plans, hopes, dreams and desires.... the reason "why" we all do what we do.


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    Yes, but sometimes it is hard to take a few days off if you need money for bills asap. I'm not necessarily in that boat now, but 1.5yrs ago when I first started dancing, I was definitely in that boat. I couldn't afford to take a few days off. Yeah if I knew that I was going to work to break even, I'd be better off staying home that day(at least there I could clean, reflect, plan, etc)...but I think the reason I kept going to work, was because I was hoping it'd be better. And most days were better than the bad day before it. But sometimes I would go to work hoping to make up for the day before, make just as bad or worse, and get all angry. If you've been having these "break even" days consistently(as in, 2 or more in a row), maybe it's just a really crappy time of the year for your club and it would be better to take days off than go to work and break even.

    I remember over a year ago, when I worked a dead Wednesday afternoon and made -$7. I was outraged! I vented to my guy friend about how I was further IN DEBT(by -$7) by getting off my ass and going to work that day, and asked him what I could do to better my money situation. His reply was, "Work less shifts." As in, if I worked 4 days/week making -$7/shift, I'd be $28 in the whole that week; but if I worked 2days/week making -$7/shift, I'd only be $14 in the negative. That's not a solution on how to make MORE money, that's how to lose LESS money! I was annoyed the same way as you are. Sometimes the industry really sucks. That's why I don't plan nor want to dance for more than a few years more. Luckily though, these "break even" or "negative money" days are rare and usually we make decent money.

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    I totally agree with TigersMilk. When I have nights like that I begin to lose my mojo. I few days off for some rejuvination, mental relaxation, working out, etc always helps my spirit and stride.




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    I've had minus $25, minus $40 nights. That's why I did private shows. Total lifesaver.

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    thats why i quit.....sorry but no words of wisdom here.....im gonna wait a while till i go back....but the last week i was there i made like 40 down to negative 8.....hope it gets better for u though

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    unfortunately, this year, I'm afraid that super slow clubs aren't just explainable by 'it's the slow season'. A whole lot of changes have been taking place in the economy ... customer paychecks aren't rising, while everything from gasoline to taxes to utility bills to ARM mortgage payments to insurance premiums to the cost of food IS rising ... and rising rapidly.

    In the final analysis, spending money on dancers (girls who just dance, anyhow !) is a 'discretionary expenditure' - and one of the first expenditures to be thrown overboard when other necessary expenses have risen in cost and must be covered out of a paycheck that hasn't risen in turn. To make matters worse, in many areas guys who formerly held fairly high paying blue collar jobs have been 'outsourced', and these guys have probably been forced to take 'replacement' jobs that pay significantly less than their old job used to pay, meaning that they simply can no longer afford to make any 'discretionary expenditures' and still manage to make payments on their mortgage, car loan etc.

    Sometimes an 'attitude adjustment' from taking a few days off will re-energize a dancer's 'hustle factor' and help her extract more money from club customers. But if fewer customers are coming into the club, and if those customers who are still coming into the club are now walking in with $100 - $200 to spend instead of $300 - $500 - $1000, "you can't get blood out of a stone".

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    ^ While all that is true, I still think dancing is worthwhile for cute girls who are too bright for minimum wage. I am a big advocate of cutting out the middleman in this business. You can still make coin if you can "handle your own business".

    One of the biggest problems in the SC biz is management throwing unfit-looking girls onstage & never putting money back into the club. They play the ends against the middle with all the girls.

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    Yeah the guys smell the desperation when you're having a bad night. I usually decide to cut my losses, stop trying to make money and set myself a mission just to chat to every person in the room. I go into fantasy mode, I dig out a chesy costume and act the part (cowgirl, police) behave like a dag, tell them I made heaps earlier and just having a break.
    Often things will turn around and they are interested in getting a dance when you appear not so interested in getting one . I guess it's just changing the attitude.They do like a girl who seems to be there for a fun time, and if you keep flitting about the slime bags aren't so annoying.

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    Just keep working hard. Once I left in tears with thirteen dollars and a female customer outside encouraged me to go back in. Two hours later I was leaving with three hundred. Not a fabulous night, but what would have happened if I never went back?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie
    unfortunately, this year, I'm afraid that super slow clubs aren't just explainable by 'it's the slow season'. A whole lot of changes have been taking place in the economy ... customer paychecks aren't rising, while everything from gasoline to taxes to utility bills to ARM mortgage payments to insurance premiums to the cost of food IS rising ... and rising rapidly.

    In the final analysis, spending money on dancers (girls who just dance, anyhow !) is a 'discretionary expenditure' - and one of the first expenditures to be thrown overboard when other necessary expenses have risen in cost and must be covered out of a paycheck that hasn't risen in turn. To make matters worse, in many areas guys who formerly held fairly high paying blue collar jobs have been 'outsourced', and these guys have probably been forced to take 'replacement' jobs that pay significantly less than their old job used to pay, meaning that they simply can no longer afford to make any 'discretionary expenditures' and still manage to make payments on their mortgage, car loan etc.

    Sometimes an 'attitude adjustment' from taking a few days off will re-energize a dancer's 'hustle factor' and help her extract more money from club customers. But if fewer customers are coming into the club, and if those customers who are still coming into the club are now walking in with $100 - $200 to spend instead of $300 - $500 - $1000, "you can't get blood out of a stone".
    I totally agree, it is the same in the UK at the moment. Taxes and expenditures are rising but wages are remaining the smae hence customers levels and spending dropping.
    It was getting to me a bit the last few weeks when I was walking out with £40 max I was thinking whats the poiint but then I also told myself I have earned more than if I had sat behind a cash till for 8hrs.
    I took a week off the reflect on things and go to the gym/pamper etc to get me back in the "mood" so to speak and tonight is my first night back. I will let you know how I get on.
    As for the rest of you my thoughts are with you on this one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TigersMilk
    I always tell myself its a cycle. Some days suck perpetual ass while others rock my socks off.

    You really cant be upset if you may have not tried as hard.

    When I have a few shitty nights I take a few off to get back to me. Make me feel pretty and workout ALOT. I go back thinking Im the shit and once again Im back in my groove. Good luck to ya'.
    That's it. If I just had 2 suckass days in a row I'd take off a few days to recharge.

    Realize the business always fluctuates and is dependent on the season, day of week, current economy, etc. Right now is back to school time - parents buying lots of clothes and school supplies for the kiddies, and taking those last minute vacations before school starts. Many of the men who spend money on strippers are not in the clubs right now. In most areas, August ALWAYS sucks serious donkey balls!

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    Because our income can fluctuate so drastically I think it's really important for us to all know what our averages are. Because we don't make an hourly rate I always write down my net earnings on my calendar along with what shift I worked. Then I add up my income for the month and divide by the number of days I worked. It is amazing how it actually is pretty consistent from month to month. I can usually project what I'll make and how much more I need to make to hit all my goals. It makes me not so discouraged during slower times. I know I'll have better days to even out. But I guess if you see your averages consistently dropping than it is time to take a look at your hustle.

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    whenever i have nights like that i just say to myself: this is NOT a consistant buisness, if i want consistancy i can work at mcdonalds. lol
    i know its sooo frusterating though and makes me feel somehow UNsexy. try relaxing for a night..then get back in the game full force and rested! sorry i can't offer more advice..good luck!

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