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    Ok, so I have this regular that pays pretty well, but says that he likes me, wants to see me outside the club, wishes I wouldn't do what I do for a living, etc, etc, etc. You ladies know what I'm talking about.

    My question is---how do I keep this guy a regular without ever giving him all that bullshit he wants. I will never meet these guys outside the club, I'm not gonna date them, and no I won't ever give in to them. BUT, how do you keep the charm going and keep them regulars?? Or do they eventually give up and leave you alone?

    As of now, I've told this dude and others stuff like, I don't date customers, I don't take it outside the club, if he wants to get to know me he can do it in the club, I just met you!, etc etc etc.

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    From what I've learned...ALL regulars have a shelf life.

    What I did with mine was always express the importance of my education (I'm in college) and remind them that I could never risk getting caught outside meeting with them. I coudlnt' afford to put my future at risk!

    But again, all regulars won't be as understanding as mine..Like I said they all have a shelf life.







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    Default Re: the regular that likes you...

    Or you could say, "But I like it and you come by to see me and make my day better."
    I'm here just for the food.

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    Don't ever say you will or may go out with a regular. You lose the chance of getting money off of this guy. In less you know other girls who have gone with this guy, it was safe, and he still spends money on this girl, don't chance it. I've ruined my main money man before by saying I'd think about going out with him, and kept putting it off. It's a test. You will be screwed either way, in less you are willing to have sex with him and promote him to a sugar daddy, it is a bad idea. Just my experience.

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    Some girls in my club pass regulars around to each other. When one of their regulars is done with them, they'll kinda pass him along to one of their friends (dancer friend ITC) and keep passing them around and eventually their regular comes back to them again and the cycle starts all over again. This girl was telling me this one regular they did that with several times, kept passing him around through the group of friends when he'd get tired with one of them and it kept on and on for quite some time.

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    Nothing is forever. They come and go. There will always be a replacement. They're like work shoes. Some are great, some are terrible and pinch you and all of them just end up being a heel.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    They're like work shoes. Some are great, some are terrible and pinch you and all of them just end up being a heel.


    Brilliant.

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    Default Re: the regular that likes you...

    any tips on getting a regular? i'm having trouble snagging one

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna*
    any tips on getting a regular? i'm having trouble snagging one
    Well for me, I didn't get any regulars by "wanna dancing" You get regs by striking them in some sort of way..for me it was my conversation that hooked them. After spending X amount of time w/ a potential regular I tell them, "So my schedule is Mon, Tue, and Fri..I'd love to see you again one of those days. So, WHEN will they be coming back to see me?" That puts it in their head (at least for me) that one day next week on Mon, Tue, or Fri they will be coming back to see me.







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    I've been a semi-regular to a few dancers in my career because they made me feel good and being special when I was there with them.

    Different guys have different triggers, and there's no sure way to snag any particular person, although giving him the impression that you're attracted to him is a pretty good start. Might take some acting, I know.

    I agree that you shouldn't offer OTC if you don't mean it. About the most you can safely say is, "Well, I don't do that, but you're the one that could make me think about it," but sooner or later, that'll disappoint him, too.

    All people have shelf lives. A customer isn't in the strip club looking for a long-term thing. Variety is one of the appealing things about a strip club. And on the other side of things, I know that while a favorite dancer might run to give me a hug when I walk in the door, still, if she's got someone in the club who's coughing up more money than I would, I run a distant second place. No problem. It's just this thing called reality.

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    Jenna, In order to snag yourself a regular the best thing to do is make yourself totally stand out from all the other girls.
    I have a FANTASTIC memory and pride myself on remembering even the quietest customers names,what I mean is - sometimes the process can take a while. If you have a good rapport with a custy, you may only get one dance out of him on his first visit. He may be quiet, or shy and it may be like getting blood out of a stone. THESE ARE THE BEST POTENTIAL REGULARS!!!!! In my experience , these are the custys that most appreciate you remembering their names, details about them ....'Oh STEVE!... Hi x Hows your job at the BANK? How've you been since I last saw you? Did you get the CAR you were talking about getting??" Seriously, this is soooo the best way to go. They feel special and truley love the fact that you obviously remember details about converations you had. Good luck - you'll snag one soon xx

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    that is the hardest. i have guys do that too and it sucks. stick to your guns!!!!! sometimes they stay and sometimes they stray. it's a 50/50. tell them no, if they want a ho go down to mclure st.

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    uuggghh.

    I don't lie to them about going out with them.

    I'm glad you told me that shelf life thing. Really helps. So I'll keep that in mind when they give up on me.

    LOL. When guys tell me that they'll just leave me their number and I can call it if I want, I tell them straight up, "Look, I'm not gonna lead you on and tell you I might call you, because I can tell you I won't. I'm not trying to be mean, it's just that, as I told you earlier, I don't take it outside the club."

    "But we could be friends.", he says. "True, after I've known you for some time, that is a definite possibility." LOL

    Is that bad?

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    I've never been a regular because I visit SCs only on travel, but at the end of the evening dancers pretty commonly pitch me for a return visit. I don't think there is a lot of magic in making a pitch to a guy like me -- I am not looking for anything OTC, and am not deluded about what is going on inside, or what might happen next time.

    The main thing is to have a good product to sell -- show me a good time in the first place. If after a bunch of dances I am convinced you are fun, sexy and friendly, the sale for a return visit has already been made. All I need to know is that you are interested too, and your schedule.

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    Regulars come and go, and if you let a customer act out his or her own fantasy once, they might not want it again. And there goes the money that they could have spent on you.
    Isocrates: “Democracy destroys itself because it abuses its right to freedom and equality. Because it teaches its citizens to consider audacity as a right, lawlessness as a freedom, abrasive speech as equality, and anarchy as progress.”

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    Something like--in your best damsel in distress mode-- "I met a trusted customer outside the club some time ago and he assaulted me. I don't think I'll ever feel safe again."

    This further appeals to his need to "save" you and gives him a challenge--*he* can get you to learn to trust again because *he* is special...A great reason for him to keep coming back!

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    Casaubon that was great advice thanks.

    I actually have told some of these guys that I have had bad experiences in the past working in a strip club. (true, I was stalked by some dude)
    So it makes me sound legitimate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel
    This further appeals to his need to "save" you and gives him a challenge--*he* can get you to learn to trust again because *he* is special...A great reason for him to keep coming back!
    Very true

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    My mom's motto from her years of stripping that she lovingly shared with her daughter as she entered the business 10 years later...."Show em what you got, and doooon't let em have it"...hmm.

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    Tough shit if he gets frustrated and gives up...he's not the only regular in the sea. Don't meet guys outside the club, period. A. it's not safe and B. once you start doing it, it fucks up your money. I once had a very, very nice big money regular who was about 26 (I was 21) at the time, and he suggested we meet for drinks. He was very nice, and I did have fun, but after we crossed that line, it was like he thought I was his "friend" and he basically stopped dropping coin on me... of course, that was my own fault, because anyone would assume that someone who meets them for drinks or dinner is their buddy. As far as the should be concerned, you are an apparition that only exists inside the club.

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    All regulars will eventually die out (not literally but you know what I mean). I don't know of any that last for years and years. It's very rare.

    If they really seem promising, I don't lie. I don't have a boyfriend, so I tell them that if they come in really often, treat me with the utmost respect and are willing to spend a lot of time and money on me, and he is willing to try and make me happy, I might actually consider dating them. Of course, none of them ever do. So, I didn't lie and the problem of dating them is solved. It puts the ball in their court and since they can't follow through with my criteria, they fail at a chance to date me.

    Obtaining a regular for me is about chemistry. Usually, it starts with a good conversation and a good round of LDs...they ask when I'm working and if I see them a second time, I give them the royal treatment in VIP. They will usually keep coming back until they realize I'm not going to
    a. sleep with them
    b. be their girlfriend (in violation of one of the rules above)
    c. spend a lot of time without them getting dances

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    thanks ladies!!! I NEVER give in.

    Some dude layed down 200 bucks just so I could flash him my pussy (again I work in a panties-only club).

    I said no and he was like whY? I told him, (Just so you can keep wondering what the fuck it looks like...) That killed him. That was great.

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