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    So I have a problem ! I have a much anticipated dinner date tomorrow night with an awesome guy (some of you may remember a previous thread) and I really like him .A LOT...I have been superstressed lately and this afternoon I started to develop a cold sore!!!! It's not too bad and I took a Valtrex and started with the Abreva and I'm taking Lysine. Should I cancel the date? I feel like a leper ! And what will he think ? I don't want him thinking "oh she's a stripper" etc. I also don't want to be flaky or give it to him....Or should I just deal with the embarassment and go with the flow and just not kiss him ? I don't know what to do!!!! Advice please??? FUCK. WHY NOW!

    Am I thinking too much into much into this ?

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    Don't cancel the date. Put makeup on the medicated sore, put on distractingly bright lipstick & act cool. Have fun.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    He's going to expect to kiss me and stuff...I guess I just tell him the truth and make some lame joke ,laugh it off and move on, right? Or say I'm sick and hide indoors for days.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    I'd cancel, personally. Showing up with a herpes outbreak is no way to make an impression, lol. Plus, you'd give it to him if he kissed you.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    How long does it usually take to get rid of a cold sore? I would reschedule if I were you.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    Here's the thing. This is not new. We have spent a lot of time together at events and functions.He's spent the night here a few tomes (No sex) and we are talking about goin on trips together. Should I really avoid him because I hav a tiny bump that may or may not be acoldsore on my lip? And should I be honest about why I'm cancellling the date?

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    Tell him and see if he wants to canel. Why exactly should he care much? The worst thing a woman can ever do with me is cancel a date and not tell me why. Especially if its a relationship that has been occuring for awhile.
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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    I'd just tell him that I have a cold sore... geeze, everyone gets them every now and again... it's not the end of the world. All that he would have to do is avoid kissing you until it's healed.

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    Oh, well in that case, just tell him the truth. If you guys already somewhat know each other, he should be understanding about it. And if he has spent the night before without sex, than it's possible that you can go thru the whole date without having to kiss. Just tell him.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
    I'd cancel, personally. Showing up with a herpes outbreak is no way to make an impression, lol. Plus, you'd give it to him if he kissed you.
    Yea, I'm the same way. I'd cancel, but again that's just me.







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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    At some point before he touches you you should tell him the truth. Why not today? If you just met I'd say wait but you already have a good acquaintanship.

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    I'd go on the date and make some wisecrack about my herpes flaring up-but hey it's not aids.
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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    Quote Originally Posted by Blade
    I'd go on the date and make some wisecrack about my herpes flaring up-but hey it's not aids.
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    Funny.....I woke up this morning and it's just a little bump and it doesn't reallt look like anything but it's sort of swollen .....I wonder if I just bit my lip or something.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    I'd cancel. I'd be too embarrassed. How long do they last?
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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    A pimple maybe instead, but be careful and watch the symptoms.

    Anyhow 75-85% of humans have herpes of some sort, many not ever being able to point to their source of infection. There are so many kinds of them, and some kinds affecting genitals of some people and not affecting them in others. Not saying anything about you, just that people react very differently to herpes types, but it is still very contagious.
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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    I'd cancel. I'd be too embarrassed. How long do they last?

    Depends. I almost never get them .I've had one for 2 weeks or 5 days....Stress is usually the cause...I've been superstressed lately.Mostly money issues.

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    Ha... I had a big ol' cold sore the day I met my guy and he loves me anyway. I say go, and if he tries to kiss you, just give him your cheek and say, "I'm so sorry, I've got a cold sore so I probably shouldn't be kissing until this heals up." Most people get cold sores at some point. If he's a dick about it, then it says a lot about him and you wouldn't want to date him anyway.

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    You can kiss on the cheek. I would just go and conceal with makeup / lipstick like maxine says. When he goes for the kiss just give him the cheek and then return with a nice peck on his cheek. Don't be nervous. You can explain the way Yek suggested - that would be best. If you act negative about it, he will reflect negativity. If you act casual, he will reflect that.

    If he freaks out, he's not the guy for you. You'll have to tell him sometime if you're going to continue seeing him. Most people have this anyway so chances are he gets coldsores too

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    Thank God that we both kind of wanted to cancel.......Normally, I would think he was avoiding me ,and that could be, but I'm thankful and encouraged a raincheck....

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    and BTW......the stupid thing is basically gone!

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    Default Re: should I cancel a date because of a cold sore?

    It could have been your brain messing with you. I've never had a cold sore before and a month ago I developed what ended up being a pimple on the edge of my lip - it happened a few days before a date I was looking forward to.

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