To everyone who read my first post and anyone else interested:
I finally managed to wrangle my boyfriend into a calm, grown up discussion about me becoming a stripper. Before, everytime I brought it up, a rage ensued with arms being thrown up in the air and yelling and "No! Absolutely not! I FORBID IT!!"
Not fun.
But, finally, he decided to act his age and we discussed all his concerns and my resolutions and reassurances. I was surprised that his biggest concern wasn't me getting naked and rubbing up on random strangers (altho, of course, it was present) but my happiness & self worth. He said he's been friends with strippers before that just hated their jobs and told him how degrading and damaging their jobs were for them. So I thought that was really sweet of him. So, he & I came up with a compromise. Let me know what you guys think of this:
1.) Instead of working right away at a club, he wants me to work as waitress in a club for 90 days. So I can see & figure out how strip clubs work, really get a feel for everything, and have an outside perspective on the reality of stripping. In his words, "So you can see how fucked up everything actually is." He's convinced I really wouldn't be happy doing this for a living. But, I like his idea b/c as much as I think I would like it, things look much different from a different part of the club, I'm sure.
2.) If, after the 90 days as a strip club waitress, I still have a burning desire to take my clothes off in front of people, I can have a go at amatuer night at, like, Deja Vu or something. I think that will be really fun . . .![]()
3.) If, after doing amatuer night, I still want to be a stripper, then, yes, he will let the issue go and I can dance as much as I please.
I know alot of people are, like, "So, who cares what he thinks? He can't "not let" you do something." And they're right. He can't tell me what to do and I wouldn't let him. Even if he eventually decided that he wasn't going to allow this, I would seriously have to rethink our entire realtionship. But, I want him to be somewhat comfortable & reassured about my the choices I make, the exact same consideration I would want from him. So, yeah, that's the plan. Wish me luck!!
Love,
Mandy



Not fun.


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