OK next weekend, my cousin is getting married and my family is invited to the wedding. Out of courtesy, I agreed to go along with my family but I am a little worried. For one thing, the wedding just happens to be on a Saturday night, so I'm going to have to work all week long because I'll be missing one of the best nights of the week moneywise. For another, I'm going to have to take on a completely different personality again. My family is rather strict and close-minded, and among the things they don't know about my life include:
1) that I'm a dancer
2) that I've had breast implants for over a year now
3) I drink and smoke more than they'd be happy with...and that's considering that I don't really even drink that much, except if someone buys me a drink at work!
4) I like to date guys and do more in the way of "fooling around" than my family approves of
5) my brand-new Mustang is MY car, not my ex-boyfriend's car like my dad thinks
So now I'm going to have to wear a sweaty prudish turtleneck and chest-compressing sports bra, whereas most people will probably be wearing sundresses and summer blouses! I'm going to have to spend a small amount of time this week rehearsing my lies, such as lying about how many cars I have, where I work, what drinks I make at my "bartending job," etc. I HATE LYING and I am an honest person by nature. Hells, I'm one of those girls at work who is pretty straightforward with customers and although I don't reveal too much personal info, I also don't put on a big fake act. But when I'm around my family, I have to lie and look somewhat shady, or else they will find out that I dance/drink/have sex/have implants and my reputation with them will be scarred. I lie to my family probably more than anyone else, except maybe for obnoxious customers who piss me off to the point that I feel a secret revenge lying about little things(what country I'm from, how long I've worked at a club, etc) and getting away with it. When I was honest about things they disapproved of in the past, they overreacted and did bad shit that ruined my life, like cutting off my college money, banning me from Christmas dinner, or kicking me out of the house.
So now I am worried about how I am going to have fun, or not look shady/mysterious, around my family at the wedding. It's moreso my immediate family(my dad and siblings) than my cousins or others whom I rarely see anymore. But even with them, I have to make sure I tell consistent lies about my jobs or cars, or it will get back to my dad and he'll think I'm a liar. Is it best for me to keep up the facade? Any suggestions for clothing that will be cool for hot summertime, but not show off my boobs? Dammit, weddings are usually a fun time and a great way to meet potential dates/hook-ups, but my game is going to be spoiled by having to look and act a certain way!Does anyone else play this game with their family, having to act prudish or lie about jobs just to avoid disappointing them?


Does anyone else play this game with their family, having to act prudish or lie about jobs just to avoid disappointing them?
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and you would rather not discuss something so personal...

And, if you aren't happy lying, then don't lie. It may cause problems, but it'll protect your sanity.
I believe you Dottie and you have my support



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