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    Okay so I'm one of the chicks that is always taking to custys and working the room.

    My question is how do you ladies politely excuse yourself from a custy that is just eating up your time without asking for a dance or paying you for your time to sit and chat. (I'm in one of those clubs that won't allow dancers to ask custys for dances)
    What I've been doing is saying I'm gonna go and say hi to some friends, or say that I'm gonna walk around and see if anyone wants me to dance, (maybe I should instead say if anyone wants to chat?), or that I need to walk around and warm up my legs, drink some water I left at the DJ booth, etc etc etc.

    I just don't want these dudes to think I'm bored with them or rejecting them. Cuz you know some of them get jealous and shit. I see them eyeing me when I sit with another guy, lol.

    It's hard to say 'I gotta leave cuz I gotta make money and since you're not giving me ANY, you're wasting my time' without sounding greedy? lol.
    Plus this whole "no asking for dances thing cuz it's solicitation" law SUX!

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    I think you should switch clubs if possible. Its like working at a car dealership where you cant ask the person to buy the car. Showing is not selling. Asking is selling.

    To answer your question - You could say something like: "Its been nice talking to you tonight and I have to get back to work. I'll come around later to see if you want to have some fun with me."
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    I'm sorry, where is this that you can't ask for dances? And how is it illegal for you, but not illegal for the customer? Are you sure about this?

    I think you are making a fundamental error - reject them. Let them make the connection between you and money. I mean, why would any of us want to make the customer believe that we are dying to hang out with them for free? That just leads to them thinking that we want to hang out with them for free, and then we bitch about customers who try to get us to hang out with them for free. If you are really not allowed to ask for a dance... well, I would go somewhere that I could. I would NEVER sell ANYTHING like that. But outside of that I would very nicely and directly say that you are going to go give guys a chance to get a dance from you - remind them of what you are doing and let them notice that the guys who get you are the one's who spend money.
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    Wow Jenny I never thought of it that way. My thoughts exactly, I just never knew how to act it out.

    That is what I'm going to do from now on.

    I'm in Columbus, GA by the way. There is a lewd code here. You can't show your pussy or nipples. Must have a thong (not a g-string), and pasties or latex on at all times. Asking for a dance in this town is considered solicitation.
    There are NO VIP rooms and no lapdances. All dances are table and in full view of the rest of the club. No contact.

    Atlanta is and hour and fifteen away from here, and of course the money is better there, with nudity and lapdances and all.

    But I'm only doing this for like a month or two. Plus, I kinda like the whole no contact and panty wearing thing.

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    Julisse- Thats pretty cool...can you make decent $$ there? I am sometimes sick of giving nude grinds but it is almost unavoidable in LA (I think)

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    You: "So, if you'd like some dances, I'm pretty good at that."

    Random Bum: "Why don't you keep sitting on my lap, letting me grope you for free."

    You: "Hey, I've actually got to get going, but if you'd like some dances just flag me down next time you see me."

    It's simple as 1, 2, 3. Guys know what's going on. We're not stupid. We won't be offended.

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    i don't play games about it. i'm not rude or anything, but i usually say something like. "well, it's been cool, but i need to go mingle" after they respond i say" yep, gotta do my job and get paid". or "it'd be a shame to work all day and go home broke"

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    Quote Originally Posted by SC_dude
    You: "So, if you'd like some dances, I'm pretty good at that."

    Random Bum: "Why don't you keep sitting on my lap, letting me grope you for free."

    You: "Hey, I've actually got to get going, but if you'd like some dances just flag me down next time you see me."

    It's simple as 1, 2, 3. Guys know what's going on. We're not stupid. We won't be offended.
    Remember she cant ask for dances. Thats pretty much asking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    i say" yep, gotta do my job and get paid". or "it'd be a shame to work all day and go home broke"
    Thats very direct and honest...and if you must, then you must. But i like to refrain from talking about the need for money at all. I've heard guys complain to ME about other girls complaining to THEM about money so I just really don't want to remind them that this is my job. Unless of course they don't understand...but yeah, try and keep the fantasy alive...maybe I'm not very good at explaining myself. I don't really explain to the customer why I have to go at all I just cross my fingers and hope they understand that because they did not want a dance anytime soon, I was not going to keep hanging out.

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    If I'm feeling lazy "l'll come check back up on you in a little bit"....or If im not lazy I'll think of some super creative excuse.....
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    Considering all that junk I gotta live with, to be honest, I average 300 a night. I make close to 500 on a good night, and 150 on pathetic nights. 400-500 on weekend days.

    But I have only been doing this for 2 or 3 weeks, and I plan on upping my game considerably. But from what I've been told, I'm already one of the top earners.

    This is a smaller town. A military one nonetheless.

    But to avoid the whole solicitation thing, I only say, "It's been real nice talking to you, but I'm gonna go give guys a chance to get a dance from me. I'll come back and say Hi later." But all I do is chit-chat with dudes. I NEVER mention private dances unless they ask me about them. It ain't worth going to jail.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SC_dude
    You: "So, if you'd like some dances, I'm pretty good at that."

    Random Bum: "Why don't you keep sitting on my lap, letting me grope you for free."

    You: "Hey, I've actually got to get going, but if you'd like some dances just flag me down next time you see me."

    It's simple as 1, 2, 3. Guys know what's going on. We're not stupid. We won't be offended.
    Lol, that is how half of my conversations end up with men like that. Some just cannot take a hint...
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    Quote Originally Posted by julisse
    Considering all that junk I gotta live with, to be honest, I average 300 a night. I make close to 500 on a good night, and 150 on pathetic nights. 400-500 on weekend days.

    But I have only been doing this for 2 or 3 weeks, and I plan on upping my game considerably. But from what I've been told, I'm already one of the top earners.

    This is a smaller town. A military one nonetheless.
    I was in the Air Force, but never danced for any service members. Do you find that they- are: * in awe of you,*basically first timers *young , *in great shape, *obey the rules and *have money to spend or that they #have gotten alot of dances #try to get bang for their buck #rude #demeaning #grabby or #aggressive about getting your number and seeing you?

    I don't want you to generalize per se because I hated doing that then being proven wrong by all the artists, homosexuals, and hippies I met in the military. But an estimation of your experiences would be very interesting to me...

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    Depends. Sometimes its the usual "lovely talking to you, but i need to talk to someone/go to the loo/ get my drink etc" There has been times however when guys say "Oh Ive only come in here for a drink, well, they get it then "Why don't you just go to the pub, and stop wasting the girls time???" Theyrs basically having a perv for free.
    There are some girls who wont even talk to guys in my club, they'll litterally come over and just ask for dances, they're the ones who earn the most cash. But it all seems a bit cut-throat to me, plus I like talking sometimes.



    Whats the deal with not being able to ask for dances? Is there not some "code" talk that has developed out of this? There would in my club, the girls are hustlers and a half!
    I suppose how much you flirt (without asking for a dance) is mopre how you'd get guys fired up for a dance??? Just be a total flirt, seductivly drinking from straws, eye contact, being very suggestive etc. All in good humour of course. Thats how I'd do it...

    You guys have to generally "grind" in the US dont u? my mate worked in Miami, and she said that in some clubs, in some dances, customers were aloud to touch you, and you were meant to grind??? Thats not alloud anywhere in the UK. (although some clubs have worse reputations than others!)

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    military guys here rock! the club i'm at is quite literally 150 feet away from the gates to ft riley in a little trailer trash excuse for a town. the only thing that keeps anything going is the Big Red 1.

    yeah a lot of them are right out ot AIT, and aren't into "that sort of thing" but when there's nothing else to do for a good 80 miles in any direction, to the SC they go! for the most part, they're angels about not touching (if they get into trouble, the MPs are on top of it and no one wants to do a road march on the weekend bc pvt so and so touched a stripper!)

    a lot of them live in the barracks, so they have between 400-700 dollars to blow, depending on rank.

    yes, most of them are definately in shape, and absolutely adorable. *grin* so when doing couch dances making them take off their shirt so you have something to look at too helps sell more dances.

    and yes, some of them want you number, but are understanding when you tell them that you're dating their battle buddy, so they better back off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blayze
    military guys here rock! the club i'm at is quite literally 150 feet away from the gates to ft riley in a little trailer trash excuse for a town. the only thing that keeps anything going is the Big Red 1.

    yeah a lot of them are right out ot AIT, and aren't into "that sort of thing" but when there's nothing else to do for a good 80 miles in any direction, to the SC they go! for the most part, they're angels about not touching (if they get into trouble, the MPs are on top of it and no one wants to do a road march on the weekend bc pvt so and so touched a stripper!)

    a lot of them live in the barracks, so they have between 400-700 dollars to blow, depending on rank.

    yes, most of them are definately in shape, and absolutely adorable. *grin* so when doing couch dances making them take off their shirt so you have something to look at too helps sell more dances.

    and yes, some of them want you number, but are understanding when you tell them that you're dating their battle buddy, so they better back off.
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    u guys have to generally "grind" in the US dont u? my mate worked in Miami, and she said that in some clubs, in some dances, customers were aloud to touch you, and you were meant to grind???
    In LA, or the valley more like it-it would probably really hurt someone's earning potential if they refused any sort of contact. There was a law put into effect to ban lapdancing, some clubs made rules about where and how a dancer may dance but where I work: We generally grind on nude and topless songs, if a guy is in VIP I don't mind him touching my breasts, and I see SOME girls letting him control her hips for some sort of thrusting motion- which I definately dont. ALSO SOME PEOPLE ACT LIKE ITS TOTALLY NORMAL TO TOUCH MY PUSSY which sucks if you aren't on the lookout for it ya know? They don't expect penetration but think that they may caress it. Girls can consistently leave with over 1000 and a clear conscience most nights and we are a very new and clean club....

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    What I've noticed about the military dudes is that they are SO MUCH FUN. They're great to talk to. Some of them are assholes of course. Half of them are always partying. I like the younger horny kids. I love dancing for them cuz they got sex written all over thier faces. They always come in crowds. Some think they're superior than the locals. Um, they're always flattering and fun.

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    i dont see what would be bad about guys being jealous, sometimes that is just the push guys need to make there mind up. it makes you seem in high demand which is very appealing.

    i woulds just say "that guy over there is waving money at me i have to go...unless you want to be first "

    you dont have to say first for what, and you get to see if he is really interested or not.

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    I would think that leaning forward, looking at them suggestively, raising your eyebrows a bit and saying "So...." might work.

    Also, are you allowed to talk about the fact that you aren't allowed to ask for dances? Him: "So, do you like working here?" You: "Yeah, but it's kind of tough sometimes since we aren't allowed to directly ask guys if they would like dances. They have to tell us they want one." You're not asking if they want a dance, you're just talking about the fact that you aren't allowed to ask.

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    good one Kat.



    It sux here. But yeah, I guess I could talk about that. Thta's a good strategy Carolina cuz they ask me that all the time. I'll definitely give it a try.

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    I used to be shy to excuse myself, but now I just get to the point. Don't feel bad about doing it..our goal is to make money and theirs is to have fun by spending money to buy that fun..right. it's kinda like a visit to the amusement park ya know, you pay the entrance fee, and fees to play a game or buy a drink etc.

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    "it's kinda like a visit to the amusement park ya know, you pay the entrance fee, and fees to play a game or buy a drink etc."

    That's a great analogy. Astroworld used to cost $40-50 dollars to get in and t-shirts can run another 40, the games cost money, the 4 dollar cokes (equivalent to stage tipping) then everything else and you're like, why didn't I just go to a SC? At least there aren't lines there and the rides are a lot more fun. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by julisse
    ...(I'm in one of those clubs that won't allow dancers to ask custys for dances)...
    Can you hint at it without asking?

    If another dancer is doing a dance out on the floor can you say something like, "Wow that looks like fun." Something where you can use what's going on around you to hint at leading him where you want to go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KennedyWinters
    In LA, or the valley more like it-it would probably really hurt someone's earning potential if they refused any sort of contact. There was a law put into effect to ban lapdancing, some clubs made rules about where and how a dancer may dance but where I work: We generally grind on nude and topless songs, if a guy is in VIP I don't mind him touching my breasts, and I see SOME girls letting him control her hips for some sort of thrusting motion- which I definately dont. ALSO SOME PEOPLE ACT LIKE ITS TOTALLY NORMAL TO TOUCH MY PUSSY which sucks if you aren't on the lookout for it ya know? They don't expect penetration but think that they may caress it. Girls can consistently leave with over 1000 and a clear conscience most nights and we are a very new and clean club....
    The grind is pretty damn common and hard to avoid. I think the only nude club around here that doesn't allow contact is 4Play. Then again, I could be wrong.
    But I totally know what you meant about customers trying to touch your pussy. It happens to me SEVERAL times a night and I always have to tell them no, or brush their hand away with a stupid coy giggle. That's really the part I hate the most. They can touch anywhere else on my body - I don't even care if they want me to position myself a certain way (although it is pretty annoying). I just don't want someone's dirty fingers in my snatch, thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by julisse
    What I've noticed about the military dudes is that they are SO MUCH FUN. They're great to talk to. Some of them are assholes of course. Half of them are always partying. I like the younger horny kids. I love dancing for them cuz they got sex written all over thier faces. They always come in crowds. Some think they're superior than the locals. Um, they're always flattering and fun.

    i agree with you on that, army boys are a lot of fun, for the most part. yeah there's your occasional not so nice guy.

    i notice that a lot of times, they'll ask about the dances before i do. our couch dances are in a semi-private room, and the couches are so comfortable, a lot of times i'll hint by saying, "my last stage set got me a bit tired, i just want to relax... mmmmm.... our couches are so comfy!!!

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