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    Sad so NOW WHAT??

    *sorry, the 1st part is me venting.. you can fast forward to my question at the bottom if you care not to hear anymore of my drama*
    I think everyone knows that i did my "first night" on saturday night, and if you read my rant you know that it SUCKED.. but i charged that one to the Game, and went back monday night, which was a LITTLE better morale wise because i found out a girl i havent seen in YEARS was working there too, and we had fun.. but didnt make any money, but hey its monday night in a club with no tvs, so charged that one to the Game as well and tried it again last night (tuesday) and the dj-slash-bouncer-slash-manager-on-duty ( ) first of all, wouldn't play my cds, and second of all, kept his eyes on me the ENTIRE time i was out on the floor and told me not to even drink SODA, as it may appear to be an "alcoholic beverage in disguise" and we cant have any drinks brought in yadayadayada and then he called me to the dj booth in the middle of a lapdance and told me i couldn't even LOOK like i was gonna straddle the guy (rolls eyes again) but then, a customer gave me a dolllar to tip my friend who was onstage, and he went APESHIT and told me that girls do NOT tip other girls and when i asked why he looked at me like i had just asked to borrow a piece of crack ...so on to MY turn onstage, i ran my hands up the SIDES of my breasts and he called me up to the dressing room and showed me a piece of newspaper article duct-taped to the wall about ALE not allowing you to touch your nipples (which i didnt!) and told me to read the whole effin thing and consider it a WARNING and if i ever tip or touch a girl, i'm fired. (big damn whoop) So i got dressed, got my lil $65 in ones, and headed for the door, he called me back, to "talk about this" and i said don't bother and he cussed me out from the door...

    Sorry so long.. i needed to vent

    But, now what can i do? I thought we were independant contractors, and could work anywhere we like, as long as we tip out house fees.. but they had me sign on for a 4 day minimum schedule and said i couldn't just "work in any club"..?? But i guess i just quit from there, so can i go to another club? I really wanna go to a club that I LIKE...i wouldnt even go to that one as a customer, much less work there, i just wanted the expirience somewhere that wasnt gonna be crowded..

    ugghh what do i do now??
    "You gotta snatch them mutha-f*ckaz up and let THEM know that YOU gonna take THEM out..anytime YOU feel like it! You gotta get the ground beneath yo feet, patnah..get the wind behind yo back and go out in BLAZE if you have to! Otherwise, YOU AIN'T SH*T!!" -2Pac as "Bishop" in Juice

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    Default Re: so NOW WHAT??

    Well it sounds like you quit, so now just find a new club.

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    Default Re: so NOW WHAT??

    Find a new club

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    Default Re: so NOW WHAT??

    Go find a new club, of course....

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    Just go find a new club. Every club is different. In my area most of the clubs make you work a strict schedule. Some clubs run there business just like a regular bar. I worked at a couple of clubs in DC where we were paid an hourly wage and were offered benefits like health insurance etc... I know it can be difficult to find the right club, but keep trying you will find a club if you can be patient. Just try (as hard as it can be sometimes) to keep a good attitude and try to learn something from every experience. It will help you make money in the long run. Good luck to you.

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    Sounds like you're working for the deja vu i worked for lol! I would quit and find a better club that has more cash flow! Don't worry about it...chalk it up to experience and move on! You're better than that place!
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    ^^Thanks FuntasticFerra. I think thats the best thing.

    ..I don't know whats up with me, but i am so depressed. I drank so much last night that i still haven't fully recovered, and i just feel like i don't care about ANYTHING. I feel like so many people have taken advantage of me, and i am usually the strongest-minded woman i know.. i am so mad at myself. How could i let this happen to me? And i am so disappointed in myself.. i mean, damn i couldn't even do THIS right. I feel so empty. I am tired, sore, and STILL BROKE. I dunno WHY what that jackass yelled at me from the door last night upset me, but it did. I feel like a total fuck-up! And on my way home last night, the stripper anthem came on, and when he said "makes her wanna throw up her hands, cuz she only wanna LIVE again" i lost it. I was crying so hard i had to pull off the road. I just can't seem to get it together. It seems like every choice i make is the WRONG one, no matter what i do. And i can't figure out how to get back on the right track. I am hurting so bad right now.. i guess i just want to hear someone say that they've been there, and that they pulled through it, and it won't last forever.. i dont want to feel this way anymore, but its like a black cloud has fallen on me..
    "You gotta snatch them mutha-f*ckaz up and let THEM know that YOU gonna take THEM out..anytime YOU feel like it! You gotta get the ground beneath yo feet, patnah..get the wind behind yo back and go out in BLAZE if you have to! Otherwise, YOU AIN'T SH*T!!" -2Pac as "Bishop" in Juice

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    i really do agree with you that since we are independent contractors, we should be able to work when and where we want. i hate the scheduling thing, but we gotta deal with it i guess. the only club ive worked at that has no scheduling whatsoever is Platinum Plus, theres 2 in south carolina. wish all clubs were like that. find another club, swallow your pride and follow the rules...remember that when they fire you, theyre not suffering any kind of loss, they could care less.

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    Quote Originally Posted by genesia
    ^^Thanks FuntasticFerra. I think thats the best thing.

    ..I don't know whats up with me, but i am so depressed. I drank so much last night that i still haven't fully recovered, and i just feel like i don't care about ANYTHING. I feel like so many people have taken advantage of me, and i am usually the strongest-minded woman i know.. i am so mad at myself. How could i let this happen to me? And i am so disappointed in myself.. i mean, damn i couldn't even do THIS right. I feel so empty. I am tired, sore, and STILL BROKE. I dunno WHY what that jackass yelled at me from the door last night upset me, but it did. I feel like a total fuck-up! And on my way home last night, the stripper anthem came on, and when he said "makes her wanna throw up her hands, cuz she only wanna LIVE again" i lost it. I was crying so hard i had to pull off the road. I just can't seem to get it together. It seems like every choice i make is the WRONG one, no matter what i do. And i can't figure out how to get back on the right track. I am hurting so bad right now.. i guess i just want to hear someone say that they've been there, and that they pulled through it, and it won't last forever.. i dont want to feel this way anymore, but its like a black cloud has fallen on me..
    oh my gosh, if you read some of my posts you will know that i DO get that depressed like that...i give myself 2 day hangovers sometimes girl, even been through self mutilation, so if u wanna talk just PM me...anytime!

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    ^Thanks LuckiCharm... i really appreciate it!! I dunno why it's so hard for me right now..
    "You gotta snatch them mutha-f*ckaz up and let THEM know that YOU gonna take THEM out..anytime YOU feel like it! You gotta get the ground beneath yo feet, patnah..get the wind behind yo back and go out in BLAZE if you have to! Otherwise, YOU AIN'T SH*T!!" -2Pac as "Bishop" in Juice

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    I had a nasty experience with a manager, he didn't yell at me he grabbed me and threw me across the room, I was minding my own business when he just lost it. He was a steriod user, totally psychotic, needless to say I never worked with him again, it took me a while to go back to work and I wouldn't set foot in that place again for more than a year, I went somewhere else. (As a footnote his GF dumped him shotting through with all the money he'd stolen and he went into work and started smashing the place up, security had to eject him, this kind of stuff catches up with them in the end) There is nothing worse than a situation where it doesn't matter what you do some idiot is riding you, stuff like that shakes you up, I'd be suprised if you didn't feel down, for him that would have been the point. It helps to keep in mind people who act like that are the ones with the problem, there is nothing wrong with you he was deliberately trying to break you so he could control you.
    Find a new club, that contract business is bluff, I've yet to see a legally binding (or legal for that matter) contract come out of the industry. Don't look for somewhere on the idea of it being big money, look for a good core staff and a good system where you will be supported, it's easier to earn consistantly in a place without all the crap and a hell of a lot less stressful. Give yourself a day or two to rest up then get to it so the image doesn't linger, you need something to restore your faith. In the meantime take it easy on the alcohol, the hangovers will skew your moods.

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    go and check out some more clubs i never had a set schedule i worked 4 nights a week on the nights i decided good luck with another club!!!
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    i'd say that you should take this as a learning experience and find a new place to work. let go of the guilt, as you didn't do anything bad on purpose. strip clubs are so full of drama and weirdness, that you have to let things go sometimes. i know it's hard, especially on a bad night. everyone has been there. bad nights will come again, regardless of where you work. the club you worked at sounded super strick and nit-picky. not all are like that....there are places where an easy-going atmosphere is the norm. and there will be really good nights too.

    and yes, almost everybody has felt as you do at one point or another, perhaps not as strongly, but they can definately relate. what's important is to have faith in yourself....try thinking positively no matter how hard it is...fake confidence if you have to, and guys will be more receptive. if you make a mistake, laugh at yourself and make a joke of it....guys are also receptive to humor. you can do it .

    but yeah, i think a new club would be better for you.

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