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    Well.. I made the last-ditch plea to my Doctor today as I was talking about in , to see if he'd let me try a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-Section) to deliver this baby. He said "Absolutely Not". He said there's just simply too much of a risk of something going wrong (Uterine Rupture, causing the baby's death, my death, or both of us). I also haven't dilated anymore, which is another sign that it wouldn't go well. I'm stalled at a 2.

    I'm bummed, but I expected that answer. I've always said that it doesn't matter how he gets here, as long as he does safely and that he's healthy. So I guess I'll stick to that. It's just disappointing having to go through a 3rd C-Section. Then, dealing with the recovery. Ugh, I don't even want to think about that.

    We "Officially" scheduled the C-Section date today as well. It's set for August 30th, because the hospital will only allow scheduling to be done one week prior to the due date. There's no guarantee I'll make it that far of course, because the closest I've ever gotten to my due date was 15 days before. But, he could surprise us and wait that long.

    Anyway.. It's set for August 30th. We check-in at 10:30AM for prepping and all that good stuff. And probably by 12:30-1:00PM, Hunter will have arrived. Yay!

    So my last Prenatal appointment is next Wednesday.. Then the following Wednesday is D-Day! Eek! I think I'm prepared. The only thing I may have a problem with is not eating or drinking anything after Midnight on that day. He usually makes me have a snack around 1AM.. lol

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    Well as long as this little guy comes out healthy Rhi. Do you realize his date keeps moving to match my departure date from Australia. The 26th is when we have to be out of the house, and the 30th is our last day here. lol

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    Yikes. Sounds nerve racking. I really hope recovery goes well. Try not to think about it now, just relax.

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    I'm sorry you have to have the C-section, but whatever will keep you both healthy is needed. Just make sure your husband spoils you during the recovery period

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    Awww...I know you really wanted the VBAC...but, you're right. It doesn't matter how he comes into the world...as long as he does so happily and healthily.

    But, definitely relax and take it easy...he's almost here!! I'm so excited!!

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    Hehe.. Thanks, Venus.. I'm getting excited now, actually knowing the date. Now, it's getting him to stay put until then. Like I said, he may surprise me and break my chain of early babies and make it to the 30th. That'd be cool so everything will go as planned, and I'll have these 2 weeks to just relax and put the finishing touches on everything that I have to.

    2 weeks though.. Yipes!

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    Oh congrats its B-day not D-day look at it that way. I wish you the best

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    LOL It's hard not to look at it as D-Day, because I'm getting sliced and diced, but I shall try. Thanks, Hon.

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    Good luck Rhiannon! You are much braver than I would be! I am scared to have kids, even though I do want them, because I am terrified of having to go through a C-section! Be sure to post pics of Hunter here so we can all see your new little wonder!
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    Thanks! This will be my 3rd C-Section, and I'm still nervous. LOL. You'd figure I'd be used to it by now, but nope. I'll definitely be posting some pics when he arrives!

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    I think that's a good decision. VBAC isn't pretty. My mother had three C-sections and then decided on a vaginal birth for her fourth child... she ripped wide open completely from her vagina to her anus, they had to pull him out with forceps, and the whole experience was miserably painful. Two months later she had to have a hysterectomy because she was still bleeding so badly it made her anemic. That baby is now 11 years old and she still shudders when she thinks about it. She wishes she'd just had another C-section.

    Congratulations on the date! Here's to a healthy Hunter!

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    Thanks, Yekhefah! Ack! That's a horror story if I ever did hear it! I tore with my first baby (and they did an episiotomy too!), and he was the only "normal" delivery I had. My other 2 were C-Sections. The Doctor said that even though I'd had one natural delivery, which would normally work in my favor, it was still 14 years ago, so it didn't matter now. Too much time has passed.

    He explained that the two scars that are already on my uterus could tear open before contractions even start. He also wouldn't be able to induce them with Pictocin, and he couldn't rupture the membranes. So, if it didn't happen on its own, it wouldn't, pretty much.

    So now I'm just psyching myself up, and trying not to think about the Spinal until it's actually time to have it done. That's the thing I fear most. I'm okay with getting cut open and being fully awake for it---it's needles that I am afraid of, especially the extra-long one that'll be going into my spine. Eep.

    ::Think happy thoughts.. Think happy thoughts...:::

    LOL.. Just keep your fingers crossed that he'll wait til the 30th.

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    Is it the surgery that bothers you or not being able to 'give birth' to your baby?


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    Well, dear, wishing you the best! Everything will be fine! Luvs ya.


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    Both, Lilith. Not being able to give birth naturally is very disappointing. I went through it with Delia. I was all set to do the VBAC.. My water broke the night before, and we rushed right to the hospital all excited... Got hooked up to the monitors, and not ONE contraction all night. I also hadn't dilated. So, when my Doctor came in the morning, he said "Well, you've lost all your water pretty much, you don't want a dry birth.. We can't do Pictocin, we can't speed anything along."

    I was given the option of waiting THREE DAYS for something to happen on its own. Just to lay there, in the hospital, for 3 days and see if labor happened. That would've killed me.

    I cried for a good 20 minutes. It took many of the staff, the Doctor, and my Husband to calm me down for prepping, and to get me to finally agree to the repeat (2nd) C-Section.

    It's just something that you're supposed to be able to do, ya know? And when you can't, it's extremely disappointing.

    But at least I still had a hand in it all--I've cooked him for 9 months. And he's healthy. So, that's something.

    But like I said, I've been through it twice, so the actual surgery doesn't bother me. It's the prepping. I have an intense fear of needles, and the Husband is not allowed to be in the OR when the prepping is done. So, a member of the medical team holds you while you're leaned over a tray table, sitting up, while they do the Spinal. The Husband is brought it after you're all prepped and laying down. Oh. They also strap your arms straight out to the sides, so you can't move them even if you wanted to. I don't like not feeling "in control".

    So yeah.. It's a little of both.

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    awww sweetie i know you're dissappointed, but its got to be safer this way.. I'll still worry, but i would have been wayyyyyyyy worried had the doc agreed to a VBAC... plus, docs are allowing fewer VBACs because C-sections are just safer, supposedly, and everyone in the world is sue happy...

    Its going to be great, and I cant wait to see him!!!!!!
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    Man, your description of a Csection sounds exactly like most childbirth experiences of women until the 60s, when they'd strap them down flat on their backs (the worst thing ever to happen in the history of medicine) and yank the kid out with forceps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiannon
    Thanks! This will be my 3rd C-Section, and I'm still nervous. LOL. You'd figure I'd be used to it by now, but nope. I'll definitely be posting some pics when he arrives!
    So you've NEVER had a vaginal birth? Lucky Dan! You must be tight as a nun but a heck of a lot hotter!
    Seriously, good luck, ya know yer in my thoughts...in a non sexual kinda way this time.


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    My birthday is the 28th, make him come out early! Children born on that day typically love instant mashed taters! OUT DAMNED SPOT!
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    Rhia, I know you are disappointed with your doc's decision... but as long as Hunter comes out healthy and on time
    And pls post some pics of him when he comes!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blade
    So you've NEVER had a vaginal birth? Lucky Dan! You must be tight as a nun but a heck of a lot hotter!
    Seriously, good luck, ya know yer in my thoughts...in a non sexual kinda way this time.
    for now
    Yeah, Pappy.. My first (Matthew) was a Vaginal birth, but that was 14 years ago. Trust me, there are times where we can't even do anything, because it's too tight and uncomfortable.. LOL

    KJ.. I tell ya, during the prep, you would definitely think they're getting ready to torture you. The strapping down can really make a girl freak out (I did, during the first C-Section!). Your arms are about the only thing you can move (everything else is paralyzed pretty much), and they take those away from you! It makes me not like velcro so much, I tell ya that.
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    Good luck sweetheart. Everything is going to be great... I was nervous about my scheduled c-section too, but it was fine. Yay for Hunter! Yay for Rhi!


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    Thanks, Montana! This is the first C-Section that's ever been scheduled for me. The other 2 were spur-of-the-moment, so I'm not really sure what to expect. When you check-in, do they start the prepping right away, or do they monitor for a little while? I just want to go in there prepared with what's going to happen.

    We check in at 10:30 in the morning, but the actual surgery isn't going to start until 12:30, so those 2 hours must be filled with something, other than the prepping which will only take a few minutes.

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    I came in, got changed.... They hooked me up to the monitors for a half hour, shaved me, catheritized me (which does suck by the way since there is no epidural at this point) Then my honey and I sat and waited for anestisiologist who told me what to expect, and at 8:30 my OB arrived and saidc, "Lets go have a baby!" he was here by 9:30 am... The waiting sucks, the catheter isn't a lot of fun... being hungry and having to drink that crap that nuetralizes your stomach acids for surgery is yucky.... it made me a bit sick.... However it was over fast enough..

    You will be fine...

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    rhi, im getting sooo excited for ya! lol.. i can't wait till he gets here!!
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