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    I just ended a relationship woth this guy who was immediately possessive from the start. He wanted to know where I was working and call him to make sure I was doing what I said I was. He would also get angry very fast and suspect of lying for no reason. I think from these signs this guy was probaly dangerous with hte potential of beign physically abusive.
    When I couldnt lie anymore, since he asked me to call him from my place of work, I decided to tell him I was a dancer.
    Ever since he has held it against me and treated me less than a person, and it finally ended since.
    I know danicing is just a job and from the posts I read on this site, it is only a reflection of someones ignorance to look down on someone for choosing this profession.
    Yet I can't help but feel conflicted, since there are so many customers and people on the outside who believe that only girls with no self worth or ambition.
    I was just wondering how other dancers deal with issues like this on a regular basis in order to motivate them towards what they plan on getting out of this business without paying attention to these outside distractions.

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    no. i never let peoples small minds and ignorance bother me. it just validates the fact that regardless of social status, you can still be a moron....
    if you can hold your head up high and know in your heart that you have 'self worth and ambition', what does it matter?
    it would only bother you if you had low self esteem and may tend to believe this of your self.

    i find it quite entertaining when people with such ignorance shoot themselves in the foot when they actually have a conversation with me and realise that i have been further in life than they have and i choose to be where i am
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    Regardless of how great I feel about myself, there is always that person or group of people who will look down on me for what I do, and even if I defend myself logically. I will still be "trashy" for taking my clothes off for money.

    Many people are religious and believe that displaying your body in public is immodest, and a sin. These people are probably sitting in the club, throwing around fifties, but I digress. I can disagree with someone's religious beliefs, but I also have to respect them.

    Your ex-boyfriend does not sound like this type, he sounds like a controlling man whom you shouldn't give the time of day. Find a man who will treat you right and trust you. My bf hates that I dance, and he doesn't want to hear about it, but he also doesn't tell me not to, or make me feel like less of a person for doing it.

    A lot of people think we are all coked up single moms who can't get a real job. I see the look in men's eyes a lot when I tell them I graduated from college last year. They think I'm lying. 99% of the men who come into the club think they are smarter than you, and of a higher social standing. It's not your job to prove them wrong. It's your job to take their money. Lucky for you, you get to drink and dance, while they have to sit at a desk or work in a factory. Now who's the smarter one?

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    I guess I just expect everyone to be narrow-minded. Then, when I finally tell someone what I do, I get to be (hopefully) pleasantly surprised when they don't start judging me. I can kind of tell the people who will be okay with it from the people who won't and I basically don't hang out with the people who won't... male OR female. I've actually used it to scare off some guy who was possessive and manipulative from the start. I've had a girl who thought it was TOO cool and told eevveerryyyooneee!

    Stripperweb helps me deal with stuff like that regularly.
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