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    As a customer, I enjoy going to SC's because of the atmosphere and the female companionship. The overall experience can be very intoxicating, so it's easy to see that such an experience can be, dare I say, addicting. I'll admit that when I leave a SC after a great night, I'm always looking forward to the next time I go!! However, that next time usually ends up being a month or two later because of the lack of funds lol

    My question to you ladies is have you ever heard or known of customers that were "addicted" to strip clubs? In other words, did you ever know of customers that tended to go beyond their limit and spend so much time and/or money at SC's, that they have put themselves in bad situations, such as debt or divorce?

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    Stripclubbing can become an addiction...just like a lot of other behaviour patterns. Its not up to the strippers to babysit the finances of the customers they encounter at the club.

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    www.stripclubjunkie.com

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    I've seen a custy get served w/ divorce papers ITC. How pathetic/embarassing. We just had to do a few vip rooms so he would feel better

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    There's a guy I know who goes to strip clubs one after the other during the night getting drunker and drunker, pissing away $1000s each time. To the point of not remembering if he got dances or not and paying you anyway.

    Sure as heck, he comes in every week.

    Can't remember you that week either.


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    Does this imply that if you are making money off of someone to the extent of causing them to ruin there life you shouldnt say anything ? I understand about not babysitting and yes they are adults but when does morality kick -in .


    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    Stripclubbing can become an addiction...just like a lot of other behaviour patterns. Its not up to the strippers to babysit the finances of the customers they encounter at the club.

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    ^^^
    I would say that morality would kick in when one is in a position to know that the customer is engaged in addictive behaviour, and not just making different priorities (which may seem fucked up to us. But to another guy, living in his mum's basement on a futon so that he has money for stripclubs may be a good idea). There is a difference between compulsive behaviour and bad decisions. We can't and shouldn't make decisions for customers, but we don't have to enable compulsive behaviour.

    However, as I have said before - stripclubs are not like cigarettes. They are not marketed with the intended, expected or common result of fostering addiction anymore than clothing stores are. It would be stupid for us to take a defacto position that all or most customers are addicts.
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    I've had a couple of customers who I talked to about their addiction.. I develope a relationship with my customers.. we share stories about our lives outside the club etc.. I had one who told me his wife wanted to leave him because he kept coming to see me two nights a week over a 4 month period(I didnt think that was a long time but I guess it was to her).. I told him as much as I enjoyed spending time with him I didnt want to see him lose his marriage.. he came back a couple of more times then he just vanished.. I hope it was to get his marriage back..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cally
    I told him as much as I enjoyed spending time with him I didnt want to see him lose his marriage.. he came back a couple of more times then he just vanished.. I hope it was to get his marriage back..

    Whether he stopped coming to save his marriage or not, you did a really decent thing. Applause from this quarter.

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    Even bartenders know when to tell a customer that's it for the night...


    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ
    Does this imply that if you are making money off of someone to the extent of causing them to ruin there life you shouldnt say anything ? I understand about not babysitting and yes they are adults but when does morality kick -in .

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    I'll admit to being an addict. But is it possible to be a selective addict? There are a couple of cities I travel to on business where I just HAVE to go to a club. Mostly in eastern Canada where the clubs are actually fun - the girls mingle with the custies. But then west of Ontario, the clubs are boring. No addiction there. And yeah, I have spent loadsa dough in clubs. But my family has never gone hungry or gone without because of it. So maybe I am a "functional addict" versus a "disfunctional addict".


    Of course I would suggest that there is a very fine line between passion and addiction...

    So maybe I am not an addict at all....

    Just passionate.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol
    Even bartenders know when to tell a customer that's it for the night...
    True but a bartender has a pretty visible idea of whne you've had enough. Actually the signs are there.

    How do you know unless the guy is being obvious that that 20.00 is the last 20.00 out of his kids college fund?

    I think it utterly retarded that a bartender, or a stripper, as well as anyone I am purchasing consumables or services off of, has an expectation of responsibility over something I should be more than capable of handling on my own.

    But yes, please, lets blame strippers for why we're poor, lonely, and not getting laid. It's their fault. They take our money, don't go home with us, and never bounce up and down on our cocks. But the real dispicable behavior? That we conciously pay money for them to tease us. What a horrid human being.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ
    Does this imply that if you are making money off of someone to the extent of causing them to ruin there life you shouldnt say anything ? I understand about not babysitting and yes they are adults but when does morality kick -in .
    If everyone accepted responsibilities for their own actions... I mean c'mon... Morality Kicks in the second you as the addict realize that not every dancer is equipped to discerne how stressed your situation is, and they shouldn't be.

    I'm of the belief that hitting rock bottom and starting over again or flailing your arms like a baby at the bottom is a much better result than being babied by everyone around you's now-wasted sence of morality.

    I'm not trying to be a dick, but you ask about morality, but I ask when does our own sense of responsibility kick in? It's ludacris to expect or demand anyone to step in and assume a control in your life to protect you.

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    I understand what your saying and no your not a dick . But just letting someone fall into a hole and not say anything just seems wrong to me . I have seen many fall into the hole and they are able to pull themselves out,others just keep digging . I only think that something should at least be said then, if they don't want to heed your warning then thats fine they have laid there own path of destruction . I am not a dancer nor do I speak for them but I do observe here that many of their regulars confide in them at times especailly the ones who have issues on a personal level . Many just want someone away from home to talk to others just like boobs and ass . Some people come to a point especially during addiction where they need to kicked back into responsibility and if they do not want to listen so be it at least you tried .



    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    If everyone accepted responsibilities for their own actions... I mean c'mon... Morality Kicks in the second you as the addict realize that not every dancer is equipped to discerne how stressed your situation is, and they shouldn't be.

    I'm of the belief that hitting rock bottom and starting over again or flailing your arms like a baby at the bottom is a much better result than being babied by everyone around you's now-wasted sence of morality.

    I'm not trying to be a dick, but you ask about morality, but I ask when does our own sense of responsibility kick in? It's ludacris to expect or demand anyone to step in and assume a control in your life to protect you.

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    But just letting someone fall into a hole and not say anything just seems wrong to me .
    But asking someone you are a customer/friend/interactor with to interveine is wrong. EXPECTING this of them is even worse.

    Whether or not someone decides to get involved in your drama, even in the most minor degree is their choice. Not an expectation.

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    I believe there is SC addiction in general and then there is addiction to a particular stripper. The former can usually be resolved after a severe spanking from the SO but the latter often has to run its course, usually ending in a huge trainwreck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    I believe there is SC addiction in general and then there is addiction to a particular stripper. The former can usually be resolved after a severe spanking from the SO but the latter often has to run its course, usually ending in a huge trainwreck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ
    Does this imply that if you are making money off of someone to the extent of causing them to ruin there life you shouldnt say anything ? I understand about not babysitting and yes they are adults but when does morality kick -in .
    nudging someone into going out drinking with you isn't a bad thing. neither is getting them blind drunk. neither is convincing them to do it 2-3 nights a week. But if you know that that are an alcoholic, then convincing them to have a drink is morally abhorrid.

    i think its a question of knowledge here. i had a regular who was in tears one night-i asked him what was wrong, he wouldn't tell me but later told me he was going to lose his house. I've refused to dance for him since and he doesn't come in anymore. he used to spend big but i believe that if you know your actions will have a disastourous effect you have responsibility to do something. I've seen girls bleed men dry in this situation but is it really worth it? there are other customers in the club...

    dunno, i understand everyone is responsible for their actions, butif you know they have a problem, i really believe your only exploiting them...

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    There is one customer who comes in once a week and usually gets a couple dances from me...between 40 and 80 dollars worth. Last night he told me that he's looking into declaring bankruptcy due to huge medical bills. I'm not going to tell him not to get dances though. If he's going to declare bankruptcy, I might as well get some of that money that the government's going to erase! I'm in debt too!

    In certain situations though, I would recommend to a guy that he stop coming in. Unless he's a real regular though, I'm probably never going to find that out.

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    ^^ Again,

    I just believe that because someone makes bad decisions (got into huge medical bills and uses what money he has on strip clubs instead of paying the bills) doesn't mean that those around them are suddenly morally obligated to inject themselves into the drama and try to suggest they do otherwise.

    It's a choice, not an expectation.

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    Yeah, I didn't see the casino stopping me when I pulled out my last ten. It was MY problem, not theirs.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
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    You know you want it....
    Well, specifically, the OP and other customers in danger of addiction need this SCJ thread: http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=69218

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ
    But just letting someone fall into a hole and not say anything just seems wrong to me.
    Yes, but you can't really talk with an addict. In chemical addictions (alcohol, drugs), it's the drug that's always talking. In psychological addictions, it's the neurosis or whatever is screwy inside that's talking. What about SC's? Probably some sort of combination of psychological and drug (testosterone?) addiction. I don't know. Probably somebody has done research on this sort of thing. I've had to deal with a few loved ones with addictions, and I had to learn to shut up, because nothing I said would help or even be heard. It hurt me NOT to say anything. But it ended up hurting more when I did say something.

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    SC addiction provides "excitement" brain chemistry: dopamine, neurepinephrine, serotonin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maximvsv
    SC addiction provides "excitement" brain chemistry: dopamine, neurepinephrine, serotonin.
    Indeed... Though it's not just limited to 'SC addiction'. In fact...

    Quote Originally Posted by Smokeless
    Yes, but you can't really talk with an addict. In chemical addictions (alcohol, drugs), it's the drug that's always talking. In psychological addictions, it's the neurosis or whatever is screwy inside that's talking.
    ... for those who have generally addictive behaviors (i.e., the type that are likely to develop a chemical dependence on alcohol, for instance), it is not only possible, but extremely likely for them to develop chemical dependences on other behaviors. Effectively, the behaviors themselves cause the brain to start producing the same "high" that would have been produced by a chemical substance. Also, it's usually the case that said behaviors are used as a means to produce temporary euphoria to avoid negative feelings of other sorts (e.g., depression, stress, etc.).

    Ultimately, what defines 'addiction' (at least in my mind - not quite positive that this is the clinical definition) is a behavior or set of behaviors that one continues to pursue in spite of any negative consequences of those behaviors, e.g., hurting loved ones, inability to provide for one's own basic needs (food/clothing/shelter), etc.

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