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    I'm so upset. I've had it with the bullshit and politics that goes on with kids sports. My 9 year old son came home from football practice in tears last night. The starting center got hurt at practice last night and instead of putting in my son, who has been playing center for two years now, they put in one of the coaches sons who just started playing center this year! Nick is getting so discouraged, when I ran out of things to say to him last night to try to comfort him all I could do is sit and cry with him. He knows he's getting cheated, and so do we. We had this problem last year too. They never put him in as center with the starting offence, but they did make him play center with the younger kids which opened Nick up to a lot of teasing from his teammates. Now I look at the starting line up, both offence and defence and see 11 kids, 11 of the coaches kids (yes, we have 11 coaches for our team). We got a new director this season who made lots of changes in how much play time each kid gets (10 plays per kid, no more bench warmers), you can't have all of the same kids who play starting offence play starting defense. Well, the coaches are still finding ways around it. It broke my heart to hear my son say things like, "I'm always second best", "I work so hard and for what", " I wish I could quit" "RJ go it just because his Dad is a coach". So they have him playing guard, and not even starting, the secondary. So not only can't he start in the position he's worked so hard for, they put him in a different position and the secondary! I really want to let the coaches have it but I'm afraid that it will only make things harder on Nick AND most of these coaches are my sons friends fathers and you think they would cut him a little slack and give him a chance. He's a good player, not a great player, but he's good and he belongs there, he never misses a practice, is always on time, even early. Never gives anyone attitude or is disrespectful. I can't wait until high school, at least I know that's when the "Dad's as coaches" comes to a stop. I won't let Nick quit, we have a rule; you finish what you start, but you don't have to do it again. I need to pump him up, keep him motivated, and keep his confidence intact. And I need to calm down before 5:45 PM today when I take him to practice. Sorry for the rant, but you got me through the bullying problem last year, so here I am again.

    God this sucks.

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    Through most of my childhood and teens I was a competitive figure skater. Many of the skating mothers and employees of the rink I skated at were very brutal in the gossip that they spread around. Most of this was done by them to get rid of skaters they decided they hated. It was disgusting to say the least the stuff parents were willing to do to get their kids in with the right coach.
    Having a F you attitude is good in this situation. It is important for athleats to realize why their competitors are trying to get better than them, and why their parents are helping them out too much. If he really loves the game he will focus more on his own training goals, and less on the position he is given. Also through training and patience he will eventually surpass those who have been unjustly given advance ahead of him. Not caring about your competitors is very important as the only real competitor is oneself.
    He also could network some more perhaps practicing a different position with one of his friends outside of practice. This way he may be able to move into a different position thru the pair up. Also are there no jr high schools with football teams in your area ??
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    Thanks stripperMBA, I'm trying to get him to focus on himself rather than the BS that goes on around him, but it's hard when you're 9 yrs old and life is just "no fair". He had a good practice last night and was in a much better mood this morning.

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    Thats sports I guess at least he is getting emotional with it and not just giving up . All those coaches I really dont get that mess we usually had three maybe a fourth stand- in but not 10 or 11 .. My Dad did coach me one year and I hated it he was real hard on me and I was extremely stressed by his presence . I guess these days with the younger kids they play these games and don't keep score I just never understood that . Its just that I feel its important to be able to deal with victory as well as defeat . Its great that you support your kid like this . You could become a coach lol ..

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    10-11 coaches for a JUNIOR LEAGUE??? Wow...I've never heard of that!!

    Here we have 3 coaches and every kid gets rotated.

    Sucks that your son is dealing with it...but tell him to focus on his love of the game and ignore everything else. I know it's easier said than done, but at this point...why cry over something he cannot change at this time?? Tell him to enjoy the game and enjoy the times he does play...eventually his turn will come.

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    Quote Originally Posted by southstbabe
    Now I look at the starting line up, both offence and defence and see 11 kids, 11 of the coaches kids (yes, we have 11 coaches for our team). We got a new director this season who made lots of changes in how much play time each kid gets (10 plays per kid, no more bench warmers), you can't have all of the same kids who play starting offence play starting defense. Well, the coaches are still finding ways around it.
    I think that it bears mentioning that a good chunk, possibly even a majority of youth league coaches aren't so much interested in helping their charges learn how to play the game and build character, but are trying to relive their athletic glory days (or if some cases just "live" them because they sucked at athletics themselves) through their kids. Don't get me wrong, some coaches' kids are pretty good athletes, but a lot of these kids seem as though they'd rather be at home dwidling with a PS2 controller.

    And don't even get me started when some prima donna parent-coach starts yelling at referrees/umpires when some call doesn't go their child's way. Both my brother and my nephew were umpiring youth baseball games on adjacent fields last summer and I saw them both have to eject such idiots within fifteen minutes of one another.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousJ
    I feel its important to be able to deal with victory as well as defeat . Its great that you support your kid like this . You could become a coach lol ..
    I agree, I've seen some of my son's friends, outside of sports, not deal well at all with not winning or making the grade. I even once told my son and his friend to settle a dispute they were having by rock/paper/scissors, 2 out of 3. Well my son won and his friend still continued to carry on rather than except the outcome.

    As for coaching, I am a coach. Took my Rutgers course years ago and got certified. I coach my sons baseball team. They won't let me or any of the other women coaches anywhere near the Gridiron, but that's a whole other thread. So I commit to being Team Mom during football season and my son enjoys the support.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess
    10-11 coaches for a JUNIOR LEAGUE??? Wow...I've never heard of that!!

    Here we have 3 coaches and every kid gets rotated.
    Yeah, I know that's a lot, but our football program is big here, you have pre-clinic, clinic, travel clinic, super pee-wee, pee-wee, jr varsity, varsity, and I'm probably missing a few. Our team does have the most coaches, there's one other that has 8 I think and then the numbers get smaller. Actually, I think they take this program WAY to seriously here, like doc-catfish said, these coaches'/dads are reliving their glory days and showing off for their boys.

    I just want to see my son learn the game, play it well, and have fun. My son doens't need football to make him a champion, he already is to me. I tell him that all the time. But hey, it is nice to be in the spotlight every once and awhile.

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