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    First of all I'd like to say thank you for taking the time to read this and for any advice you can offer! Ok here's the thing.... I've been dancing since jan. 06 (when I turned 18 ) and I only worked about 4 days a month. The thing is I've never gone alone. My big sister has always gone with me. She has been dancing for about 4 yrs. Now that her son has started school she decided it was time to stop dancing. I on the other hand want to continue but am to afraid. I'm nervous about just going in there and having no one to talk to during the time it takes me to get a customer. Also I've always gone on stage with her. The only time I've gone up alone was after one to many drinks. How can I get in there without feeling so nervous? Any asvice would really help! Thanks again for you input.

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    Hmmm. Well, sweety, you gotta go out on your own sometime. And you've been dancing this long...so you can definitely do it yourself. Don't worry so much. You'll do great, you just need the confidence to do so. Maybe your earnings will even go up. Sometimes if I have a friend along I unconsciously spend more time with them than the custies I COULD be getting tips from. You can still hang out with her OTC anyways.
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    I think this will be really good for you. It'll help you build confidence in yourself, courage and when you conquer this fear, you'll feel like you can do anything! Just go in and at least try it, if you feel that you really can't do it then maybe dancing isn't for you but I think you'll be fine and probably will make more because you'll spend more time hustling and less time talking!

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    They make a good point - you'll have to focus on keeping yourself busy and the best way to do that is to make $$$. I bet you'll surprise yourself with how much you are capable of.

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    Also, by hanging out with your sister, you could be losing out on money (as could she, although she might have been too polite to say it). It'll take time to get comfortable working alone, but it will be well worth it. Dancing is, for the most part, a very solitary business. You're an independent contractor for a reason. There's nothing wrong with girls helping each other out, or providing support when necessary. However, that support is holding you back, as you admit you are currently afraid to work. If you're nervous that you'll look silly sitting alone, use that nervous energy as motivation to chat with customers and practice your conversational and hustling skills.
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    Talk to the customers, then you won't be alone.

    It is kind of like learning how to parachute, you go tandem for the first couple of jumps, then you just have to jump on your own, or stay in the plane and forget about it.

    I'd be willing to bet that once you do go in by yourself, you'll wonder what you were so worried about.


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    I've never had a firend to go with! Always alone me! Kind of easier makes you less lazy!

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    go ALONE. less worries n shit. like the person above mentioned, it does make you less lazy.. bc when I'm workin with someone I know, I tend to talk too much or stick with them otha than makin money.

    Don't get me wrong, it's nice to have someone to sit n chat with during those 7-8 hour shifts.. but when I'm talkin to my friends, I always tend to miss out who's the new custy for the hour of the moment bc normally if I was by myself, I'll be payin attention to anyone who walks thru that door haha!

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    I think that it is possible, with as many times that we have all come back from retirement, that your sister may be back with you at some point. But don't sweat it, you always meet new people. I have made tons of great friends at work.
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    OK well thanks for the motivation girls I still fill a little nervous but you'll are right I'm gonna have to learn to be able to do it on my own! This weekend will more than likely be my first night alone. I'll update you ladies on how it went!

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    Quote Originally Posted by heavensqt
    My big sister has always gone with me.
    Curious. Did you two announce your siblingness to custies? I met two "sisters" in a club once, years back. No idea if they were actually related or not. And, no, I didn't ask for a double, tho I imagine this would be a turn-on for some subset of custies.

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    Yes we sometimes told people but the Dj always announced it when we went on stage together.

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    I still haven't got the courage to get in there! Damnit I'm so pissed off with myself!!!!!!!!

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    Do you have a cell phone? Maybe ask your sister if you can call her every once in a while throughout the night... that way she is only a phone call away, and before you know it, you will need to call her less and less often. The worst that can happen is you will feel uncomfortable at first, but you will get over it.

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    go it alone! My motto is whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger!

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    heidimonster7 THANKS!!! you just made me feel alot better! I wish I would have thought of that sooner!

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    Your only choice is to just GO.
    Go to the club and DO IT.
    It will get easier with time.

    I was scared too, I wanted to have a few shots before I got up there- Before I went in the dressing room I was thinking of an excuse to get back in my car and drive home. If I had gotten to do that...I would have been at home reading SW waiting for courgae to come find me. But it doesn't work that way-- every day that passes is a 'wasted' one, especially in this business where time isn't exactly on our side.

    You've done it before, you can do it again alone. I have been spoiled recently only going up on stage with friends even though it meant splitting tips. I wasn't doing anything differently with them on the stage- so it was all in my head.
    I'm starting at a new club tomorrrow that I haven't even been to, don't know what the other dancers look like, nothing. I'm scared right now and I will be even moreso tomorrow.

    But I'm not going to give in to fear.

    Keep us posted on how your night goes!

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    that fear keeps your adrenalin up, imagine if you were just like whatever...who cares bla bla bla. You'd be so boring!

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    do it alone, it's much easier. You won't be so conscience of her location/ what she's up to. Also, I wouldn't think much of a club that let's an 18 yr old drink illegally.........

    You might find you make more money w/ out drinking......

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    I know how you feel heavensqt,, i haven't worked in a long while and I can't seem to get myself to audition because I don't want to go alone (at the place I worked at I went with a friend and they hired us both) so now that I don't work there anymore,, and don;t have any friends who want to do this, ,I am stuck, Too scared to do it alone, This sucks.

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    what's the worst that can happen?

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    I don't mean to be a bitch but -

    If you can't do it alone or sober you shouldn't be doing it all. Maybe it's not for you.

    Now, the best thing to do after what I just told you is to prove me wrong.


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    Ha! So it took me a while but I can say that I finally did it! I went to work alone for the most part! A friend of mine was working there but I didn't really talk to her. She also left early. So yes ladies you were all right about it getting easier as time passed. I'm proud of myself. I didn't drink a bit of anything b/c the guys at the club seem to be stingy! Funny stuff since the club I went to was Treasures in houston. So many people said this club is like one of the best but I don't think so. Anyway thanks girls!

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    i had the same problem!!! my best friend and i decided to dance. we went to the amateur contest together, worked our first weekend together, and everything. the only difference is that we didn't go on stage together, but we usually sat and watched eachother's stage shows... lol. anyway i was forced to go to the club alone because my friend quit dancing, so i just ended up talking to lots of customers and even making friends with a couple other dancers. at first, i was just sitting at a table by myself drinking and being nervous. and then guys would come up and be like "hey what's up" and start buying me drinks, and then of course go for lapdances. but if you are sitting there talking to another stripper, then guys probably wont approach. who wants to approach 2 strippers and interrupt their conversation? being alone is the best way to make money because then you are forced to talk to customers. my earnings have doubled since my friend quit and i feel confident and my hustle got better, i don't just sit around.
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    i know just how you feel.. when i frist started off it was with a good friend of mine..i could only work when she did since she was the one with the car. hence, i only worked with her.. eventually she decided to quit and i was nervous to go in alone.. when i finally did.. (can't put off bills for ever!) it was fine. i think i actually made more $ because i wasnt bullshitting all the time (As fun as it was).
    Since then i've switched clubs..and now i just go in spend about 10mins in the dressing room and then i'm out on the floor for the rest of the night. :-) I think sometimes it actually helps not to have best friends at work. good luck! you'll be fine!
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