OK me and a friend just had a conversation about this. We were discussing the concept of the "ugly duckling" and whether or not the ugly duckling(aka the nerd, outcast, etc) really does blossom into a swan later in life. We were also talking about whether or not the "popular crowd" of high school, and whether or not they stay beautiful and successful in life, or if they end up on the wrong path. I told my friend that from what I've seen/heard, the majority of the people who were nerds when they were younger, generally stay kinda introverted and nerdy when they're older. The people that were nerdy but undergo a drastic metamorphosis are the exceptions that stick out from the rest and make people go "wow." When I wrote the thread titled "What were you like in high school," a guy wrote about how he'd just attended his high school reunion, and how most of the popular kids were STILL good-looking, most of the nerds were still kinda nerdy, there were definite exceptions, but generally speaking no one really changed drastically. Yeah it's fun to think that the snobby prom queen turns really ugly later in life, but unfortunately I guess this doesn't happen often?
The media commonly uses the theme of "from ugly duckling to swan," as exhibited in episodes of Montel, movies such as "She's All That"(a teen flick with Freddie Prince Jr.), etc. The reason why the media uses this theme, is because it is uncommon, therefore will strike interest with people. (For example, Hollywood doesn't make movies about people brushing their teeth or balancing their checkbooks, because it's mundane and boring! lol)
For the most part, I don't think a whole lot of people drastically change who they are later in life. It takes an exceptional person to change, whether it be because of unforseen events in their life, external influences, or a conscious effort to change who they are or what they look like. I think that strippers are a lot more likely to change drastically from what they were like in high school, than most, because well, us strippers are a very unique group of people. Change CAN be done, but it can sometimes be very hard and take a decent amount of effort, risk, money, etc. When I observe my friends, I see good-looking "players" who were "ladies men" in high school; I see successful/focused people with great jobs, who were super-involved in school activities, student government, and had internships awaiting them when they were younger; I see my introverted, unconfident friend M--k looking and acting the exact same reclusive way that he was in high school(lol he looks exactly the same as his senior pic from 9 yrs ago, except he's aged slightly but hey that happens in 9 yrs time). What do you guys think? Have any of you guys noticed this with previous classmates/friends?
When I was younger, we were always told by parents/teachers that it wouldn't matter if I was nerdy, because someday I would be something. But for more than half of cases, I just don't see this. The people who were rich & popular when younger, ended up having the money to go to college right away without taking time off to save up tuition money, had good social skills/charisma for landing jobs, had good genes and also money to spend on cosmetics/surgery so they could stay looking good. I think the "ugly duckling" concept is more of an exception than the norm, and we are told that when we are younger, to keep our hopes up and prevent us from giving up(i.e., dropping outta high school, etc). Any thoughts on this?


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