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    Hello all,

    So I've been dancing now for about five months, and I am absolutely terrified of couples. Not so much the guy, really, but the girl! I regretably(sp?) turned down a couple dances to a few couples, just b/c I'm not really even sure how to dance for a girl! ugh! Even the thought of grinding on another female makes me, um, nautious to say the least. Anybody have any suggestions?

    Also, I feel very bad when the girl will tip me very nicely on stage, and then I ignore the couple after getting off due to my "fears." I really don't mean to be a beotch, but I guess that's my way of avoiding things.

    Should I explain to the couple that I dont dance for girls and/or couples? Or should I just grin and bear it? What would you do?


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    Default Re: eeek! couples!

    Here are a couple of existing threads you may find useful:

    "Couples at a club"
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=48848

    "give me the strait up, are female customers ok?
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52955
    (check out post #10)

    (these threads also several links to other threads you may find of interest)
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    I'm sure the ladies will have plenty of good advice for you. I've known several dancers who either loved to dance for couples and/or female cutomers as well as others who, like yourself, were uncomfortable and tried to avoid them. In a way it makes couples a kind of "niche" client and those dancers who cool with couples have an opportunity to bank.

    I'd simply suggest you do what's within your comfort zone. If you want to avoid them then avoid them.

    If they call you over, you can politely decline their offer, or perhaps say that unfortunately you're busy at the moment. You may even know a dancer who caters to couples and either point the dancer out to the couple, or let the dancer know there's a couple in the club.

    I've brough female friends into clubs with me on several occasions. We always made sure that she tipped the stage a lot so that the dancers would see she was there to have a good time. In terms of her getting dances, we always thought it was best to just wait for the dancers to approach us, as then we'd be sure those who came over would be cool with dancing for her.

    Hope that made sense. Best of luck!
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    “Nauseous”
    “Bitch”

    Your spell check program is your friend.

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    ^^Dude, let it go! Plus she misspelled "bitch" on purpose.

    Back on topic: You might want to try getting a lapdance yourself to get some ideas of what to do during a lapdance for a woman. You should definitely try giving a lapdance to a girl. That way you'll know if you really don't like it and you don't have to do it. You can always just tell another girl that a couple is looking for some dances and send her over there.

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    If you aren't comfortable doing something then by all means you are not required too, however couples can be really great customers, when I was waitressing I saw more couples than anyone else buy multiple dances and are usually less icky with the grope factor - and if you treat them especially well could become regular spenders - if you aren't comfortable of course then just keep doing what you are doing, but you are likely missing out on some good money. I'd take weinershnitzel over taco bell any day but when it comes to the club I find the gropey icky men alot less inviting than grinding on the lap of a lady, as long as I'm not squishing her. Just my thoughts. If you dont want to and dont feel comfortable you probably wouldn't give them the kind of dance they want anyhow.

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    As the female part of a couple, I think that if you don't want to give women dances, then you shouldn't because I wouldn't want to waste my $20 on a crappy dance. I've had girls tell me before that they don't dance for women and they avoid me in the club. No big deal -there are plenty of others who are very happy to come take my money. (Keep in mind, I'm not one of those girls who thinks that being female gives me the right to grab the girls. I always wait for an invitation, which I frequently get!)

    As a stripper....I'll take anyone's money and it's a lot more fun to dance for a girl, than a gross grabby guy. At least with a girl, you don't have to worry about things popping out of pants. Also - girls usually smell better and are much softer than guys.

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    ^^^ what Sassymom said.
    If I ask a girl for a dance, I expect a great dance.
    If you're liable to puke over the idea of dancing for me, then move on. Don't waste my time & money. There are plenty of other dancers happy to accomodate me.

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    lopaw - it doesn't hurt to be a hot girl wanting a dance, right????

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMom
    lopaw - it doesn't hurt to be a hot girl wanting a dance, right????

    You got that right, Sassymom!

    We're a nice diversion for all of those awesome girl-friendly dancers out there!

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    Well if Lopaw or Sassymom ever finds the Pooka Shell at a club in Houston, I will give you sexy ladies a bad ass dance!!

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    Pooka,

    You messed up! Next time we're up north visiting family, we're coming through Houston...I'll be looking for you! Hahahahahaha!

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    I love giving lap dances for women!!!!

    You will too.

    Here's the secret: AIR DANCE

    When I get dances (BTW, I straight, not that it matters), I do not want grinding, tits in my face, my breasts fondled, etc. Do not sexually assault me. Do men want to be groped? Yes. But women are different from men. They like sensuality.

    And women urge their men to tip you an awesome amount.

    Thread on how to air dance:
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=57231

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scout

    When I get dances (BTW, I straight, not that it matters), I do not want grinding, tits in my face, my breasts fondled, etc. Do not sexually assault me. Do men want to be groped? Yes. But women are different from men. They like sensuality.

    And women urge their men to tip you an awesome amount.

    Careful there....not all women will want an airdance. I, for one, WANT to be groped, fondled & sexually assaulted by hot dancers.
    Just like male patrons, not all women custies are the same.

    As a dancer, it is up to you to find every customer's comfort zone, and dance accordingly (within reason, of course!).


    (BTW....PookaShell....if I'm ever down Houston way, I'm gonna be sure to look you up! )

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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw
    Careful there....not all women will want an airdance. I, for one, WANT to be groped, fondled & sexually assaulted by hot dancers.
    Just like male patrons, not all women custies are the same.
    ^^ I agree with lopaw, or at least fall somewhere in between her and Scout. I think it's a mistake to just mindlessly grind on a woman as though she had a dick (I've gotten those super-bouncy ass-poppers before, and wondered " . . . uh, what exactly is she hoping to accomplish here?"). But I think it's also a mistake to assume she wants a really dainty air dance either. My personal preference is for slow & sensual with some accents of focused groping. Eye contact and at least some simulation of the dancer's enjoyment is also key - but that seems like it's hardly limited to one gender.

    THIS is what's crucial, and sometimes very difficult:

    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw
    As a dancer, it is up to you to find every customer's comfort zone, and dance accordingly (within reason, of course!).
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