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    Thumbs down He hurt me.

    A few nights ago, a huge group of shady looking mexicans came on in. Usually I find them to be friendly and quite easy to chat with, but these guys looked pissed so I was kinda shy. About an hour later, one of them pulled me by the arm and said his friend demanded a lap dance. I was like, "Cool, show me to him." I was nervous already... so they show me to him and say, "Oh, he doesn't speak english, but that doesn't matter." Oh yes, honey, it does matter...

    We sit on the couch and he immediately yanks my arm around him and tugs me in to sit on his lap. I didn't scoot in much so he puts an arm around my waist/ribs area and tries dragging me in... all the while I'm saying "relax, don't worry, stop being so grabby!" and such. Then he tries to pull off my top and I say, "I can take my own clothes off, just wait for the next song." He proceeds to dig his arm that is around my waist into my ribs real hard, and he keeps glancing around.

    At that point, I am so nervous and freaked out I just pull away and walk back to the bar... practically in tears. He just stays back there too! Eventually the bouncer found him after searching and tried to tell him and his friends to leave. They do and I have a pleasant night in the end.

    But I don't understand. Aren't people supposed to come into SCs for a good time? Some good clean fun? These guys seriously looked like they wanted a fight and the guy I went back with seemed to be trying to restrain me and grope... who enjoys hurting others?

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    If I get a vibe from ANY customer, I avoid them...It saves me the possible mental distress that I could cause if I do make an attempt to socialize w/ them. Always trust your first instinct..







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    That's messed up. So sorry that happened to you. I am glad the bouncer came to your aid. Some people are just masochistic sociopaths and masocistc sociopaths like to travel in packs. My ex-boyfriend and his friends were of that ilk.


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    Sorry to hear about that. I had a crazy customer put a cigarette out in my eye once. I think the guys that are like that are women haters. I think these are the guys that give the regular strip club goer a bad reputation. Most men are truly genuine and just looking for a good time, but there is that one in a million. Sorry he had to meet you on that particular night.

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    OMG, a cigarette out in your eye? Are you ok? Is your eye ok? I hope they got this guys info and you either sued him or he's in jail for assault with a deadly weapon or something! That's crazy!!!!

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    The cigarette thing was years ago. I am ok. My eye is fine. It was red for a bit. But more than anything, I am still emotionally freaked out about it. But I didn't mean to bring that up to take the light off Cameo. I just don't want Cameo to feel so bad. I know it can really mess with your head when a customer treats you like crap, talks down to you, or physically assaults you. Just cause we are dancers, doesn't mean we are not humans. I think that some of these men come in the clubs with the idea that we are lesser beings for the jobs that we do. And it messes with your mind and keeps you from making money, because you want to be a man hater. What you need Cameo, is a really good guy to come in and treat you like a princess to remind you of the nice ones out there. And there are lots of nice guys out there.

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    Fucking dirtbag. I dont understand.. in some clubs WHERE the bouncers are?? They should have seen that and been right on top of that. I am happy that they helped you out eventually. Unfortunately, women are not always as strong as a man and there are suckass idiot guys out there that will take advantage of that.

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    My apologies. I have had Mexican guys do this to me & I'm Mexican. In that culture, women are objects.
    Next time someone tries this, knee them in the crotch. It's the only way they'll learn.

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    I'm really sorry this happened to you. Cin is right - always go with your instincts and don't do anything just for the money. You didn't do anything wrong and he was totally at fault, but sometimes you can avoid future situations by using better judgement. Please take care...

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    My apologies. I have had Mexican guys do this to me & I'm Mexican. In that culture, women are objects.
    Next time someone tries this, knee them in the crotch. It's the only way they'll learn.
    Yeah? I wasn't trying to be racist or anything. My boyfriend is mexican too, but he's a complete gentleman. These guys though... Pretty shady.

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    I am so sorry this happen to you,
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    Most guys are just looking for a good time with ladies that they sometimes would be too scared to approach on the street, but maybe some guys have issues where they've been rejected so many times (i.e. dirtbags no one wants) that they want to take advantage of the fact that they can get close to girls that would normally reject them so that they can hurt them and make them feel like shit just because they feel like shit. Must be a power thing. I'm really sorry this happened to you, I'm glad you left when you did.

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    **Hugs** What an asshole. Sorry to hear about that Cameo. Keep the nice ones in mind.



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    Indeed, apologies from the male species.

    I also think there is something hardwired in our brains from when we were antelopes that says "Threat. Get out of here!" that hasn't evolved out yet. (apologies to our creationist friends). For my job, I've been with killers, and all sorts of other bad dudes, when they've been in chains and jail cells and I've gotten that same vibe cameo, that vibe from the back of my brain, even though there is no rational reason for me to run like hell. My brain just sees a bad dude, and wants to get out.

    Brains, sometimes, know best. Trust 'em.

    By the way? I'm damn glad that you got out of this story ok, and that you ended up having a good evening. May you always.

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    Why are all suddently apologetic to creationists on this site? Sorry to hijack?

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    Just trying not to offend anyone? It's ok!

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    I am so sorry that happened to you. I think mblank said it best: some guys don't even see us as human beings. We have no feelings. In Alberta, there are numerous stories of women being burned by loonies that were heated up by a lighter and thrown at them.

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    That kinda thing happens alot in my local club too. Mexicans come in more or less under the impression that they are going to have sex or get head. I remember one time we went there real late one night and for some reason this club requires you to list beside your signature when you enter whether you are a cop or not. Well we saw one guys name who was Jose Santino and right below him was Johnathan Abrams and beside Mr. Abrams name it was listed he was a cop. Well apparently Jose bought a lap dance and in the middle of it pulled his cock out like it was ok or something. We saw him get kicked out but as we were leaving a rather large, but normally dressed man had Mr. Santino in handcuffs and was walking him towards an unmarked police car. Looks like Mr. Abrams and Mr. Santino have met.

    Sorry that you had such an experiene, I think it comes with the job.

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    I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm very relieved to hear that your night ended o.k! The other night at my club, I had my first irate-customer incident. Pissed off, rude, pushy guys are so scary!

    I was at the VIP bar and a guy asked me to dance for him. The place was packed that night so I found some empty chairs and we sat down to wait for the next song to start. Then, from behind us, this butthead yells at me, "I've been here for half an hour and nobodys even been by here to see me." I was thinking, well, that would be why then...your attitude sucks. Then he pitched a fit while appearing to leave the club, so we took his seat. I started giving my guy his dance and half way through it, the jerk came back and demanded his seat back. How tacky. I thought he was mad and left to go home or something, otherwise I wouldn't have nabbed his seat! I told management but all they did was send a whole pile of girls over there. The guy got three dances and then left. They shoulda kicked him out. I hate guys like that! You never know if they are just gonna lose it and attack you or something. The THINGS we have to deal with in this business....buncha overgrown toddlers. Instinct certainly is a good tool to use in this type of environment. I use it to make my decisions on who to dance for each time and so far, I haven't had any negative experiences. Whew! Good luck girls...don't let these assholes jack with your psyche.

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