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    I know you have to judge it case-by-case, but as a general rule, to you downplay your smarts at work? In the past, I acted ditzy because I felt it was expected. Lately I can't be bothered with the act, and have been experimenting with being myself more. I'm careful NEVER to come off as smarter than the customer, but if a customer is genuinely a bright guy, I go ahead and talk on his level. Seems like some guys love it and some guys would rather have a silly girl to play with. Just curious about the experiences of others...

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    I don't play dumb ever really. I am who I am that's how I act. Guys have always given me props for my smarts. I guess the way I see it is that with customers it's not about just stimulating their eyes but there minds as well. If you can work your way into both, then it puts you in a good spot. If you can impress him with your body, and mind then what is there not to love, you know? Of course if they're not the brightest person I don't make it like I'm smarter, but I don't act dumb either.

    I'm not a stupid girl, and if that's what they want then they can go find a different girl, but most guys that just want a 'silly girl' are not big spenders or future-regular material. That's in my experince anyways.

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    I cant really be bothered by the act. If I'm smarter than them(which isnt much of an accomplishment sometimes!)..they'll either deal with it or move on. So be it. That doesnt mean I wont take the language down a notch if they arent understanding me, or switch to talking football instead of Faust...but I wont pretend to be dumb either.
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    I'm obsessed with bombshells of the past like Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield. I have platinum hair and big boobs, and even am told I look like the early blonde's mentioned, as well as new bombshells like Anna Nicole. When your run of the mill average strip club patron comes in the club, souped up on booze, ready to party, he sees me and expects breathy, giggly, sex hungry, over-the-top ditzy blonde. I play it up to those who seem to be entertained by it. I usually get a feel for the customer and can read whether the bombshell or my actual quick-wit and dry humor will keep him entertained. With frat boys, bachelor parties, and nights after baseball games or sporting events the ditzy act works like a charm.

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    I think this is a great question; I can relate to your situation. I've been in college over five years, and feel that at many times I am more educated and/or well-spoken than the custy. I used to never "downplay" my conversation or intellect.

    However, I have had numerous occassions where the custy will say, "Wow, I've enjoyed talking with you so much that I feel really awkward about getting a dance from you." Sometimes, they will even say it would make them "feel bad" by getting a dance.]


    This either really works in my favor or blows up in my face, meaning, either they pay me for my time (which frequently happens, but never over fifty bucks), or, I get annoyed with myself for wasting time, then politely excuse myself. Sometimes, after taking a brief pause by leaving, they actually approach me either at the bar or walking around to get a dance. Maybe this little break gives them a chance to "see" me again as a physical/sexual female rather than one that has the ability to make them think, which in turn makes them feel weird/awkward given the environment.

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    I'm like the ditsy, but sometimes smart, dumb blonde like Elle in Legally Blonde.


    This topic came up recently at
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    I play dumb when they ask for extras and I play dumb in the dressing room. Otherwise, I just cant act dumb all the time I would get annoyed with myself.
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    I play the smart ditsy girls, like Emily, most of the time. If I can tell a guy wants something more then t and a, I can be a great conversationalist, but I don't waste my time unless they're reg. material. As the dumb girl, I make more money w/ guys who just want to be entertained that night.
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    Here is another thread that ran about the same time as Emily's on the same issue.

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=69696

    Emily, one of these days I will be in Philly, and when I stop in will you give me the whole Seven Sisters brainpower without holding back?
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    i find that if i play dumb, people are annoyed by it. most guys like my sarcasm and honest bitchiness, and find my quick wit hilarious. there are some girls that play dumb, and all they get is made fun of. not just by me, but by the guys as well.

    wow, i made myself sound like a royal pain to work with!

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    I want to make it a bit clear: There is a vast difference in my mind between playing dumb and being ditsy.

    No one wants to spend the night with the bored, dumb girl staring off into space and saying huhhhh?

    Guys generally like a girl who's ditsy. A girl who doesn't quite understand what they mean about their job, sports, golf, etc, but is enthusiastic and wants to learn. A girl who loves to entertain and dance for then, and who is cute and sweet. The ditsy girl giggles, asks questions, and makes the who night seem less about money, and more about having fun. (All while making bank!!!!)

    Some examples... of my ditsy-ness

    when a guy asks, "those are real, right" I'll say, "of course they are. They look real don't they." <giggle, giggle>

    or, he says, "so are you worried about Ernesto", "well kinda, aren't you? I'm sure we'll be okay, I just hope everyone from south florida is okay. Have you ever been to miami, it's such a fun place to go, it would be sad if it's trashed by the huricane."

    Just my 2 cents.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by casaubon1

    Emily, one of these days I will be in Philly, and when I stop in will you give me the whole Seven Sisters brainpower without holding back?
    I can't help being giggly, but I will try.

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    I am just kinda dumb and spacey. I can write a mean essay, but when it comes to daily chat, I'm on Mars half the time. So I honestly just act like my blonde self at work. I think the guys mostly dig it. They seem happy enough if you just laugh at their jokes.

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    Ditzy is a true art form. I can do it sometimes, usually if I've had a good day previous to going to work. Last Saturday, I was the total antithesis of ditzy. That would probably explain why I only made $200.
    I pride myself in being an occasional airhead, in real life too. It keeps me from going insane with seriousness.

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    The men that want dumb chicks are the ones that want her to be too stupid to say 'no' or agree to things they want to do to her.

    The men that want smart girls... are the ones that want me. Conversation, intellect, class. You get the rich guys that way.


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    It depends on the guy. But, even if I'm acting like we're holding an adult conversation about something... I STILL dumb it down. Like, in a way that I know what's going on but I'm not intimidating. Like, I met an engineer for the city today and we started discussing that stuff. I let him know that I knew what an engineer WAS and what he DID, but I acted interested in stupid stuff like... "Why do we need a bridge there? What's it foooorrr?" ::giggle::


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    The men that want dumb chicks are the ones that want her to be too stupid to say 'no' or agree to things they want to do to her.

    The men that want smart girls... are the ones that want me. Conversation, intellect, class. You get the rich guys that way.
    i definately agree with you. guys that want the dumb blonde routine (no offense to blondes-i'm pretending to be one!) often will get one MAYBE two dances all night, and would rather sit there wasting your time. wheras a guy that wants a woman with smarts is willing to sit for a bit, get a dance (often multiples) and then sit and get more dances. if he knows that you're smart enough to hold his attention, there's no need for a woman who can just sits there and giggles.

    you have to captivate their eyes AND their mind. if they can think of nothing else but you, they'll not be able to help themselves, they HAVE to get a dance.

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    i accidentally said something about university and then someone said whats a clever lady like you working here for,so its funny, i cant lie about everything! I am who i am! Multi faceted!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    The men that want dumb chicks are the ones that want her to be too stupid to say 'no' or agree to things they want to do to her.

    The men that want smart girls... are the ones that want me. Conversation, intellect, class. You get the rich guys that way.

    I mostly agree. It's my *ahem* wit and charm that keep customers in the CR all night shelling out money, but it's something else that gets them back there in the first place. I don't usually bring out the intellectual big guns till the champ is uncorked.

    The other night, though, I was sitting with a guy who works in the film industry, and asking him questions about that, because I'm genuinely interested and thinking about going back to school for RTF. He seemed kind of stiff and uncomfortable and I was having trouble putting him at ease. Another dancer he apparently already knew came over and sat down and started giggling and talking about how drunk she was, and he immediately seemed more comfortable with her. He ended up buying a few dances from me anyway, but I thought that was interesting. Definitely made me think.

    Like I said, when I first started dancing I dumbed it down A LOT. I was working in a very blue-collar bar where it didn't take much to intimidate the customers and turn them off. As I recall, I just opened my eyes really wide and giggled a lot. I seem to have lost the hang of it, though. Unless I've had a really, really good day, it's hard to be the silly party girl anymore. Meh. Maybe it'll come back to me.

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    When I can have an actual connection or conversation with the customers, I don't tone it down. Sometimes I even have long conversations about the history and merits of civilization.

    When I really don't like the guy or just have no natural connection, I do ditzy. Really ditzy, so as to entertain myself. Like,

    Him: Yeah I work in an oil field.
    Me: OMG that's so exciting! What do you do?
    Him: I extract natural gases from underground.
    Me: There's gas underground? How does it get down there?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    As I recall, I just opened my eyes really wide and giggled a lot. I seem to have lost the hang of it, though. Unless I've had a really, really good day, it's hard to be the silly party girl anymore. Meh. Maybe it'll come back to me.
    Ha, lately this has been how I've been acting. I seem to be moreso entertaining myself. It's funny cause since I'm acting all ditzy, customers are like, "wow you have the best personality" Yea...ok.







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    I can't play stupid or ditzy but I am very giggly. I dunno if that in itself is considered ditzy. My responses may sometimes make me look a lil ditzy, because I often just laugh at them when they suggest extras, outcall, etc. I can and do have intelligent convo when the situation (money) calls for it. But mostly, if they say anything at all, they comment on how smart I am, good at my work, etc. They may not think I'm the most fun girl on the block, but they sure do like my entertainment

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