Hello All,
I will try to keep this brief, but really need some advise. I am married, mid 30's. I went to a club here in Toronto with some co-workers, and became drawn to a really pretty lady. (I almost never go to clubs, but this was "boys night out".) My attraction wasn't sexual, it was really strange. I watched her for a while and she looked sweet and very feminine. It's none of my business why people get into the biz, but I knew I wanted to tap into the mystery. I initially paid for 3 dances, but talked for 1. It was being as polite as I could, and actually felt awkward having her dance. Although she was really good, she looked odd in the midst of it all. I came back a couple days later feeling awkward as it was, and paid for a few dances so we could talk. It seemed to go well, and she seemed to be more comfortable. I felt silly, but finally I told her exactly what I observed, and I could explain. Instead of running away, or getting the doorman, or laughing, she said "awwwww, that is the nicest thing anyone has said to me for a while." After a few weeks SHE asked me if I wanted to go for coffee accross from the club. We talked until nearly 5AM. My wife is good about not yelling too much, and trusts me since I am not out late without reason or alibies.
She has since told me lots about her, her son, her life, and likewise. We have developed a really good friendship. She knows I am married, there has been no physical contact except the hello-good-bye hugs, and pecks. The dilema is...
She recently told me I am "The safest place she has ever been." In a conversation, she told me she "is glad she can confide in me", and said I am someone she looks forward to seeing, because I am like "an island" to her.
I really care for her, and am honoured she trusts me, and I am super good at keeping secrets (I could bring down KINGDOMS with what I know heeheehee), and I honestly feel the same about her. How do I protect her? How can I keep her safe as well as her feelings? We have lots in common, but she knows I am happily married. I am tough enough because of my own past to detach my feelings if need be, but I am worried about her. She's like a little Bambi to me and I feel I am getting to care too much and vice-versa.
Any advise???????



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