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    Ok this isn't a huge deal but it does kinda annoy me because this girl was/is a great dancer and she was also just very fun to talk to as well, lets call her J. I have been going to this particular club for about 8 months now and J in particular always has my interest...I guess ya'll would call me one of her "regulars." Well for about 6 or 7 months she was really the only girl I personally bought dances from (my friends would buy me dances from other girls) because I really liked her style and she was overall just very pleasant. Well about a month ago I went to the club for the first time in quite awhile and to my surprise a girl that I knew ALL throughout middle and high school was dancing on stage as soon as I walked in. I was blown away.

    So after she sees me she comes over to talk and we end up talking for a LONG time because we were always good friends in school. Incidentally, I find out that some how this girl and J dont really like each other, because during a break in conversation, J sees me and comes to sit on my lap and chat, well my friend turns back to me and now sees her on my lap so she is like "whatever" and just jets...I dont see her again that night. Not knowing what is going on I start to tell J how this girl was always a friend of mine and that it was so insane to see her dancing here. Well she starts to get this bitchy attitude and is like "Well thats a shame, guys like you shouldnt waste your time on girls like her."

    WTF? I tried to pry in to the matter but she wouldnt say much, and I tried to defend my friend because although I like J alot it gives her no right to talk badly about my friend, so I stand up for her and all that jazz but at this point Js not hearing it and just goes on to make her money. Now I have no problem with that, after all thats what shes there to do, but ever since then J wont even give me the time of day. But at the same time its like I dont think its serious enough to just approach her about it. I called my friend early that morning and all she would say was that they had gotten in to an "argument." So now the girl that really made my week on Saturday night wont look my way and my friend wont tell what the hell the deal is.

    What should I do? Just forget about her? Sorry for the long ass post but Im really bored and also new here so I kinda got carried away typing this...

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    Default Re: Girl wont dance for me anymore...

    Continue to have your club relationship with J BUT at some point I'd pull the girl from grade school to the side and explain to her what's going on. So, is the grade school girl someone you want to buy dances from too, or just hang out with otc??







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    It's too bad that J has to act like that. Find out what exactly the beef is between them. I mean, if J was that inconsiderate...to not listen to you then she must not be THAT interesting. But maybe your friend is an ass hole too. -Ya never know. The way I see it...if you can't keep an open mind in this business then you don't belong in it. Sounds like both the girls need to grow up and get their head outta their ass. -Just my opinion.
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    Well see what Im saying is that J wont really talk to me anymore. Not that I have gone out of my way to approach her more than once, but the one time I did talk to her she just replied "I have people waiting." Which by the way has gotta be one of the most used excuses for not dancing for a guy. And my friend from school, well she lives about 2 hours away from here and I havent seen her at the club since this particular incident. I have talked to her on the phone several times since then but I never brought it up because I feel like its kinda of an asshole move to talk about it when we have so much other stuff to conversate about.

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    Quote Originally Posted by showmethemoney
    It's too bad that J has to act like that. Find out what exactly the beef is between them. I mean, if J was that inconsiderate...to not listen to you then she must not be THAT interesting. But maybe your friend is an ass hole too. -Ya never know. The way I see it...if you can't keep an open mind in this business then you don't belong in it. Sounds like both the girls need to grow up and get their head outta their ass. -Just my opinion.
    There's many strippers in the sea PBJ. hehe.
    This is exactly what Im sayin man but its like girls/women are different around guys. Especially when it involves money. I bet J takes my friend working there as a threat to her easy money and that only fuels the fire. But where did the fire come from? I wish I knew. Also, if I were in Js position, I would just dance for me anyways and maybe make my friend jealous, you know, maybe give me some special attention in front of her...haha. Kinda kidding, not really.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PBJ
    This is exactly what Im sayin man but its like girls/women are different around guys. Especially when it involves money. I bet J takes my friend working there as a threat to her easy money and that only fuels the fire. But where did the fire come from? I wish I knew. Also, if I were in Js position, I would just dance for me anyways and maybe make my friend jealous, you know, maybe give me some special attention in front of her...haha. Kinda kidding, not really.
    Where is the fire coming from? The woman is dependent on the whims of a man for her rent, food, utilities, etc. If your old friend starts taking in the doe, then she has to go find another man for her milk money.

    I don't think you want to make your friend jealous. I wouldn't want to do that to my friends.

    In fact, if there is the possibility of that friendship continuing - I would duck out of the club or at least not go while she is there. I know if I saw my lady friends naked - oh man - that would be torture. Sometimes for different reasons but all around - it would be torture. Nothing worse than being naked friends with someone - but ya got to keep your clothes on.

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    No telling what the problem is between those two, but trust me, you should not care and most likely don't wanna know. It could be something as stupid and petty as a past disagreement over a customer / DJ / song / outfit, etc, or it could have to do with a man/woman/relationship issue, or anything in between. Maybe one caught the other doing a BJ in the vip. Who knows? Whatever it is, you should just chalk it up to dancer stupidity and move on to the next. Never get so attached to a stripper that you can't enjoy another stripper's company in the club. I am quite sure there's another girl in the club who will happily entertain you, and who will readily make your heart go pitter patter

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    She'll be back when she needs the money. If you like her dances, get some. If her attitude has left a sour taste, as it would for me, get dances from someone else.

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    PBJ, you act clueless about what is going on, but how much do you run your mouth when you've had a few drinks? I've known a lot of guys who babble about people's personal lives that is really none of their business sharing. If J and your friend are combatant with one another, the possibility of you sharing one of J's vulnerabilities with your friend is enough to send J packing. There are always other customers.

    I'd say start searching for a new fav.


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    Dude, stay out of it. It doesn't concern you, and it could be as simple as one or both of them is territorial about her customers. You go to strip clubs to goof off, not in get involved with stripper drama. Just go and goof off, and do your best to not know about any of this peripheral shit. If you really want her to dance for you again, just ask her. If she really, really doesn't want to (and it would take something pretty serious for me to turn down your money, but she could be in a position to be uber-picky), then find someone else.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    PBJ, you act clueless about what is going on, but how much do you run your mouth when you've had a few drinks? I've known a lot of guys who babble about people's personal lives that is really none of their business sharing. If J and your friend are combatant with one another, the possibility of you sharing one of J's vulnerabilities with your friend is enough to send J packing. There are always other customers.

    I'd say start searching for a new fav.
    Im not old enough to drink in public nor is this a club at which you can drink, its not like I know anything about J to the point where I could say anything bad about her, nor would I.

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    Probably J decided to cut you off as a regular because she doesn't want drama to interfer with her work. J and your friend don't get along, you don't know why and we'll probably never know why. It could be over somthing silly or it could be something serious. Maybe your friend isn't the sweet girl you remember from school anymore. All we really know is that J doesn't like your friend.

    You and the other girl are "friends", sounds like you made that pretty clear to J. J may have decided that keeping things up with you would just result in unnecessary headaches for her so she dropped ya.

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    Simply get over it,dont let this stuff affect you in a negative way.

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    The issue isn't the friction between them, it's why she's not talking to you. For one thing, it demonstrates that she doesn't particularly value you, so while you're getting some social satisfaction out of conversation and enjoying her company during dances, to her, you're just some guy she knows from work.

    If you're okay with that dynamic, then the first thing to do is quit worrying about her interactions with your friend. You're not important enough to her to change her mind, so you might as well disregard the whole subject.

    The second thing is to approach her directly, tell her that you don't need her to like your friends to buy dances from her and then ask her to dance for you. If she blows you off again, then it's time to let her go.

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