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    Hi,

    So most of the girls at the club are really friendly, nice, and wouldn't go out of their way to jack you steal customers etc... But everyone I've spoken to in my month I've been at the club has said 'well not everyone is nice' glancing over at the same group of dancers and each with some other comment....Gulp! I haven't ever spoken to any of them and had no reason to lock horns. (BTW, these girls do extras, everyone knows it and that's why they can make a call and bank 1000 on a dead night!)

    But last night was such a dead night they were all sat in a group of 5 next to the stage while i was on instead of hidden away out of sight all night! Only been doing this a month and am rubbish on stage, but having them all laughing smiling and critiquing how crap I was didn't do much for my confidence and I found it really hard to ignore them being there, which made me feel bullied and little. And I hated it!!

    So now I just feel like they've been built into monsters for me and I keep expecting something to happen! Has it been blown out of proportion or...??

    What tactics do you use on bitchy girls or how do you just ignore them???

    Just had to get that out.. Need to go to a boxing class or something today to get my courage back and knock a tooth out!

    Love Mina

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    don't know about you, but that sort've thing actually makes me stronger. It's so hilarious how ridiculous some girls are. They are giving YOU the power by even acknowledging you in the first place, and obviously they are jealous because of how they are treating you. Insecure, immature, jealous girls ALWAYS do those sorts of things. If things get out of hand speak with your manager otherwise just take it as a compliment and ignore them.

    P.S. working out and/or kickboxing IS a great way to take out your agressions, you should try it!

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    It's good to not sit in a group. Instead of hiding away from the other girls, find a lonely customer to sit and shoot the breeze with.







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    I try to keep myself as busy as possible. That way, I don't have time to waste on petty bullshit.

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    Yep...i work alone, and i ignore any bitchiness. Unless it is directly in my face....in which case i become very direct in response. But i go to work to work... not to make friends and/or enemies. When your in a competitive environment...both are a hinderance.
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    Agreed with the ^^^^^^^ posts. The girls who are mocking you and being b****y are really hurting themselves more than they are hurting you. They would rather act like a bunch of junior high brats, focusing on you and making fun of you instead of getting off their booties and working. I have worked with girls like this in and out of clubs. To be honest with you most of them have really f-ed up lives (mostly by their own fault for stupid s*** they have done) and they need to feel better about their pathetic lives by taking cheap shots at others.

    Focus on the customers and not the dumb hoes. Also always hold onto your money and have it on you at all times.
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    This is slightly off topic, but I'd say, try to stay out of the "social life" of the club as much as possible. I know when you're new it might seem like making friends with other dancers will make you feel more secure, but in the end it probably won't. Best case scenario, you get sucked into sitting around with your friends when you should be working. Worst case scenario, you get pulled into some kind of stupid drama. Be polite to everyone, but don't give a shit what other dancers say or do. You're there to make money, not friends. Unless you think these girls are going to physicall attack you, it doesn't really matter what they think, does it?

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    I have found in my experience the best thing to do is to stay away from any drama with the other girls. Do not ever talk bad about anyone and keep to yourself. Even when you are tempted to get involved in the drama. Try to remember that you are at work and stay focused on making money. I agree that it is better to find a lonely customer to sit with and chat rather than sitting with a group of girls. Every club has their share of rude, mean drama filled girls.

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    Anytime a group of girls end up together this seems to happen, in the SC, and in the world in general. When reading this I was actually thinking of two girls that used to work at a restaurant I worked at that acted exactly like this. Some girls just can't handle being jealous of another girl so they act like this. Just ignore them and work on getting better on your stage sets (I"m sure you aren't as bad as you think) and just smile at them and go on about your day.

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    Hey!!

    I dunno if this advice is still needed - it was posted a month ago. However , I went through EXACTLY the same thingg when I first started and all I can say is that this group of girls obviously dont like the feeling that they are threatened by a new girl. If this wasn't the case then why deliberately make someone feel uncomfortable?
    Make this THEIR issue, not yours. The more you let them see that they're getting to you, the more they will feel empowered. Screw the lot of them. Kill them with kindness - if your ultra nice to them it will leave them feeling more than a little uneasy.

    At the end of the day they must all be very insecure people and are trying to make you feel the same to make themsilves feel better.

    Keep your head down and be nice - but always keep people guessing. It's always a good idea to not divulge too much about yourself too soon.

    Good luck xox

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