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    Without being sarcastic or sexual, what's the best thing a dancer can say to you (in general conversation)? Is it a compliment on your style? Repeating your name over again? Is it how she loves spending time with you?

    Also, what is the one memorable thing (nonsexual) that a dancer has said to you in the past?

    Your favourite one-liners? Favourite compliments?


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    i have a couple who always compliment me about something evertime i see them & its not the same compliment every time.
    the most merorable one was also funny & from a girl i didn't know, never saw again & wasn't even my type. this drunk black girl comes up & says you remind me of that song by prince "you sexy motherfucker"

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    i'm not a custy but i know guys like when i tell them they smell good

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    I'm not sure there's any one thing I "want" to hear - but sincerity in a compliment (or at the least, very-well-feigned sincerity ) goes a long way, I think.

    Some of my favorites that I've heard:
    • "You have really beautiful eyes, I could get lost in them!"
    • "You smell really nice, what are you wearing?"
    • There was one dancer I met who told me that she found me really attractive ( ... which I just laughed off), and so on. She insisted she meant it and then looked me in the eyes and said something like "Wow, you have no idea, do you? That makes you even more attractive!" I'm still not sure how much of that was SS ... but it was convincing, at any rate

    And then there was the time a dancer told me I had really nice teeth ... To which I was like ... "umm, thanks?" (Seemed kind of random to me.)

    /shrug ... mostly, anything that is said with sincerity is what does it for me. And while those moments may not always last very long in the SC environment, they do exist, and when they do turn up, it's always a nice thing, IMO.

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    Nice teeth are sexy, it implies you take care of yourself. Lot's of guys (and girls) have really fucked up teeth. I have a major thing about that, so it might not have been random. I've been known to say such things, it would be a major compliment from me... but this is about what the custies like to hear, so.... back to the topic......

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    All compliments are generally very kind.

    I have always had a hard time taking compliments about my physical appearance. I don't want to seem shallow, like I care that much, so I usually hesitate on the "thank you" and reciprocal compliment - so I feel like a boob.

    Good conversations are those which are about things outside the club which are somewhat personal, but not really.

    Example: Favorite places to vacation. Most interesting musuem you've been to and why. What are your favorite types of people - also food - how you prepare it, what silly things you like, etc. What do you like about yourself the most.

    Unfortunately for the girls, most of the best conversations I've had didn't end up in any dances. After a while, we both realized that after enjoying the conversation so much, a dance would sort of ruin the experience, so one of us needed to bring us both to the reality of the moment and get her back to her hustle.

    The most memorable conversation? Why certain types of people don't seem to get along or don't like each other. As I type the description, it doesn't seem all that interesting, but it was the most engaging convo I've had - we both seemed to click instantly.


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    Remembering my name goes a long way to getting more money out of me.

    Also, a thank you and a smile after I tip at the stage goes a long way to obtaining PDs later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by azcustomer
    Unfortunately for the girls, most of the best conversations I've had didn't end up in any dances. After a while, we both realized that after enjoying the conversation so much, a dance would sort of ruin the experience, so one of us needed to bring us both to the reality of the moment and get her back to her hustle.
    I guarantee the convo didn't ruin dances for her. LOL They probably wish you would buy dancs after she has spent so much time talking/hustling. Next time, if the convo has somehow ruined the dance experience for you, understand that she is there to make money and give her a little something for her time at least.

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    Quote Originally Posted by azcustomer
    Unfortunately for the girls, most of the best conversations I've had didn't end up in any dances. After a while, we both realized that after enjoying the conversation so much, a dance would sort of ruin the experience, so one of us needed to bring us both to the reality of the moment and get her back to her hustle.
    And I bet you said "Don't let me stop you from making money. I understand that is what you are here for."
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    "You have beautiful eyes", that's what I hear a lot. What isn't that good is saying I'm "Man-pretty".

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex
    I guarantee the convo didn't ruin dances for her. LOL They probably wish you would buy dancs after she has spent so much time talking/hustling. Next time, if the convo has somehow ruined the dance experience for you, understand that she is there to make money and give her a little something for her time at least.
    Seriously. Dances or not, she showed you a good time (which is what you went for) and deserves compensation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Without being sarcastic or sexual, what's the best thing a dancer can say to you (in general conversation)?
    A creative question which is not directly personal, yet still reveals a lot about a person's psyche.
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Is it a compliment on your style?
    Nope, my style is random, but I'm sure this works with the obvious Modernists (2000's version of the yuppies). They make up about 40% of the population and roughly 2/3 of the targeted SC audience, so go with it.
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Repeating your name over again?
    Be careful not to say my name too much if I've forgotten your clearly fake one. What's in a name? Besides, if you're going to sell the fantasy, you're much more interested in his body, his penis, his smell, to ever remember his name. Unlike some women, most men really enjoy being objectified.
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Is it how she loves spending time with you?
    RED FLAG: Stripper Shit. Another way is to lament on how slow and boring all the other customers are and then move the convo on to something we can talk about together (again, not directly personal)
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Also, what is the one memorable thing (nonsexual) that a dancer has said to you in the past?
    None of my favorites led to dances, but here goes:
    "You're tall, I like that... we should go out dancing sometime."
    or...
    "Let's talk about the history of musical influences on modern rock bands." (Clearly, wayyyy too involved to lead to any dances, and she'd changed out of costume by that time)

    What led to dances?
    {leaning in with foreheads touching, a knee pressed against my chest, a shoe in my crotch}
    "I really want to dance for you... You AREN'T going to say 'NO', are you?"
    or...
    "I'm tired of talking, either take me home, or take me to VIP."
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Your favourite one-liners? Favourite compliments?
    When the conversation migrates to my yoga regimine:
    "I love doing yoga at home all the time.... Of course in private, I ALWAYS do it in the nude."
    I spit out part of my drink laughing.
    Favorite compliment?
    "Are you ever mean to ANYONE?"
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    If you pick out a special trait about a guy, and point out to him how you love that particular part of his presence or it is something you can classify him by ,that works very well.

    For instance I have red hair and I'm kinda young...so my favorite girl in the club will always come up behind me and hug me very firmly and smell my hair and say "oh my favorite red headed boy." Sounds small but it is very cool for me. Theres nothing like being remembered by a beautiful woman, whether its whole-hearted or just for the money, it doesnt matter to me...I know what Im there to believe.

    Compliments on smell go a long way with me, also (sorry to sound self-centered) I love a girl who notices my vocabulary. I was raised to have a very broad vocab. My mom always told me that of all the things that I may learn in life, my patterns of speech and conversation skills would always be the most important.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Without being sarcastic or sexual, what's the best thing a dancer can say to you (in general conversation)? Is it a compliment on your style? Repeating your name over again? Is it how she loves spending time with you?
    Intelligence, eye contact, sense of humor, presence, flirtiness, willingness to trust, raw sexuality, lack of inhibitions, freakiness quotient. Intelligence. Diamond-sharp brilliance. Unpredictability. Heartbreaking literary creativity. Emotional honesty. As comfortable in Borders as fully nude on stage. (OK, maybe more comfortable fully nude on stage.)

    Trust: leaves drinks, cash and purses with me. When cold, I drape my coat over her shoulders and she leaves and walks around with it (yep, it has all my cash, credit cards and ID). Never had a problem.

    As to the best thing a dancer has ever said to me, there is no contest. Of course, there is nothing in all of God's creation that even remotely compares to her, but you did ask:

    To a man who’s got it all: a brilliant mind, a brave heart, an astounding generosity of spirit, and just the right synergy of dark obsession, honest curiosity, and genuine kindness.…(plus a perfect dick…the maddest carnal skillz I’ve ever known…and me as his very own nasty little fucktoy.) ……….

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    On a side note, The Other Owner sounds like someone I would get along with very well. I love an articulate customer, someone I can be myself around, and I will not be afraid to tell him so.
    I would think that might be a bigger compliment than discussing the size of their penis or their scent, but I suppose it all depends on the level of comfort you have with each other. To be able to wander around the club wearing someone else's jacket which contains their personal effects and money is a true sign of trust. And I believe trust is the biggest aphrodisiac.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex
    On a side note, The Other Owner sounds like someone I would get along with very well. I love an articulate customer, someone I can be myself around, and I will not be afraid to tell him so.
    I agree 100%. It rare I meet a customer that wants to(and actually CAN) talk about something OTHER then what he wants to do to me later...If a guy can discuss film, literature, music, politics, etc..etc...etc... HUGE aphrodisiac.
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    as far as compliments go...

    try and find something about the customer that you can genuniely say something about. his eyes maybe. telling an overweight guy that he has a sexy body will likely just make him feel akward. people know how they look, and they know when you're bullshitting. that kind of thing can backfire really quick.

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    "You're tall, I like that... we should go out dancing sometime."

    "I'm tired of talking, either take me home, or take me to VIP."

    This is exactly the kind of stuff I would never say. I'd for sure be taken seriously and get asked for my phone number and not get a dance. Is this the kind of stuff I should be saying? Does this really work for other girls, without unfortunate consequences?

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhiteTara
    "You're tall, I like that... we should go out dancing sometime."

    "I'm tired of talking, either take me home, or take me to VIP."

    This is exactly the kind of stuff I would never say. I'd for sure be taken seriously and get asked for my phone number and not get a dance. Is this the kind of stuff I should be saying? Does this really work for other girls, without unfortunate consequences?
    I agree...around here that would only get them to pester me to see them OTC. And when they ask...what do you say "sorry...just kidding..."?? I would think that would make them LESS likely to spend $$ on you. OR maybe in other areas guys dont try so hard to get dancers to go OTC....?
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    Thank you to whoever cleaned this thread.


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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Thank you to whoever cleaned this thread.
    Not quite. The unsolicited criticisms of my original post are still there. My initial response was not at all personal, just defending myself.

    Of course, if we want to live in a world where you're not allowed to stand up for yourself...


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    I'm gald you came in tonight, I was just thinking of you today.

    Thanks for coming in to play with me tonight, it was fun.

    To another dancer: This is my friend (insert name here), he's a cool guy.

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    I'd have say that being told I'm a nice guy would rank up there as one of the biggest compliments I could get. I don't really consider myself to be good looking so saying something like that I'm likely going to call bs (or ss) on. Something that you can convince me is genuine would be a good thing to me. Haven't had the above, but, being introduced to another dancer friend of hers at the club and saying he is a good guy or whatever I would find to be a huge compliment as well.

    Being remembered (name for me is a plus) and recognized during a future trip and coming over to say hello I like as well. That one was a very pleasant surprise.
    Be nice or leave.

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    Wow, are you an actor? I thought I saw you in a commercial.
    Translation: Does the Viagra work for assholes as old as you?

    You look like you were successful. Tell me how you did it?
    Translation: I love hearing has been stories.

    Umm, what's that cologne your wearing? I can't identify it.
    Translation: If you learn to wipe your ass, you won't smell like skid marks.

    So, does your friend want a dance? I think he's lonely.
    Translation: It's really rude to watch me giving a lap dance and jacking off while he watches.

    I bet you're from out of town and looking for a good time.
    Translation: They've kicked you out of every club in your own town because you're a stalker.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Without being sarcastic or sexual, what's the best thing a dancer can say to you (in general conversation)?
    Some dancers just come on very strong and sexy, and that can work very effectively (and efficiently, in terms of time). Not a lot of conversation needed for that approach.

    I assume this question goes to selling connection and conversation, which also works well, but is different.

    Overall approach is the issue for me. She focuses her attention on the conversation (not looking at her buddies or the customer who just walked in) makes frequent eye contact, listens, thinks, says something interesting and funny, touches once in a while both to make point and show she is comfortable being physically close.

    [/QUOTE] Is it a compliment on your style? [/QUOTE]

    Nope. Neither stylish enough to make this credible, nor needy enough to accept it anyway.

    [/QUOTE] Repeating your name over again? [/QUOTE]

    This is good in moderation -- especially when it signals some intimacy, e.g., leaning in and saying "Now, Cas, tell me . . ."

    [/QUOTE] Is it how she loves spending time with you?[/QUOTE]

    Only if it is true or a really convincing lie.

    [/QUOTE]Also, what is the one memorable thing (nonsexual) that a dancer has said to you in the past?[/QUOTE]

    A bunch of these -- there are some fascinating women who dance. One was a conversation with a very experienced dancer about her career -- how she had saved and invested, raised children while working nights, started a business with her savings and was transitioning into that. Not a sob story at all -- just the opposite -- a determined woman who used her gifts to do well. It made her more attractive -- just like you want to work with a successful doctor or lawyer.

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