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    Default Controlling the drunk ones

    Ok, so the other night I had a drunk guy that I was hustling for a dance. I took the "dominant" approach to get him into the friction room full well knowing he would be grabby (he and his friend had already been trying to get extras out of me, I am not an extras girl).

    So when I started to dance and he got grabby I got a little rough and pinned his arms down to keep him under control. This worked well for the first part of the song, but then he got out of hand and it backfired...he ended up trying to insert his finger into my butt.

    Naturally I was mad as hell...but when things like that happens and it is busy, I just brush it off, grab my money and move on because I don't want to waste my time. But it was uber slow, so I went over and got the bouncer so he could deal with the guy.

    Afterwards I was feeling guilty for getting the bouncer because I full well knew the risk I was taking with the grabby guy.

    I have found that a lot of aggressive guys like to be controlled or dominated, but when they are drunk, you walk a fine line. Does anyone else ever try this line of tactics? I'd love to hear ideas on this topic.

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    uuhhgg i did the same stupid ass thing friday (no offense). i -knew- it was going to be bad, and it was. i don't really have any advice as far as "controlling them". i'm just going to stop trying to dance for those kinds of guys anymore. i know i won't make as much, but it's starting to get to me. even if you get your money up front and stop the dance after an offense occurs... it's already too late. you know?

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    Sometimes it's not worth the money.

    He basically paid you $20 (?) to have nightmares about him for a few days.

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    I agree you took a risk going back with someone you knew was going to be trouble...but that doesnt excuse what he did. He still deserved to be thrown out(at least I hope the bouncer threw him out).

    Look at it this way...maybe you saved a younger, more naive dancer who coudnt control him at ALL from having him do something worse to her.

    Depends on the day and my mood...sometimes I'm up to dealing with guys like this, sometimes I'm not. I'll use the pinning-his-arms-down tactic too, or keep one knee firmly in his crotch ready to take aim...or I'll tell the bouncer that I expect this guy to be trouble and have them keep an eye on us. That way he is there as SOON as the trouble starts.
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    Thanks ladies for the feedback. I am laughing to myself because this guy was literally half my height and when we were walking to the friction, I was totally thinking, "Psssht, I could take him."

    Live and learn.

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    Yah, If A Guy Tried To Stick His Finger In My But (being A Virgin There Anyway) I Probably Would've Slapped Him

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    Default Re: Controlling the drunk ones

    i don't bother with the belligerently drunk guys...especially since there's no set dance price at my club, so i could easily end up spending three and half minutes in hell for a lousy dollar. so not worth it...

    and don't feel bad about getting the bouncer. guys like that need to be kicked out, no matter what.

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    hmm...sometimes i would take on a "commanding" tone if a guy tried to get grabby, hoping he would think of it as part of a game. another tactic would be to say sweetly, "if you are naughty like that again, i'm going to 'accidentally' spill that drink on your lap," pointing to my drink, which would be placed close by. then again, getting a bouncer was usually easier, or just walking away. sometimes it's just not worth the trouble to deal with these types of guys in the first place.
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    I hate those assholes. Friday I had a guy who was not even drunk take his penis out and rub it on my boobs. It took me a second to realize why his pants felt as smooth as skin, then I looked down and slapped it as hard as I could.
    Or there are other guys who sneakily take their dick out when your back is turned so that when you sit on his lap, there it is....
    FUKKIN GROSS!
    Do these guys think it's fun to try and rape us or something? I really hope that bouncer kicked him out.

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    urgh...I think I've lost track at the amount of times I've sat down and didn't feel pants, or felt the beginnings of a finger! It's absolutely horrible and violating! If I know a guy is going to be trouble and for whatever reason I chose to dance for him, I always tell the bouncer he might be trouble so to keep an eye out, and I never turn my back on him. I focus on other stuff. Usually, though I try to avoid it. The 20 bucks I'm going to get is not worth the way I am going to feel afterwards. I can do without.

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    I've tied them up before with my panties. Then the guy started chasing me with his tongue! So I put a sock in his mouth. After half an hour, the hostess asked him if he'd like to extend and he did! He thought I was being sexual. Oh well. He couldn't do anything after that.


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    I keep a whip in my locker.

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    Depends on the kind of night I am having whether I will dance for these guys or not, but if I am having a bad night and can't afford to pass up the money, I will do what I think of as "defensive dancing" -- moves intended to keep my vital parts out of reach of his tongue, hands, whatever:

    1. Putting hands on his shoulders and leaning my weight heavily on him as I lean over. I'm a tall girl, so I can use my weight to more or less pin someone in place so they can't lunge forward and bite/lick me. Not sure how this would work for a smaller girl.

    2. Grabbing their hair to keep their head in place. Basically, get him by the short hairs and pull his head back if he tries kiss or lick you. A lot of guys interperet this as sexual, even if you hurt them a little bit.

    3. Grab their hands if they are touching you. Hold their hands while you dance in front of them. If you grind, pin their hands to their knees while you have your back to them.

    4. Put your knee against their shoulder and press them back against their chair.

    5. Grab their hands and pin them over their heads or out to the sides.


    Some guys DO NOT get the hint, so you have to dance like this the whole time, more or less. Weirdly, some guys will buy multiple dances when you are dancing like this...maybe they like the "game"?

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    Next time stay in the public area because the drunks ones are too unpredictable.

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    I stay away from tables where the guys are obviously drunk unless they are just getting rounds of table dances.

    Purposely avoided a table tonight with 3 drunk guys, later in the VIP room I saw one of them getting very grabby with a girl. Glad I stayed away.

    If it's a very slow night, I'll talk to everyone. Otherwise, it's not worth it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    I've tied them up before with my panties. Then the guy started chasing me with his tongue! So I put a sock in his mouth. After half an hour, the hostess asked him if he'd like to extend and he did! He thought I was being sexual. Oh well. He couldn't do anything after that.
    haha yikes! your sock? or his?

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