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    I was looking through my guys phone and i saw something that i didnt wanna see. I was bein an ass all day, not telling him why because I didnt wanna tell him I looked at his phone while he was sleeping. For 3 whole days, I gave him the silent treatment and just was a bitch and he had no idea why.
    So, for in the future, if i snoop...which i will cuz im nosy..... do i admit to it if i see something that might suggest cheating or something else that i dont like?

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    Basically., you just dont snoop. Ive accidently stumbled on shit before. and I always hold off before saying something till i've completely made sure im not blowing shit out of proportion.

    But snooping..Not good. You shouldnt be doing it period.

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    and 'NEVER reveal your sources' if you do.

    blame PMS for making you psycho and psychic!

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    Why be with a guy you don't trust?

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    What did you find? Don't admit to the snooping unless you actually found out something really bad. If you're just pissed he was talking to his ex... keep your lips zipped and don't do it anymore!
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    Snooping is not really a good thing. Besides everyone should be with someone they trust and not have to snoop in the first place.

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    There's two ways of looking at this too. I couldn't care less if my wife looked through all my phone records, checked my emails, etc. She's welcome to do it any time she wants because I know that for mutual trust to exist, it works both ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DancerWealth
    There's two ways of looking at this too. I couldn't care less if my wife looked through all my phone records, checked my emails, etc. She's welcome to do it any time she wants because I know that for mutual trust to exist, it works both ways.
    Well said.

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    I agree with DW as well. That being said, though...if I were to find out my wife WAS going through all my stuff, I would certainly want to know why. I'd probably be quite offended, too. It's not that there's anything there I particularly care she sees, but there is a certain illusion of privacy to such things. The fact that you're snooping, to me, seems like you're looking for drama. And it appears you found it.
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    It was a pic of some girl lifting her shirt, he was pretty close to her and she was laying down,it looked like. it was Saturday night, when he was out till 6am, and i got home at 4am after work. he deleted it though, so i guess it wasnt important, but still, it was there. im gonna look again this weekend.....i cant help it. its not a big deal, we're not super serious, but i dunno. this isnt a big deal at all....just wondering what u guys would do. i dont care if he looks in my phone or snoops, everybody does it sometimes...even if u say u dont. im curious i guess. alright. thats all. thx

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    My boyfriend looks through my emails, I look through his, he reads my entries on things and my cell phone. Why? Because I trust the relationship enough to know I did NOTHING wrong and he couldn't find shit on me. He feels the same. If someone gets butthurt over you looking at their stuff (c'mon, curiosity) then they're hiding something.


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    so if he comes home late this weekend (when I BOUGHT HIS DRINK AT THE CLUB so he can come home and be his freaky drunk self with ME! lol) then ill look at his phone. if i see something i dont like, im through with him.
    and ill blame it on curiosity.

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    I have to admit something here ....nobody flame me though .... I am addicted to snooping. I can't help it. I don't do it to people out of not trusting them.....I just can't help myself. It started back in the day with an ex b/c of trust issues, but I've been addicted ever since.

    Anywho .... if you say anything, do NOT reveal your sources, and don't even bother making up a lie.

    If it were me, I would just say "Who was the girl you were with on Saturday"
    Him: "What are you talking about?"
    Me: "Don't play stupid with me"
    Him: "Who told you I was with a girl?"
    Me: "Don't worry about who told me what ....I know you were with someone else and I'm not tolerating it" (or whatever the situation ends up being, but that's about how it would go for me)

    But NEVER reveal sources, whether they are from snooping, or someone telling you something, b/c if you stay with him, he will always make sure to delete things, etc and you'll never catch him with anything else to use against him.






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    Hello Kitty.....good idea

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    Teehee. I am a huge snoop too. The way I look at it, if he won't tell me, then I REALLY need to know. I can't help it. I am not going to be the fool.
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    just a thought... coming home any time between the witching hour (4am) and 6am when a guy has been out alone means trouble.

    applies to girls too. usually the clubs are closed, so the only thing you can be doing is getting up to mischief.

    i was a big time cheater for ages, that is why i think this way. there is no way in hell that he's innocent. he deleted it so he didn't get busted.

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    lol, isn't this the same chick that had her boyfriend steal her car? how gullible are you people? keep feading!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    Why be with a guy you don't trust?
    ditto, but on the other hand ...YOU JUST WANT TO KNOW!

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    yea im the same chick and i also had him locked up and he's headed to prison. he fooled me and i let a few things go that i shouldnt have.
    this time im looking at little things and thinking about it and not letting him get in as close as Shawn was. like I said, if i see one more thing thats not right, he's gone. he's a good guy.....nothing like shawn...... but theres always little things, like this. might be nothing at all, might be something.
    thx guys.

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    Oh, good ...this isn't the same guy? For a minute there, I thought it was. Either way, I can completely understand the snooping. I'm not one to judge, b/c like I said, I'm addicted to snooping. Good luck. Definitely don't let him walk all over you or anything. :-)






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    If he is such a good guy why isn't he into helping you more with your pregnancy? You have another thread about you pregancy and your bills. He should be taking you to doctors appointments, helping you with food, and with your bills during your pregnancy. Is this guy the baby's daddy? Does he have a steady job and contribute to the relationship?
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    oh its a different guy. well atleast you've learned from past mistakes. thats good. congrats on having excellent taste. who wants in on the pool as to when the kid will first land in the pen? we'll do it in half years. im blocking off 14.5 to 15 years old.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son
    congrats on having excellent taste. who wants in on the pool as to when the kid will first land in the pen? we'll do it in half years. im blocking off 14.5 to 15 years old.
    Uh ....that is so mean!


    To StripperMBA, I believe this would be a different guy than the sperm donor. Xiomara, correct me if I am wrong, but Shawn is the father, right?






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    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son
    oh its a different guy. well atleast you've learned from past mistakes. thats good. congrats on having excellent taste. who wants in on the pool as to when the kid will first land in the pen? we'll do it in half years. im blocking off 14.5 to 15 years old.

    That was stupid and uncalled for why don't you stop wasting your time with me if you want to act like that and u dont know me so dont judge me.
    and Shawn is the father, but he's locked up and i dont plan on bringing him in my babys life ever. the guy im with is VERY helpful and very supportive of me.

    this thread is getting off topic and not titled "insult me"

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    ^^^
    Honey...maybe you need a cold hard version of the truth. If everyone here has handed out kushy words of advice to you before..and it hasn't really improved your life situation. Maybe you need to hear it this way.
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